How do you fight depression? - Let's help each other

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Aside from all the sensible and legit advices (eat healthily, exercise regularly) my best advice is to listen to jazz music. They are soothing. Ideally just listen them without doing anything else, perhaps 15 minutes a day. Find a playlist on youtube. You can find a lot of them. Personal favourite is this : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pDfJuS8OksM Also try meditate everyday. It helps to ignore distractions and negative thoughts. Concentrate on your breathe, let your thoughts flow through, but do not interact with them. Let them go away.
 
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Star Platinum said:
chronic pain + fucked brain + nothing to gain

i'm close to total shutdown
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Nice avatar - for real, getting off of platforms that are bad is helpful (but also, I like star platinum, it is a cool stand)!

My husband is someone with chronic pain, Ican't say if this will help but it was advice that has made a massive difference in him. Stop thinking about yourself

I mean stop focusing on the problem more than is necessary. Jordan peterson touched on this, my hubby's psychologyst has spoken about this, if you focus on the problem more then it will affect you more than you should let it. Think about what the problem is only once a day, how it is affecting you, and how you can keep it from affecting you as much in the future. The rest of the time? Do not fixate on it, "stop thinking about yourself" in this case means you tell yourself to not fixate on the problem, don't think about it now, you will acknowledge and think about it ONLY at the allotted time and not let the pain occupy you ANY MORE than it has to, that's what has helped my husband

If this is not applicable to you I'm sorry to have wasted time, but I hope it does, as much as my hubby has been helped by that

We have very dependable info that the more we fixate on our selves the more anxious we can get, so hopefully this is not advice that is bad or I'd be worried even making a comment...
 
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Knowing that there is a happy ending at the end of all of this and that all of this really doesn't matter helps you a lot as you feel more powerful than you think. For example, if you lost all your money, remember that the money you were given were worthless to begin with and that it shouldn't feel so painful to take back real value that was stolen from you despite all it's pressuring. However, this doesn't work with extremely scary diseases such as Alzheimer's and Meniere's disease. Diseases that will make even the biggest gigachads fall down crying.
 
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Flareanthia said:
Nice avatar - for real, getting off of platforms that are bad is helpful (but also, I like star platinum, it is a cool stand)!

My husband is someone with chronic pain, Ican't say if this will help but it was advice that has made a massive difference in him. Stop thinking about yourself

I mean stop focusing on the problem more than is necessary. Jordan peterson touched on this, my hubby's psychologyst has spoken about this, if you focus on the problem more then it will affect you more than you should let it. Think about what the problem is only once a day, how it is affecting you, and how you can keep it from affecting you as much in the future. The rest of the time? Do not fixate on it, "stop thinking about yourself" in this case means you tell yourself to not fixate on the problem, don't think about it now, you will acknowledge and think about it ONLY at the allotted time and not let the pain occupy you ANY MORE than it has to, that's what has helped my husband

If this is not applicable to you I'm sorry to have wasted time, but I hope it does, as much as my hubby has been helped by that

We have very dependable info that the more we fixate on our selves the more anxious we can get, so hopefully this is not advice that is bad or I'd be worried even making a comment...
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thank you for your response. i appreciate the thoughtful words and hearing about your husband's experience.

you're right, it isn't good for me to ruminate. some days are worse than others. the things that used to be extrinsic motivators and "distractors" were largely physical in nature (hiking, lifting, boxing, good food+drink). a changed relationship with physical experience has made it hard to ground myself in the outside world. the things i used to associate with fulfillment and distraction are weighed down with baggage now.

basically i'm struggling to find a new sense of purpose and ways to get around unhealthy fixation/rumination. hopefully i can get to where your husband is with time. thanks again for the message.
 
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Knowing that there is a happy ending at the end of all of this and that all of this really doesn't matter helps you a lot as you feel more powerful than you think.
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this can actually be extremely dangerous depending on the person, it does not apply to everyone
I know for me, when I was thinking this, it just gave me far more reason to want to die because "I am in a bad place right now, but I know that if I die there is a good place that awaits me afterwards"
I'm not very religious, so I didn't think I was going to heaven or anything, but even seeing the afterlife as "neutral" made me want it more
Same goes for a lot of nihilism or other "nothing matters" philosophies
Even the positive ones that follow that statement up with "so take your life for a ride and try to enjoy yourself" will all end up becoming the same depressive mush if you tell yourself that stuff at your worst
Try literally anything else before trying this
 
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Don't know if this really helps with something like depression but I've had to deal with a lot of shit in life and sometimes doing stuff like this helps keep the mood up.

I've found that if you add things to your routine that help to relax you it can really take the edge off. Back in college I had to do really horrible and grueling work, but some mornings I would get some hot chocolate and drink it from the mug that a dear friend gave me. My job right now is horrible but listening to good music on the way there takes some of the stress away. When there were times someone needed to run an errand at work I'd take them because it gave me an excuse to see something out of the ordinary, sometimes I would make a point to dawdle and take in my new surroundings.

I don't know if this is perfect for every situation, since it arguably relies on dopamine, but I think it's a better alternative to smoking or drinking or pretending your problems don't exist. Finding a state you associate with relaxation, or even optimism, can help balance out the pit that negative times or experiences put you in.

It's no use worrying about things you can't control, human beings have so much autonomy that it only makes sense they should exercise it in order to make life feel better. Sometimes there is solace in knowing that your boss or your class will have to wait so you get the flavor of hot chocolate you like.
 
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Even though it is not healthy living a complex lifestyle, the knowledge that history always had shortcomings like this even supposedly newer ones considered very detrimental supposed world ending people thought would never recover from. When putting into perspective knowing slight hint of technology of the past we never heard of and knowing the sheer resiliency of the world really helps.

To cut it short, we went through a lot worse and still came out on top.
 
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It sounds really gay but a big thing I don't see mentioned often is feeling your feelings. Not necessarily having a good cry or whatever, but allowing yourself to process your bad emotions instead of hiding them because they're too intense or because you don't wanna deal with them. It causes them to build up and makes the next crash harder than it needs to be. That's a big part of recovery for hefty shit like Borderline Personality Disorder and it works.

Another one is treating it like a process and knowing that you have to get through it and not over it. There's no pulling yourself up by the bootstraps unless you wanna suffer indefinitely.
 
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Stopped eating so much processed junk, stopped living in filth, got a job with ass hours and hard work that pays well so I actually have money. Used said money to buy a motorcycle that I force myself to ride when Im depressed, works every time.

Basically the more I get done in a day, the longer the day feels (in a good way), and the better I feel sitting down at my PC to game. Gaming all day and watching TV sucks in your 20s.

Started setting hard goals (hiking 50 miles across an island) that I actually put effort and money onto following through on them.

Also setting very specific days a week when I allow myself to have alcohol in the house (i will drink all of it).

The biggest thing is money is the fuel for living your life better, and getting a shitty job that pays well was the key to getting the rest of my shit together.
 
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ive been living with depression for 25 yrs now. the only thing that helps me is me kitties, because I need to get up to care for them and my family.
im on Effexor 300mg, and still get bad anxiety and depression periods. im off work just now, trying to sort myself out.im also trying Shinjilet, which has a plethora of uses.
up the thread some one did say that the gut is the second brain. im sure I read somewhere , that the oesophageal lining has serotonin cells
now call me a dummy, for a while ive thought ive got autism. scored 53/68 online. ive done a test from my G.P, and awaiting results
this thread has also helped lol
thanks for listening
 
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The biggest thing is money is the fuel for living your life better
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No doubt this applies to some people but I find that the things that make me most happy have very little to do with, well, things.

Making friends laugh, running my hand through a gals hair with her head resting on my chest, watching bees hard at work, good stories, summer days, the feeling after finishing a workout, creative outlets, shitposting on KF.

Sure, if you are actually struggling to make rent and eat at the same time, money is an issue - but beyond some of the basics, I feel like the mindset of more consuming equalling more happiness is one of the primary drivers of modern unhappiness.
 
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