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Dunno about "depression" but meeting my wife and starting a family really killed off the listlessness I felt in my late 20s.
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As somebody that was in a very dark place for years, I'll tell you guys what worked for me.
Go sober, stop drinking and popping pills or whatever it is you do to find comfort. Its actually making you even more miserable. You aren't Ethan Ralph, put down the bottle and throw away whatever drugs you are taking.
Start taking vitamins. I personally take 1 a day mens and 5000 ius of vitamin D. I dont believe that mental illness is just a hormonal imbalance. But if you aren't giving your body what it needs, then its not going to function right and you are going to feel like shit.
Start working out. Even after going entirely sober and taking vitamins I am still a very paranoid person. I always have been. It runs in the family I think, There are several generations of people that have all been diagnosed with anxiety disorders. But when I work out I stop feeling anxious and paranoid. Its hard at first, but if you start off with easy short work outs and you do it consistently. Then before you know it, you'll be doing hour long weight lifting sessions and feeling genuinely happy afterwards.
If you feel like going to the gym would be a struggle because of insecurity or depression, buy a kettle bell and research what workouts to do with that. I fucking hate leaving my house and going to a gym full of a bunch of normies and annoying pop music, so I just work out in my back yard with the kettle bell.
I'd strongly suggest a psychiatric evaluation. There is a decent chance there are medications that can help with that.
With a decent diet and exercise most can probably manage. Ultimately it's in the hands of God. The way most people live in sin and darkness if you were not numb and hard-hearted you would tend to be heart-broken.
If you stay a drug-addicted loser that can't get women, it won't get better. Stop with the cope about not dating because you are scared. Not only does it sound incredibly gay, it's bullshit. The only guys who can't get over a girl after two years are the ones for whom getting a girl is a once in a lifetime opportunity. Stop being that guy and all these problems disappear.How do you get over a girl? It's usually been pretty easy but this time, it's been like 2 years and I just can't shake her. I don't even want to date because I still feel like there's a chance (there isn't) and I don't want to give someone else the power to hurt me like she did. I pretty much just rely on a good group of friends and shitloads of drugs to keep my mind off of her but like, shit, does it get better? I just want to wake up with her in my arms again.
How do you get over a girl? It's usually been pretty easy but this time, it's been like 2 years and I just can't shake her. I don't even want to date because I still feel like there's a chance (there isn't) and I don't want to give someone else the power to hurt me like she did. I pretty much just rely on a good group of friends and shitloads of drugs to keep my mind off of her but like, shit, does it get better? I just want to wake up with her in my arms again.
What made her special wasn't that she was the only girl I could get, it was spending years with her and falling in love with her and all the memories I have with her. I've tried with other women but the only way I can describe it is like getting most of the way through a video game, losing your save file and having to start back at the tutorial. It didn't help that she just ghosted me one day when AFAIK everything was fine between us.If you stay a drug-addicted loser that can't get women, it won't get better. Stop with the cope about not dating because you are scared. Not only does it sound incredibly gay, it's bullshit. The only guys who can't get over a girl after two years are the ones for whom getting a girl is a once in a lifetime opportunity. Stop being that guy and all these problems disappear.
The point is that people without a future get really hung up on the past. Stop doing drugs. Go to the gym. Get your testosterone up. Stop being fat. Use your free time doing productive things instead of consooming content. Run through some slam pigs. Stop living the life of a depressed person and you'll stop being depressed.What made her special wasn't that she was the only girl I could get, it was spending years with her and falling in love with her and all the memories I have with her. I've tried with other women but the only way I can describe it is like getting most of the way through a video game, losing your save file and having to start back at the tutorial. It didn't help that she just ghosted me one day when AFAIK everything was fine between us.
I'm not trying to date anyone I just don't want to think about her anymore, unless your point is that another women is how that happens but I've never had to start dating again to get over someone, it's always happened pretty fast.
That's the thing, I do have a future, I have friends I party way too hard with, I'm coming up at work, I have a decent house and make plenty of money. I just get these moments when I'm alone where I hear a song that reminds me of her or a car that looks like her old car and it's like a punch in the gut. Also, I'm not fat. I do not approve of fat people and I will outlive all of them despite my many vices. Call me a junkie or a loser, fine, but please don't call me fat. I'm starting boxing lessons at a local gym with my friend when we can enroll in classes so maybe that will help.The point is that people without a future get really hung up on the past. Stop doing drugs. Go to the gym. Get your testosterone up. Stop being fat. Use your free time doing productive things instead of consooming content. Run through some slam pigs. Stop living the life of a depressed person and you'll stop being depressed.
Based. A lot of depressed people just have fucked hormone profiles and boxing and weightlifting will definitely improve that. You also have a hard time focusing on bullshit when you're physically exhausted.Call me a junkie or a loser, fine, but please don't call me fat. I'm starting boxing lessons at a local gym with my friend when we can enroll in classes so maybe that will help.
There is never any closure. Women often don't even know why they left and if they do, they aren't going to tell you. They will just tell you something vague and non-confrontational, but the real reason is because they believe they can do better.I guess I just want some closure, I want to know why she left but I never will.
Who are you going to talk to about it? Your family? Your friends?Don't ask about it on Kiwi Farms?![]()
I couldn't possibly agree more with what this person said. Especially pay attention to your diet. What you ingest affects your mental health; the body is one piece. Treat it as such when it comes to diet and exercise.Your gut is your second brain. If you eat like shit, you will mentally feel like shit over time. Treat your body right by eating the right food, and you will help yourself greatly.
Stop overeating if you're doing it currently. Humans are actually happier being slightly hungry. Your gut will thank you.
Likewise with exercise. Exercise produces dopamine which depressed people sorely need. It won't cure you, but it will help fight it.
Do a puzzle every day, like sudoku. It not only releases dopamine upon completion but it helps fight off brain plaques/Alzheimers.
These are three activities you can do solo.
Don't rely on drugs until you've exhausted those two options over 3 months of doing it. Drug dependency in the brain is a serious issue for those suffering from depression.