How do autists integrate into normie society?

[Sandshrew]

I'm early 20s with adhd and mild autism.
I've been working a lot on the adhd part utilizing strategies to avoid distraction, but I still haven't figured out how to attract more normies, though I can attract a lot of other autists easily.

How do I start trying to become more of a normie? What are the best normie activities, hobbies, shows, clothing, etc? How do I become more expressive facially and in my tone? Is this even something to strive for, or should I just seek out other not-too-retarded autists?

I was thinking of wearing more plain-colored athleticwear and getting really into cooking + some type of sport. Any other suggestions?

 

[YHWH's Strongest Soldier]

How do I start trying to become more of a normie? What are the best normie activities, hobbies, shows, clothing, etc? How do I become more expressive facially and in my tone? Is this even something to strive for, or should I just seek out other not-too-retarded autists? Has anyone here gone successfully from autist to basically-normie?

Normies don't think like that, they just are. You will never be a normie.

 

[Sandshrew]

Normies don't think like that, they just are. You will never be a normie.

Unfortunate
I think I can become normie-passing if I got really into more athletic outdoor activities, as I know a guy with my same issues that's built physically and exudes positivity, easily passing as normie tbh

 

[xXWild_DripXx]

Normies are Nigger Cattle who don't have internal monologues and do whatever the television/social media tells them to do.

 

[Rango Dango]

How do I start trying to become more of a normie?

you dont

in rome do as romans do and just repeat whatever normies do if you want to idfk

 

[smile.jpg]

I hate to be the one to break this to you, but female autism doesn't exist, It's not real.

 

[Idiotron]

How do I start trying to become more of a normie?

You don't.
You just learn to be weird and find a niche for yourself that you can fit into... or you create one yourself if there is nothing you like.

What are the best normie activities, hobbies, shows, clothing, etc?

Boring shit like clubbing, going to loud events, celebrity gossip.
I had to pretend to like reality shows in order to date a girl last year.

How do I become more expressive facially and in my tone?

That is a skill you can practice at home in front of the mirror.
Record yourself speak too.
Learn how to control your tone and not stutter too much.
If you ever get invited anywhere, spend like an hour sitting in the corner and observing what the popular people do.
Remember that and practice it.
It will be fake at first but you do it for a while, it will become natural.
That's how I became social as a turboautist.

Is this even something to strive for, or should I just seek out other not-too-retarded autists?

Definitely aim for being good in social situations.
You won't get anywhere in life if you can't talk to people comfortably.

I was thinking of wearing more plain-colored athleticwear and getting really into cooking + some type of sport. Any other suggestions?

Go to the gym.
All the stereotypes about the gym are wrong, the people there are great, majority of them are not only fit and attractive but also I've met some of the smartest people I know there.
They don't laugh at you, they are super helpful, you can ask cute girls for help and they will not scoff at you like social media and movies suggest.
Also, you can use your autism to become good at muscle building and after you get jacked, people will want to be around you a lot more because people are shallow and they like being around someone that's attractive.

Also, learn how to dance.
Dancing is the best skill I acquired in terms of being social, it changes the game for real.

 

[Spud]

Any other suggestions?

Abuse stimulants, get a prescription if you can (Don't take the amount a doctor recommends, lowest dose possible and increase gradually until you get the right amount for you) If you can't get one, Nicotine gum/pouches (get the lowest dose you can) and caffeine are excellent substitutes that you can mix to achieve the same effect. This is not medical advice.

 

[pork and beans]

What are the best normie activities, hobbies, shows, clothing, etc?

If you’re not even gonna enjoy it, don’t waste your time. The best scenario is that you integrate and, what, they like a version of you that you built for them? Whatever hobbies you have, I’m sure not everybody into them is autistic LOL some people are just eccentric.

How do I become more expressive facially and in my tone?

Linguistics is where to want to look.

You could study stuff like Discourse Analysis which discusses everything about non verbal communication, politeness theory in speech (that way you avoid misunderstandings and are able to understand the metaphorical parts of speech you might have trouble with), body language… a lot of autists dislike stuff like small talk or nonverbal communication because they don’t get it and they prefer being direct- but these things are important and have a reason that explains their existence. I know autists communicate differently but if you wanna integrate with the rest try to understand it.

Prosody is the study of entonation in speech (among other things). If your speech is monotone and you want to fix it or at least understand why it gets the reactions it might get, go study that as well; it’s very simple

Go to the gym.

Seconded, just go lift

I had to pretend to like reality shows in order to date a girl last year

That seems bleak as fuck, I hope that was done just as an entry way to hang out or something lol

 

[Endless Torment]

Unfortunate
I think I can become normie-passing if I got really into more athletic outdoor activities, as I know a guy with my same issues that's built physically and exudes positivity, easily passing as normie tbh

I'm going to tell you something and that normal people don't try to clock autistic people nor think about being normies. I'm autistic and made normal and autistic friends by simply having a job and engaging in hobbies. Unless you are so autistic you are incapable of having any normal interests just simply trying to interact with coworkers, fellow students, or people in a shared activity should help you learn to socialize.

Normies are Nigger Cattle who don't have internal monologues and do whatever the television/social media tells them to do.

While saying shit like this is fun online if you actually think like this than you will always fail if you try to interact with the wider public. Go ahead and try to do athletic activities, but if you don't actually enjoy them then it won't help you in the long run. I am a man so my experience with making friends and socializing is of course going to be different from that of a womans.

 

[Dagoth AMOGUS]

Unless you cannot take care of yourself, you don’t have autism. It’s either or. There is no “spectrum”

 

[Dr Cruel]

Normies are Nigger Cattle who don't have internal monologues and do whatever the television/social media tells them to do.

Sounds like normies are just autists who have learned how to suppress their individuality.

 

[⚞⛇⚟]

plain-colored athleticwear

Wearing athletic wear ALL OF THE TIME is really autistic. Sorry ig.

 

[Lovely Kin]

How do I start trying to become more of a normie? What are the best normie activities, hobbies, shows, clothing, etc? How do I become more expressive facially and in my tone? Is this even something to strive for, or should I just seek out other not-too-retarded autists?

Going to the gym, working out does a lot for someone and changes their mindset towards life. You can strive for this if you put your mind into this. Don't fake it unless you genuinely have to, be earnest in your interests and open to trying new things as well instead of closing yourself off. You may struggle at first, but I can guarantee it will pay off in the future.

 

[YWNBAM]

Unfortunate
I think I can become normie-passing if I got really into more athletic outdoor activities, as I know a guy with my same issues that's built physically and exudes positivity, easily passing as normie tbh

I think you have the right idea here! Also, I found that having an optimistic attitude, joking, smiling and laughing at random stuff more helps to get people to get more comfortable (I know it can be very hard). Watch more normie things like comedies or make-up blogs, look for more topics to talk about.

Don't listen to the doofuses above me. Being a normie means being a healthy, well-adjusted member of society with stable irl social relationships that benifit your mental health and encourage growing as a person. It's a good thing, and most of the shitposters here can only dream of overcoming their stagnant autism and becoming one.

 

[Idiotron]

That seems bleak as fuck, I hope that was done just as an entry way to hang out or something lol

She was a head taller than me and she looked like Fergie.
I had to, you don't get that every day.

If you keep looking for that cute nerdy autistic girl to get with, you'll be waiting like all those women who are waiting for a 6 foot tall buff millionaire.

 

[pork and beans]

She was a head taller than me and she looked like Fergie.
I had to, you don't get that every day.

If you keep looking for that cute nerdy autistic girl to get with, you'll be waiting like all those women who are waiting for a 6 foot tall buff millionaire.

LOL that’s fair. Hope it worked out.

 

[Großmann]

Unfortunate
I think I can become normie-passing if I got really into more athletic outdoor activities, as I know a guy with my same issues that's built physically and exudes positivity, easily passing as normie tbh

It’s not so much about what you spend your time doing and more about how you express those things to others. Even being into things like watching pro football can be obnoxiously autistic if you start sperging about stats and minutiae that most people don’t care about — and being unable to recognize when you’re crossing that social event horizon and pulling back before it’s too late. The thing you probably have to master is how to express your interests in a way that’s not annoyingly insistent (talking about it when the person isn’t interested in listening), fake (such as trying to affect a persona that is obviously not you while communicating your interests), or spergy (being an elitists gatekeeper about your proclivities and denigrating those you’re talking to).

If you can learn how to talk to people about what you do, you can get people to rally around even the most nerdy or autistic shit.

 

[Xev]

Consider where you are asking for advice. It's already too late. There is no normie arc in your future.

 

[Unarmed Gunman]

All this advice and not a single person asked the most obvious questions - what exactly do you enjoy doing? What are you good at? Autistic people have interests and hobbies and shit too, right? If your approach is to wear a skin suit people will think you're even weirder, so start with what you like or are good at, and find a way to interact with more people in those contexts.

Also, do you have a job or do you just goon in moms basement and wonder why you don't have more friends?