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Thotalicious Chris said:
Well, me neither, so I’ll order a couple of virgin temples. And FNF? Nice. Fan base is a load of dog piss, but when some autist get their minds to it, they have some real talent, using the engine as their workshop for Mods. Mind if I see it? I’m curious since I don’t know how any of that works.
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It’s a skin mod atm turning Monster from a lemon into an orange colored lemon because citrus. Only things I have left on it are the icons and packaging it all together
 
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JuanButNotForgotten said:
When I tried to make french macarons for the first time, as it turns out I've almost nailed it and back then I thought that I'll get it right in a couple of tries.

Now I miss that first attempt. :suffering:
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It's going to look like puke the moment you chew it anyway. As long as it's tasty, the looks doesn't matter.
 
Vingle said:
It's going to look like puke the moment you chew it anyway. As long as it's tasty, the looks doesn't matter.
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I'd argue but the thing is that it's connected - they get the best texture and taste when they look like this. I'll eat them anyway of course.
 
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Seeing a lot of people talking about becoming thirty on here.

I’m about to hit the big 3-0 myself later this year.

Feels weird, but I can’t say I feel bad about it. I still feel the need to do a lot of stuff and still feel like I’m playing catch up with other people in general, but I seem to be in a better headspace than years back. So that’s something.
 
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Exuvia said:
Well, my ego has largely recovered from a month ago. Thus, I've felt confident enough to try to put myself out there again on a dating app. I've gotten a fair amount of matches (again, good for the healing ego), but inevitably they stop responding after a couple days of conversation. I realize I am a bit touched, but I really have no conception of what I'm doing wrong. It's not like I'm giving one-word replies or making endless inane small talk. Are you really just supposed to immediately arrange to meet in person?
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Going on a dating app to get a boost in your self confidence is the exact opposite thing to do. Get the fuck off dating apps. Introspect about why you don't like yourself.

What you're doing wrong is using a dating app. Just don't. Not only are you unlikely to find a long term partner on a dating app, but it'll push you down the mindset you are already in of being fixated on dating someone.

You will not be happy once you have a girlfriend. Whatever void you are wishing to fill will not be filled.

Work on understanding your mind, on becoming more self aware. Develop as a person. Friendships and relationships are natural consequences to the act of being human.

If you're afraid of never getting a partner, look into that fear. Ask yourself why you are afraid. Is it because you don't think you have value as a person? Investigate that belief of why you don't value yourself. Whatever you find in your mind, look directly at it. It's your mind, it's all you've got, and it's not going anywhere.

I can guarantee you you will never find a partner by asking yourself "how can I get better at dating?" or "why won't she go out with me?" Just one look at the incel movement should tell you that that mindset is an antipattern. You are asking the wrong questions.

If you're afraid of introspecting on your mind, that should tell you just how desperately you need to take a good long look at it and see what's there.
 
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Anstiv said:
Going on a dating app to get a boost in your self confidence is the exact opposite thing to do. Get the fuck off dating apps. Introspect about why you don't like yourself.

What you're doing wrong is using a dating app. Just don't. Not only are you unlikely to find a long term partner on a dating app, but it'll push you down the mindset you are already in of being fixated on dating someone.

You will not be happy once you have a girlfriend. Whatever void you are wishing to fill will not be filled.

Work on understanding your mind, on becoming more self aware. Develop as a person. Friendships and relationships are natural consequences to the act of being human.

If you're afraid of never getting a partner, look into that fear. Ask yourself why you are afraid. Is it because you don't think you have value as a person? Investigate that belief of why you don't value yourself. Whatever you find in your mind, look directly at it. It's your mind, it's all you've got, and it's not going anywhere.

I can guarantee you you will never find a partner by asking yourself "how can I get better at dating?" or "why won't she go out with me?" Just one look at the incel movement should tell you that that mindset is an antipattern. You are asking the wrong questions.

If you're afraid of introspecting on your mind, that should tell you just how desperately you need to take a good long look at it and see what's there.
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Took me years to figure out the dating app part. That shit is poison for your mind.
 
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Anstiv said:
Going on a dating app to get a boost in your self confidence is the exact opposite thing to do. Get the fuck off dating apps. Introspect about why you don't like yourself.

What you're doing wrong is using a dating app. Just don't. Not only are you unlikely to find a long term partner on a dating app, but it'll push you down the mindset you are already in of being fixated on dating someone.

You will not be happy once you have a girlfriend. Whatever void you are wishing to fill will not be filled.

Work on understanding your mind, on becoming more self aware. Develop as a person. Friendships and relationships are natural consequences to the act of being human.

If you're afraid of never getting a partner, look into that fear. Ask yourself why you are afraid. Is it because you don't think you have value as a person? Investigate that belief of why you don't value yourself. Whatever you find in your mind, look directly at it. It's your mind, it's all you've got, and it's not going anywhere.

I can guarantee you you will never find a partner by asking yourself "how can I get better at dating?" or "why won't she go out with me?" Just one look at the incel movement should tell you that that mindset is an antipattern. You are asking the wrong questions.

If you're afraid of introspecting on your mind, that should tell you just how desperately you need to take a good long look at it and see what's there.
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I appreciate you taking the time to reply. You make many good points, but I have to clarify some things. I'm not using an app to boost my confidence or to realistically find a long term partner. My motivation is really just that it has been too long since the last time I've been kissed and I want to change that. The small boosts of reinforcement by having people swipe right on me is a secondary result.
Work on understanding your mind, on becoming more self aware. Develop as a person.
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I have done much introspection in the last few years, don't worry about that.
Friendships and relationships are natural consequences to the act of being human.
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I made 0 new friends during the last time I went to college and the several years of my last job. It does sometimes feel like I'm not good at being an actual human.
 
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Exuvia said:
I have done much introspection in the last few years, don't worry about that.

I made 0 new friends during the last time I went to college and the several years of my last job. It does sometimes feel like I'm not good at being an actual human.
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You're good bruh, keep your head up
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Exuvia said:
I appreciate you taking the time to reply. You make many good points, but I have to clarify some things. I'm not using an app to boost my confidence or to realistically find a long term partner. My motivation is really just that it has been too long since the last time I've been kissed and I want to change that. The small boosts of reinforcement by having people swipe right on me is a secondary result.

I have done much introspection in the last few years, don't worry about that.

I made 0 new friends during the last time I went to college and the several years of my last job. It does sometimes feel like I'm not good at being an actual human.
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Sorry if my response seemed dismissive of you, it's often hard to seperate out the entitled-incel types from people genuinely just having difficulty with social skills.

You seem like a respectful and kind person. I'm sorry it's hard to connect with people, I can imagine that feels quite lonely.

I'd be curious to hear where you think the problem lies with starting relationships.

I hope things get easier for you soon. Stay strong man
 
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Found out my first gastroenterologist gave me faulty treatment. Have a week of upcoming appointments so I'm depressed.
Edit: To make me feel better, I was told a story how the hypochondriac Pentecostal lady received 2 endoscopies in the span of 6 months through my mom's recommendation to another doctor. It failed.
 
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WolfeTone said:
You're good bruh, keep your head up
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Thanks. For the record, I'm not totally isolated. I still have a handful of very close friends from HS that I keep in contact with and get to spend time with.
Anstiv said:
Sorry if my response seemed dismissive of you, it's often hard to seperate out the entitled-incel types from people genuinely just having difficulty with social skills.

You seem like a respectful and kind person. I'm sorry it's hard to connect with people, I can imagine that feels quite lonely.
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No worries. Nothing you said was incorrect, just not accurate to my specific situation.
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I'd be curious to hear where you think the problem lies with starting relationships.

I hope things get easier for you soon. Stay strong man
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I think my difficulty comes from a combination of being naturally shy, and damage done by spending formative years on tumblr, where the radfem points of "men are trash" as well as "men should always be considered predatory" were inescapable. I've spent a lot of time trying to unlearn those messages, but the impact was significant (especially so that those messages are still being promoted today). It's still difficult for me to approach people IRL. But I'm in a much better place than I was a few years ago.
If you were asking me what I think the problem is for people starting relationships generally, I have no insight.
 
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Relationships? That's pretty easy.

We gotta start speaking the same language again.
cause even in the same dialect, the same words mean different things to different people. Atomized as we are by the endless dearth of options, it's high time people started congregating with likeminded people again. Instead of having social media and other algorithmic nonsense assign us to niche categories based on the specific structure of our narcissism. As an aggregate.
 
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