How are you doing? - Kiwi Farms Wellness Check

[Sped Xing]

I'm 66.

You died 68 years ago.

 

[JosephStalin]

You died 68 years ago.

Then I'm -2! Cool! Lets me collect pension/Social Security for many more years!

 

[Overly Serious]

Not great, and all of a sudden. Met a couple of people who seemed nice and had invited me around their house the other evening. Today I made food and took it around theirs which we'd arranged. Just a friendly evening and they both (two girls, also students) seemed to like me a lot. Spent a few hours making the food, had respectfully taken on board a number of personal requests from one of them about things she liked not to be mentioned and various stuff. Genuinely - was 100% friendly and polite. Then I got told that I was privileged because I was male. Pretty much out of the blue. Followed by being told I was privileged because I was White. I said they knew almost nothing about my life and that was a little offensive. Then the lecture started. I asked what percentage of homeless people are male (it's around 70% though I misremembered and said 90 at the time). I asked how many men die in workplace accidents compared to women. That is 90% men. I asked if any of that sounded like male privilege but those figures were dismissed as "the result of sexism". I asked how I was privileged because I was White. The response was to ask if I'd ever called the police. Yes - I have. "Did they point a gun at you?" Well no, nor would they have pulled a gun on some Black person who called them because their car had been stolen, either. But that was dismissed as not true. I asked for an example. "George Floyd". I said he died of a drug overdose. That you can't suffocate someone by kneeling on the back of their neck and I could prove the drug overdose. (The coroner's report is public record). They basically looked at me like I was the scum of the Earth and asked me to leave.

I had been nothing but helpful and friendly to them both.

It really hurt.

EDIT: One of them also told me that it was right that a "PoC" should receive a position over another person who is White because of their skin colour.

 

[Dustlord]

Just...bleh. Things are mostly good, but someone I really looked up to got into a serious accident and may never walk again.
I can't even face him in the hospital because I don't know how I'll react. I've never been good with this stuff.

 

[Sped Xing]

Not great, and all of a sudden. Met a couple of people who seemed nice and had invited me around their house the other evening. Today I made food and took it around theirs which we'd arranged. Just a friendly evening and they both (two girls, also students) seemed to like me a lot. Spent a few hours making the food, had respectfully taken on board a number of personal requests from one of them about things she liked not to be mentioned and various stuff. Genuinely - was 100% friendly and polite. Then I got told that I was privileged because I was male. Pretty much out of the blue. Followed by being told I was privileged because I was White. I said they knew almost nothing about my life and that was a little offensive. Then the lecture started. I asked what percentage of homeless people are male (it's around 70% though I misremembered and said 90 at the time). I asked how many men die in workplace accidents compared to women. That is 90% men. I asked if any of that sounded like male privilege but those figures were dismissed as "the result of sexism". I asked how I was privileged because I was White. The response was to ask if I'd ever called the police. Yes - I have. "Did they point a gun at you?" Well no, nor would they have pulled a gun on some Black person who called them because their car had been stolen, either. But that was dismissed as not true. I asked for an example. "George Floyd". I said he died of a drug overdose. That you can't suffocate someone by kneeling on the back of their neck and I could prove the drug overdose. (The coroner's report is public record). They basically looked at me like I was the scum of the Earth and asked me to leave.

I had been nothing but helpful and friendly to them both.

It really hurt.

EDIT: One of them also told me that it was right that a "PoC" should receive a position over another person who is White because of their skin colour.

Never associate with people who have a list of things for you not to mention.

Actually

Never associate with people. People are garbage.

I will sell you a goat. Friend goat.

 

[You Bastard Guy]

Not great, and all of a sudden. Met a couple of people who seemed nice and had invited me around their house the other evening. Today I made food and took it around theirs which we'd arranged. Just a friendly evening and they both (two girls, also students) seemed to like me a lot. Spent a few hours making the food, had respectfully taken on board a number of personal requests from one of them about things she liked not to be mentioned and various stuff. Genuinely - was 100% friendly and polite. Then I got told that I was privileged because I was male. Pretty much out of the blue. Followed by being told I was privileged because I was White. I said they knew almost nothing about my life and that was a little offensive. Then the lecture started. I asked what percentage of homeless people are male (it's around 70% though I misremembered and said 90 at the time). I asked how many men die in workplace accidents compared to women. That is 90% men. I asked if any of that sounded like male privilege but those figures were dismissed as "the result of sexism". I asked how I was privileged because I was White. The response was to ask if I'd ever called the police. Yes - I have. "Did they point a gun at you?" Well no, nor would they have pulled a gun on some Black person who called them because their car had been stolen, either. But that was dismissed as not true. I asked for an example. "George Floyd". I said he died of a drug overdose. That you can't suffocate someone by kneeling on the back of their neck and I could prove the drug overdose. (The coroner's report is public record). They basically looked at me like I was the scum of the Earth and asked me to leave.

I had been nothing but helpful and friendly to them both.

It really hurt.

EDIT: One of them also told me that it was right that a "PoC" should receive a position over another person who is White because of their skin colour.

The moment someone starts trying to justify discrimination against you “because reasons” is the moment you disengage, ignore, and avoid further contact. That shit is nothing but a power grab dressed up in academic-sounding gibberish.

 

[Not a local]

I've been taking time to reevaluate my life, future, and goals. Assuming I don't drop dead tomorrow I have a lot of hard work ahead of me. I'm not fit, my weight is stable but not satisfactory, and my hands are damaged from work every night.

I'm choosing to take these as a challenge instead of moping though. I have one week left of work until I'm out. I tossed the garbage food out a week ago, and im slowly adding exercises to my morning routine. Hardest part will be avoiding temptations on the way.

TL;DR - life sucks right now, but I'm working my way to a better future.

 

[JosephStalin]

Just...bleh. Things are mostly good, but someone I really looked up to got into a serious accident and may never walk again.
I can't even face him in the hospital because I don't know how I'll react. I've never been good with this stuff.

Go to the hospital. Your friend will be happy to see you, believe me. Have visited plenty of people in the hospital. Talk about sports, weather, whatever. I know, have spent time in the hospital myself on a few occasions, most recently last month. Let your friend tell you about his case/prognosis. Your presence is great medicine.

@Overly Serious - those bitches have the problem, you don't. Their IQ doesn't seem to exceed their bust sizes. May the horse be with them.

 

[Overly Serious]

Never associate with people who have a list of things for you not to mention.

Actually

Never associate with people. People are garbage.

I will sell you a goat. Friend goat.

The moment someone starts trying to justify discrimination against you “because reasons” is the moment you disengage, ignore, and avoid further contact. That shit is nothing but a power grab dressed up in academic-sounding gibberish.

Thank you, both. It's good just to get a couple of replies. I'm not going to do what would probably (temporarily) make me feel better and get angry with them or try to dehumanize them in some way. And honestly, that's not in my nature anyway. They're just two people I was making friends with who suddenly started telling me how privileged I had it and doubled down on it when I refused to accept it. I'm not going to go digging around in my life story to prove to them otherwise nor should I have to. And honestly, I don't think they would have heard me. I guess I am probably better off out of that as given how it went it was probably just a time bomb waiting to happen. But I'm still upset about it and will be for some time.

I've been taking time to reevaluate my life, future, and goals. Assuming I don't drop dead tomorrow I have a lot of hard work ahead of me. I'm not fit, my weight is stable but not satisfactory, and my hands are damaged from work every night.

I'm choosing to take these as a challenge instead of moping though. I have one week left of work until I'm out. I tossed the garbage food out a week ago, and im slowly adding exercises to my morning routine. Hardest part will be avoiding temptations on the way.

TL;DR - life sucks right now, but I'm working my way to a better future.

Good for you, really. Don't let anything stop you. I was doing better much like you are starting to, until the lockdowns pushed me into a year of depression. I wish I'd had your determination to carry on but I'm getting back to it little by little, now. Posts from others doing the same are actually inspiring so I'm glad you shared.

EDIT: The goat would be good. I'd like a goat.

 

[Sped Xing]

EDIT: The goat would be good. I'd like a goat.

Friend Goat will like you if you share animal crackers.

 

[Iron Lungus]

I'm ok thank you, I hope you are all doing well

 

[Overly Serious]

Friend Goat will like you if you share animal crackers.

 

[Blue Screen of Death]

I'm not going to do what would probably (temporarily) make me feel better and get angry with them or try to dehumanize them in some way.

It's a huge red flag when anyone randomly brings up topics like that, it's like they actively hate being happy and have to look for any reason to tear someone else down.
It's for the best to just forget they exist and go on with your life to find people that don't suck.

 

[Shitted Scaredless]

Wondering why my body won't let itself sleep during the day.
I'm tired man what the hell are you so stuck up about

 

[verygayFrogs]

Also woke up early and got a lot of shit done while taking only an hour nap

Never mind I am super confused emotion wise and am feeling multiple things at once.

 

[Exuvia]

After close to a year since the last time I've made any art, I finally feel like I'm ready to start drawing again.

 

[Vingle]

I'm not going to do what would probably (temporarily) make me feel better and get angry with them or try to dehumanize them in some way.

Hopefully, some niggers are gonna K.O them or rape them and utterly destroy their life. It's the right decision to not do anything. Because you can't, because all options are illegal. And thinking of something that maybe can happen eventually is just a waste. It wouldn't do any good thinking about it, I mean.

 

[You Bastard Guy]

It's a huge red flag when anyone randomly brings up topics like that, it's like they actively hate being happy and have to look for any reason to tear someone else down.
It's for the best to just forget they exist and go on with your life to find people that don't suck.

It really has gotten to the point that you cannot have a normal conversation about anything else with people like that. They will not change their mind and will not change the subject.

 

[Blue Screen of Death]

It really has gotten to the point that you cannot have a normal conversation about anything else with people like that. They will not change their mind and will not change the subject.

Honestly, I wouldn't even give much thought to their opinion as long as we can just move along and have a good time.
It's just that they let it dominate their entire life and worldview. It's all they think about day in, day out.
They have the most miserable fucking existence known to man, I promise you.

 

[knobslobbin]

I've been taking time to reevaluate my life, future, and goals. Assuming I don't drop dead tomorrow I have a lot of hard work ahead of me. I'm not fit, my weight is stable but not satisfactory, and my hands are damaged from work every night.

I'm choosing to take these as a challenge instead of moping though. I have one week left of work until I'm out. I tossed the garbage food out a week ago, and im slowly adding exercises to my morning routine. Hardest part will be avoiding temptations on the way.

TL;DR - life sucks right now, but I'm working my way to a better future.

There's a lifting thread here, and a weightloss thread. The farms isn't just dedicated to suiciding troons through constant misgenderings.