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So I had a moment today that just broke me.

I have rental house and I work with/for a management company. Fuck being a land lord. In march my tenant was short 1/4 of the rent. In April he was 100% short. But had applied to with the local housing authority for rent relief. Me and him fill out the papers and send them off.

10 weeks later I havent been paid. I called up the authority and was merely told "its processing and that takes awhile.

I dont know if this tenants is like other people i ve seen who got the biden buck and unemployment benefits.

But the house authority merely telling me its "processing" as opposed to say telling me how many steps are in the process what step we are on and a very very soft time frame till all the steps are completed basically broke my confidence that I will ever get paid.

Tomorrow I will call the tenant and explain that I will be taking my house off the rental market he will get his 60 day notice at the end of the month. which will be good timing because covid protections run out on the end of september (besides alot of the protections dont apply to single family homes if its going to be taken off the market)

Normally I would hate myself and other landlords because in this town there is no inventory and doing this to someone is putting a very real hardship on them.

On the other hand I just traded a 1980 honda scooter to a plumber to fixed his backed up swear line.

In my head I imagine telling the tenat that even if he barrows from family to get caught up I m still taking back the house. I ll just live there and air b n b the place I m at now. And that its going to be impossible for him to find another house at that price. what I really really want to get through his head though is that the goverment rent relief fucked him because again I just dont believe I ll get paid and I dont want nor do I have to deal with this shit.

Sorry I just needed to vent.
 
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northstar747 said:
what I really really want to get through his head though is that the goverment rent relief fucked him because again I just dont believe I ll get paid and I dont want nor do I have to deal with this shit.
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Nothing to get through, either you pay on time or GTFO. He’s even lucky you gave him more than one chance.
Got a government rent relief in my country. Owners avoid renters on those programs, because the people never pay and are mostly horrible. Unhygenic and damage the renting object. The government itself is a slow and complicated process. No normal person bother with that.

We have an unwritten rule of never renting to foreigners or those on relief programs. Because you will regret it.
My parents got problems with insects, after some nigress was living in their rental. And duh, I warned them before this:story::story:
 
I've been wanting to grow a decent sized herb garden for awhile, and I've made a start. This late into the year, the started herbs are slim pickings. I have an oregano, rosemary (my favorite, good in anything and is hard to kill), chocolate mint, sage, sweet marjoram and sorrel. I also have the seeds for a dozen more herbs eventually. I'm scouting out some cheap-ish but sturdy pots to plant them all in. Those things add up. I guess a new change of pace is also nice. I feel like I'm doing the same things every day (work, do chores, take care of chickens, go to bed, repeat).

On another note I feel like I barely have time for video games lately and that sucks. I don't want to sacrifice any sleep for it either. But that's first world problems for you.
 
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My gfs parents might be forcing her to go back to school. In a major they wanted. While she's chronicly ill. She's 20.

This means she could lose contact with me. They don't know about us and I'd definitely lose her if they found out. They'd probably ground her forever. I. I live far away and I can't just go get her no matter how much I want to.

Every day is a day closer to the end
I might as well already start the mental distancing so it'll hurt less.
 
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Shitted Scaredless said:
My gfs parents might be forcing her to go back to school. In a major they wanted. While she's chronicly ill. She's 20.

This means she could lose contact with me. They don't know about us and I'd definitely lose her if they found out. They'd probably ground her forever. I. I live far away and I can't just go get her no matter how much I want to.

Every day is a day closer to the end
I might as well already start the mental distancing so it'll hurt less.
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She's 20.

She could, and should, tell them to fuck off.
 
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Shitted Scaredless said:
She can't do much. Like I said, she's chronicly ill. Has no where to go, can hardly walk, ect...
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She can walk enough to date you.

Unless it's a mostly online relationship, in which case, why would you lose contact with her if she studies?

Not justifying the parents, in fact my point is she gotta stand up for herself, she's an adult already and whatever health conditions one may have, an adult shouldn't let their parents push them around. Not saying she should leave the house or anything either. Just don't let them control her. I've seen people like that and it doesn't end well.
 
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She can walk enough to date you.

Unless it's a mostly online relationship, in which case, why would you lose contact with her if she studies?

Not justifying the parents, in fact my point is she gotta stand up for herself, she's an adult already and whatever health conditions one may have, an adult shouldn't let their parents push them around. Not saying she should leave the house or anything either. Just don't let them control her. I've seen people like that and it doesn't end well.
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We're states away. I'm about ready to cowboy my ass over there..

I know. I've tried to explain to her. They threaten her physically and she can hardly defend herself.. I love her, you know. I'm afraid of what they could possibly do to her. And I feel like it'd be my fault, because, well. I'm the one dating her. Her parents don't know and if they found out... (context, I am also a girl).

I'll try to talk to her about it again. I'll be damned if I let this happen and at least not try.
 
Shitted Scaredless said:
They threaten her physically and she can hardly defend herself.
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She could record the threats. You can voice record without consent, as long as you are talking in the voice clip too.
Not a good idea to submit it to the police, when she's under the roof with them. They will continue to control her as long as she's in their house.
Best for her would be to GTFO. You could live with her.
 
Vingle said:
She could record the threats. You can voice record without consent, as long as you are talking in the voice clip too.
Not a good idea to submit it to the police, when she's under the roof with them. They will continue to control her as long as she's in their house.
Best for her would be to GTFO. You could live with her.
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I've been working on plans. If I could just get her out of the house, they legally can't make her go back. She's an adult, so am I. However, she's halfway across the country.

I could possibly bus hop, or take a plane. I don't know if I've got the money. And, well, I don't have my own place yet (even renting is fucking expensive) however, my parents are not like hers. If not my place, I could probably put her up with my grandma who lives about ten minutes away.

I'm working on figuring it out, really. I'm just stressed about the whole ordeal.
 
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First full day of work. Eight and a half hours today, nine tomorrow, and another eight and a half hours the day after. Tired and sore. Made dumb mistakes, but no one fussed. Previous new guy said he made the same mistakes and is actively trying to teach me things no one taught him before it bit him in the was. Other coworkers are chill, too.

Panic attack averted, but I'm about ready to die from exhaustion. I have over 30 hours scheduled next week despite choosing part-time to ease into this. At least my first few checks will be stacked. ✌
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You can voice record without consent, as long as you are talking in the voice clip too.
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I'm not a lawyer, but I'm pretty sure recording laws in the US vary by state. In some states, both parties must explicitly consent to the recording for it to be lawful. @Shitted Scaredless, if you go through with something like that, look into whether your gf's state is a one-party consent state. Make sure the laws apply to whatever medium (in- person, text, phone, etc.) is relevant, too. Be safe!
 
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For the past 2 weeks, very bad anxiety, very bad insomnia, very bad back pain. Been stressed the fuck out and drinking too much and miserable. It's starting to pass though. Got a tattoo I've been wanting for a decade yesterday, that helped quite a bit.

I went out with a guy I matched with on Tinder tonight. Originally I was just like fuck it, I want to get laid so I can get a little relief from the 2 weeks of stress and anxiety, but actually ended up having a nice date, a cute little kiss at the end of the night and went home. This was the first time I've ever been on a "normal" date with a stranger. Feels weird. This is the kind of shit I need to start doing though. Stop getting drunk and fucking people for the hell of it.
 
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Coffee Druid said:
I've been wanting to grow a decent sized herb garden for awhile, and I've made a start. This late into the year, the started herbs are slim pickings. I have an oregano, rosemary (my favorite, good in anything and is hard to kill), chocolate mint, sage, sweet marjoram and sorrel. I also have the seeds for a dozen more herbs eventually. I'm scouting out some cheap-ish but sturdy pots to plant them all in. Those things add up. I guess a new change of pace is also nice. I feel like I'm doing the same things every day (work, do chores, take care of chickens, go to bed, repeat).
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Growing stuff can be really chill, but you need to give it some tender loving care for sure. Planning to just plant them in an open space or in a glass house?
 
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Growing stuff can be really chill, but you need to give it some tender loving care for sure. Planning to just plant them in an open space or in a glass house?
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Probably going to make an area for a potted garden on my back porch for now. The soil here isn't very good unless you add a lot of compost and nutrients, so in-ground would be tougher. It would also let me move them around if I need to switch up their sunlight routine. The current herbs I have are in 6" pots but I'm looking to go for 10 or 12 inch at least when repotting them soon.
 
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Blamo said:
Growing stuff can be really chill, but you need to give it some tender loving care for sure. Planning to just plant them in an open space or in a glass house?
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Had one of those small «lucky bamboos», did change water on it once in a while. It became a rotten mess after some months.

I only stick to fake plants now.

Kinda wish to throw out seedbombs with invasive species to change the boring plants here. Not those who actually destroy houses, like Japanese ragweed, maybe actual bamboo. Because it’s actual useful and not terrible to look at. Not going to do it though, because it’s a crime and that stuff.
 
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The Real Me said:
The other day, I decided that I wanted to make a video essay on the decline of a manga I really liked. It's really gay and dumb but it feels good to have a project and I think my writing isn't too bad either.
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Well, if it is important for you then it's not dumb. Just be sure you finish it. Finishing projects is a really good habit that feels good too.

Also having footage for the video can be challenging as well. Good luck.
 
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