How do you fight depression? - Let's help each other

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As somebody that was in a very dark place for years, I'll tell you guys what worked for me.

Go sober, stop drinking and popping pills or whatever it is you do to find comfort. Its actually making you even more miserable. You aren't Ethan Ralph, put down the bottle and throw away whatever drugs you are taking.

Start taking vitamins. I personally take 1 a day mens and 5000 ius of vitamin D. I dont believe that mental illness is just a hormonal imbalance. But if you aren't giving your body what it needs, then its not going to function right and you are going to feel like shit.

Start working out. Even after going entirely sober and taking vitamins I am still a very paranoid person. I always have been. It runs in the family I think, There are several generations of people that have all been diagnosed with anxiety disorders. But when I work out I stop feeling anxious and paranoid. Its hard at first, but if you start off with easy short work outs and you do it consistently. Then before you know it, you'll be doing hour long weight lifting sessions and feeling genuinely happy afterwards.

If you feel like going to the gym would be a struggle because of insecurity or depression, buy a kettle bell and research what workouts to do with that. I fucking hate leaving my house and going to a gym full of a bunch of normies and annoying pop music, so I just work out in my back yard with the kettle bell.

Just as an FYI to everyone reading this thread, Anxiety =//= Paranoia. These are, from a psychiatric perspective, very distinct things. They usually have very different origins and pathology except when one presages the other, such as paranoia causing anxiety. Anxiety leading to paranoia is much more rare.

For anyone where paranoia is a major part of what is bothering them, I'd strongly suggest a psychiatric evaluation. There is a decent chance there are medications that can help with that.
 
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have you ever tried having sex with someone you hate OP? the mixture of hatred and sexual release provides a pretty good amount of dopamine for a day or two at least.
 
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You don't, let it consume like year-old shit
I'd strongly suggest a psychiatric evaluation. There is a decent chance there are medications that can help with that.

when you've awoken you'll realize that you're just a pawn in the 10 year system.
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Depression is a diagnosis, a "mood disorder" used to try and describe some of the myriad ways we suffer in spirit and mind.

The guesses* that have been made with generations of meds by the doctors and therapists that prescribe them (on behalf of the drug companies) have shown an overall track record of making people worse or no better, or just numb & drugged up. Some cases have responded well. No doubt some though, mostly less severe cases, would have improved/recovered without the intervention.


I think it's a bit like a fever. If you have a seriously high temperature it can kill you, but most fevers just need you to suffer through them as our ancestors did. There's a suggestion that excessive use of fever-fighting meds can prolong or worsen illness.
Obviously the conditions aren't the same for people suffering with depression, but I think if it has a spiritual or or other deeper cause, drugging someone up may prevent them facing the cause of their pain, ultimately leading to worse outcomes. It certainly leads to better profits and a more docile population, which is the most plausible explanation for the huge growth in pill-popping that suits the richest and most powerful in medicine and those charged with regulating them (which are both mostly lackeys for the drug companies).

With a decent diet and exercise most can probably manage. Ultimately it's in the hands of God. The way most people live in sin and darkness if you were not numb and hard-hearted you would tend to be heart-broken.
 
With a decent diet and exercise most can probably manage. Ultimately it's in the hands of God. The way most people live in sin and darkness if you were not numb and hard-hearted you would tend to be heart-broken.

Your gut is your second brain. If you eat like shit, you will mentally feel like shit over time. Treat your body right by eating the right food, and you will help yourself greatly.

Stop overeating if you're doing it currently. Humans are actually happier being slightly hungry. Your gut will thank you.

Likewise with exercise. Exercise produces dopamine which depressed people sorely need. It won't cure you, but it will help fight it.

Do a puzzle every day, like sudoku. It not only releases dopamine upon completion but it helps fight off brain plaques/Alzheimers.

These are three activities you can do solo.

Don't rely on drugs until you've exhausted those two options over 3 months of doing it. Drug dependency in the brain is a serious issue for those suffering from depression.
 
How do you get over a girl? It's usually been pretty easy but this time, it's been like 2 years and I just can't shake her. I don't even want to date because I still feel like there's a chance (there isn't) and I don't want to give someone else the power to hurt me like she did. I pretty much just rely on a good group of friends and shitloads of drugs to keep my mind off of her but like, shit, does it get better? I just want to wake up with her in my arms again.
 
How do you get over a girl? It's usually been pretty easy but this time, it's been like 2 years and I just can't shake her. I don't even want to date because I still feel like there's a chance (there isn't) and I don't want to give someone else the power to hurt me like she did. I pretty much just rely on a good group of friends and shitloads of drugs to keep my mind off of her but like, shit, does it get better? I just want to wake up with her in my arms again.
If you stay a drug-addicted loser that can't get women, it won't get better. Stop with the cope about not dating because you are scared. Not only does it sound incredibly gay, it's bullshit. The only guys who can't get over a girl after two years are the ones for whom getting a girl is a once in a lifetime opportunity. Stop being that guy and all these problems disappear.
 
How do you get over a girl? It's usually been pretty easy but this time, it's been like 2 years and I just can't shake her. I don't even want to date because I still feel like there's a chance (there isn't) and I don't want to give someone else the power to hurt me like she did. I pretty much just rely on a good group of friends and shitloads of drugs to keep my mind off of her but like, shit, does it get better? I just want to wake up with her in my arms again.

Everyone is different, but time heals all. Took me a stupidly long time to get over one of my S.Os from way back when. Thought I'd never love again, but I was happily proven wrong by Mrs Jong. My only regret about the whole thing is that I spent so much time moping about my ex like a retard.

@Tren Shapiro gives decent advice I actually wish I'd had at the time - Don't stop dating because you're scared. You know there isn't a chance anymore so it's done, so get out there, don't be a drug-addicted loser, and live.
 
If you stay a drug-addicted loser that can't get women, it won't get better. Stop with the cope about not dating because you are scared. Not only does it sound incredibly gay, it's bullshit. The only guys who can't get over a girl after two years are the ones for whom getting a girl is a once in a lifetime opportunity. Stop being that guy and all these problems disappear.
What made her special wasn't that she was the only girl I could get, it was spending years with her and falling in love with her and all the memories I have with her. I've tried with other women but the only way I can describe it is like getting most of the way through a video game, losing your save file and having to start back at the tutorial. It didn't help that she just ghosted me one day when AFAIK everything was fine between us.

I'm not trying to date anyone I just don't want to think about her anymore, unless your point is that another women is how that happens but I've never had to start dating again to get over someone, it's always happened pretty fast.
 
What made her special wasn't that she was the only girl I could get, it was spending years with her and falling in love with her and all the memories I have with her. I've tried with other women but the only way I can describe it is like getting most of the way through a video game, losing your save file and having to start back at the tutorial. It didn't help that she just ghosted me one day when AFAIK everything was fine between us.

I'm not trying to date anyone I just don't want to think about her anymore, unless your point is that another women is how that happens but I've never had to start dating again to get over someone, it's always happened pretty fast.
The point is that people without a future get really hung up on the past. Stop doing drugs. Go to the gym. Get your testosterone up. Stop being fat. Use your free time doing productive things instead of consooming content. Run through some slam pigs. Stop living the life of a depressed person and you'll stop being depressed.
 
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The point is that people without a future get really hung up on the past. Stop doing drugs. Go to the gym. Get your testosterone up. Stop being fat. Use your free time doing productive things instead of consooming content. Run through some slam pigs. Stop living the life of a depressed person and you'll stop being depressed.
That's the thing, I do have a future, I have friends I party way too hard with, I'm coming up at work, I have a decent house and make plenty of money. I just get these moments when I'm alone where I hear a song that reminds me of her or a car that looks like her old car and it's like a punch in the gut. Also, I'm not fat. I do not approve of fat people and I will outlive all of them despite my many vices. Call me a junkie or a loser, fine, but please don't call me fat. I'm starting boxing lessons at a local gym with my friend when we can enroll in classes so maybe that will help.

I guess I just want some closure, I want to know why she left but I never will.
 
Call me a junkie or a loser, fine, but please don't call me fat. I'm starting boxing lessons at a local gym with my friend when we can enroll in classes so maybe that will help.
Based. A lot of depressed people just have fucked hormone profiles and boxing and weightlifting will definitely improve that. You also have a hard time focusing on bullshit when you're physically exhausted.

I guess I just want some closure, I want to know why she left but I never will.
There is never any closure. Women often don't even know why they left and if they do, they aren't going to tell you. They will just tell you something vague and non-confrontational, but the real reason is because they believe they can do better.
 
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whenever i start to feel sad, I hop on my motorcycle and let the goyspeed make me happy.

genuinely I done this when im feeling bad
 
Try to think of one’s depression symptoms as not an essential part of you but a symptom of a disease; like a ghost in your head that’s constantly making you see the darkness of life and showing you disturbing images and causing the fatigue and the anxiety and the loss of interest in things you used to enjoy. It’s ok to externalize those feelings and focus on who you are when you’re doing well.

Don’t adopt other peoples bad habits to deal with depression. For example, if your vice is drinking, and you make a depression friend who prefers cutting, do not experiment with cutting to see if it’s a good alternative to drinking. It isn’t.

Keep a short list of people who you can call or seek out when things get really awful and overwhelming. It’s better to ask them to come be with you than try to tough out really bad symptoms like suicidal ideation.

Stick to your medication regimens if you have them; the drugs won’t work if you don’t take them. If they aren’t working tell your provider that and try something else rather than giving up on medication as a concept.

Focus on what you could do to make the life you are living more like the life you want to live. Try not to dive into a pile of drugs or booze for a quick boost, but think of longer-term solutions that will let you enjoy your life more without needing to numb out as a crutch.

Try to remember that there are future opportunists and possibilities that you can’t be aware of now, and that those possibilities make life worth living.
 
Your gut is your second brain. If you eat like shit, you will mentally feel like shit over time. Treat your body right by eating the right food, and you will help yourself greatly.

Stop overeating if you're doing it currently. Humans are actually happier being slightly hungry. Your gut will thank you.

Likewise with exercise. Exercise produces dopamine which depressed people sorely need. It won't cure you, but it will help fight it.

Do a puzzle every day, like sudoku. It not only releases dopamine upon completion but it helps fight off brain plaques/Alzheimers.

These are three activities you can do solo.

Don't rely on drugs until you've exhausted those two options over 3 months of doing it. Drug dependency in the brain is a serious issue for those suffering from depression.
I couldn't possibly agree more with what this person said. Especially pay attention to your diet. What you ingest affects your mental health; the body is one piece. Treat it as such when it comes to diet and exercise.

Get sunlight, at least 30 minutes a day. Supplement with vitamin D3 and K2. Stay hydrated. Check your sleep hygiene. I can't stress enough how important good quality sleep is to mental health and homeostasis.

This will help tremendously: find a purpose. Become part of something bigger than yourself. It does not matter what it is. Go after integrating yourself into it. It's going to come with people and all the good and bad they bring. Still, there are not words to express just how much this helps you not feel worthless.

Finally, have some faith in yourself if you truly want to get better. This is a process. It takes time. It takes suffering. It takes patience. You are going to fuck things up. Don't give up when it happens. It is never weak to ask for help when you need it.
 
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