How are you doing? - Kiwi Farms Wellness Check

Betonhaus said:
Generally i don't expect to find a job until January or shortly after, as most companies hold on hiring during the winter months. I think next year should be a lot better, but we still have to get through this year.
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Wife and I are in the same boat.

For me work has been sort of turbulent the past 3 years, but in short I've essentially made the same salary ($100k/yr) the past 3 years w/o a promotion. It's a good salary I know, but with inflation I'm technically making less than when I started, and due to some highs and lows I missed promotion last year, but in contrast this year I got on a gig with a much better/higher title (think lead engineer type for context), so essentially I'm being underpaid $30-50k for the position I'm in, and the way my company works there's really nothing I can do about it. Best case scenario is I'm slated for promotion in the coming months and I might get a $10k raise. It just puts me in a position where I'm uncomfortably aware of the need to get another job in order to progress, but as it stands the industry job market just isn't good enough, and even if I did find something else, I don't know how much I could trust the job not being downsized or let go for whatever reason.

In my wife's case she is just ready to move on to the next step in her career. Doesn't like the people she works with that much, and the upper pay scale for her current position isn't where she wants it to be, so we're trying to move her into something more advanced, but again, the market just isn't in a spot that we can trust, and companies just aren't hiring as freely.
 
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I did have a job interview today which seems promising. If I get it I'd be replacing the one machinist who was there for like 45 years or something, just making variations of the same parts forever. I can't say I'm opposed to something that consistent. I would've loved the contract job where I have super intense work half the year and have the other half of the year off, but that may not turn out to be stable work.
 
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Just going through the motions of meal prep, as I'm hosting a dinner tomorrow.

Turkey is chilling out with butter and aromatics in the fridge, my bread is on its first proof, two of my casseroles are fully made expect for baking and toppings.
Tomorrow I'm taking some me time before getting to work to put on dinner at like 6ish.
 
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Fucking pissed today for no particular reason. I'm fortunately extremely good at masking my emotions so people don't actually know that I'm on the precipice of ripping their throats out if they poke at me a little too much.

But knowing what time of the month it is, it's understandable. Nevertheless irritating. Would explain the spiral from yesterday too.

Goddamn, fellow female kiwis. How in the hell do you handle being pissy and irritated because your body needs to flush out some scrambled eggs?
 
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Well works been a bit slow, little more settled now after it being a turbulent few months going through a few jobs because of just nonsense in general with the Canadian economy. Ended up breaking up with my girlfriend yesterday, was mutual though. Just was a relationship that wasn’t really going anywhere any time fast, and also she just had too many issues for me to handle. She genuinely is a nice person, but it was just not going anywhere. I am processing it a bit and yeah I am sad about it. She is a bit too needy for me though, just nonstop blowing my phone up. I got so annoyed with it that I just had to put notifications on silent. The more I got to know there were just certain issues and baggage she had that I couldn’t possibly help her address. My best friend is going through a rocky relationship of his own and is about to break it off with his girlfriend as well, which is a bit of strange timing. He gets all banged up about it though, meanwhile I guess I feel more like Butters in this situation.


It is a beautiful sadness I guess, means I still have some level of feeling, and makes me feel more human. Pretty shitty feeling but I’ll get over it at some point. I’ll go back to laughing at Reiketa now after my stupid cry baby story.
 
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Betonhaus said:
Generally i don't expect to find a job until January or shortly after, as most companies hold on hiring during the winter months. I think next year should be a lot better, but we still have to get through this year.
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My favorite cope. "Nah people aren't hiring during xmas.. nah neither during summer..". Sure, some months were actually dead, from 20-30 daily posts to 5-6, but rarely were they ever 'actually dead'. Whenever people ask me why I don't get interviews I just go "I'm not very employable". Speaking of: Coworker just gave me the whole "You have to find a new job within a year if you don't wanna get stuck here. Cleaning is a huge detriment to your career regardless of education", as if 5 years in university loses all value cause I twiddled thumbs for 2 years?

I don't know what I wanna do. I see uppity office ladies at my workplace who make.. maybe 18% more than me, but because they don't work nights, weekends, and wear their own clothes to work, it just feels miles ahead of me. Even the 'vampires' in their nice tight lab coats make more or less the same as us, yet just feels so much more prestigious. I legit don't know what I wanna do with my life. Cops and nurses may get paid shit but wanting to be one from childhood? A gift. Pay may not even matter to them.
Jaws Of Hell said:
Family issues turned up to 11 this week and my career is in the shitter. I know it's just a bad moment, I've been through worse and grew from it, but it really fucking sucks when everything is terrible at the same time.
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Reading these things diddle me two ways: Everyone is struggling and a lot of people got it worse than I; or 'their few months of doom is in between a life situation I'll never get even close to'. Comparison is stupid but fuck, if just I could get into the non-physical labor sphere, each day would be a step towards a better job, not away from said sphere cause lmaocleaning.
 
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⋖ cørdion ⋗ said:
My favorite cope. "Nah people aren't hiring during xmas.. nah neither during summer..". Sure, some months were actually dead, from 20-30 daily posts to 5-6, but rarely were they ever 'actually dead'. Whenever people ask me why I don't get interviews I just go "I'm not very employable". Speaking of: Coworker just gave me the whole "You have to find a new job within a year if you don't wanna get stuck here. Cleaning is a huge detriment to your career regardless of education", as if 5 years in university loses all value cause I twiddled thumbs for 2 years?
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Yes it's sorta cope, but that's also based on the understanding that the job market is just shit right now and has been for at least the past couple years. That being said, the market really is shit right now, so I wouldn't beat yourself up over it.

I remember in 2021-22 when I was actively applying to things, I was getting interviews consistently and got 2 offers for basically $100k/yr, one of which I took, and the other I didn't because they demanded the vax. Even into 2023 I was getting interviews at top companies, but didn't end up landing anything. This year though I think I might have had 1 or 2 initial interviews, but nothing serious. This coupled with the fact that I am technically more "employable" now than ever really shows me that the market is shit as before I was getting interviews for jobs I really didn't expect to get, but now with my experience I could reasonably expect to get a "senior" level position, but still nothing.
⋖ cørdion ⋗ said:
Reading these things diddle me two ways: Everyone is struggling and a lot of people got it worse than I; or 'their few months of doom is in between a life situation I'll never get even close to'. Comparison is stupid but fuck, if just I could get into the non-physical labor sphere, each day would be a step towards a better job, not away from said sphere cause lmaocleaning.
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Life isn't a competition, and you are allowed to feel like your situation is absolute shit regardless of other peoples circumstances, so don't ever feel bad because "somebody has it worse".

Regardless, you should try some form of sales. There is always a sales position open somewhere, and sales/people experience will always be useful, so if you're already dealing with bullshit you might as well get something out of it.
 
Got two more job interviews and got rejected for both. To be honest I am not super upset about it because my best friend is working with me now, and I'm the one training her. The workdays are going by faster and I feel less tired by the end of the day just by sitting next to her and share some homemade cookies.
eOur boss is really liking her work so I'm super positive, and she is overjoyed now that she has a job after looking for it for so long. So yeah, being with her brightens my day.
My health is better too. And I'm planning to start going for a walk everyday.
Baby steps towards a better life :)
 
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When your family are all stable people that dont get into arguments at thanksgiving, it kinda looks fun from the outside.

Anyways I had to drive 3 fucking hours at midnight to my mom's house because her car is broken and she doesn't want to drive her man's car to thanksgiving because it "smells bad."
 
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I had a 4 day weekend because I'm supposed to be working kind of a double shift today (days, 8 hours off then nights) as a favor to someone, and I fucking fell into some deranged sleep coma for most of it. I literally slept for like 10 hours, woke up at 2 am for 2 hours, then slept for another 12 one day. I have been only awake for 10-12 hours these days.

Unfortunately its kinda gotten to the point where its been effecting my gym/calorie intake. I usually go to the gym at 8 pm before work but its ended up being like 3-4 AM instead. I think I only met my calories today because I drank a quarter of a handle of vodka (and that is an issue all in itself, probably not helping my sleep lmao)

The guy I was doing a favor working his day shift was supposed to be working my night shift and I got a call from the other night shift guy that he thought I was supposed to be there (i didnt bother telling him lol) and that the other guy wasn't there so thats lulzy. The other guy was there so no harm no foul but thats retarded.
 
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Will be taking a long flight (as in 17 hours long) for the first time soon. I'm not nervous about planes since this would be my fifth flight this year (but the other four took one and a half hour each), I mostly worry that what I'm taking with me to entertain myself (crochet, kindle, music, manga) might not be enough.
 
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So, first day off I've had for a bit, going to post a small update on my health and such:

Retail work has... well, it hasn't changed all that much. Had to work a pretty good chunk of overtime this past week to prepare for Black Friday, and tomorrow and the weekend are looking like they're going to be completely insane. Haven't been checking up on getting a new job as much as I should've been; this job being a temp. hire means that I should REALLY be at least getting a strategy put together for when my contract ends, but I've been procrastinating, sadly. There is a chance they might hire me full time; I doubt it, for several reasons, but I will admit it's less stressful - slightly - then my prior retail position.

Writing is another mixed bag; my desire to make something "unique" has pushed me to realize that I don't even really have a favorite genre or plot ideas. Biggest issue is the fact that I tend to focus more on "what's needed for the story/characters" rather than "what do I like", which is problematic when the question is "what do you LIKE to write about". I think I have an idea for a genre, but I'm still working out the details on what I want. Character-wise, I've got two general designs that I like, but... well, one is very much a "glory to mankind" design that has a TON going for it, but it's both rather similar to one of the other guys' designs, and actually a bit boring to really run, for whatever reason. The other, meanwhile, is quite a bit of fun to write, but getting a concrete design for it nailed down is rather... frustrating. That's also not getting into the issues of potentially just dropping both designs and going for another one altogether...

On a more positive note, I feel like my health is getting a bit better. Been dealing with some random chest and arm pains for a few months now, but I've noticed that they've gotten significantly less severe as of recently. I've been working out a bit more - though the retail job has made that all the more frustrating - and while I don't think I'm exactly the picture of perfect health, I feel better than I did. Now, if only my other issues could get sorted out, that'd be nice...
 
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