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- Dec 21, 2019
Sometimes, part of the problem is worrying too much about things we don't really have any control over. Something crappy has happened - can you do anything to change it? No? Then stop worrying about it. What is worrying going to do? It's only going to make you miserable, and you'll have neglected the things that you care about and yourself as a result.
Instead, focus on what you can control. Figure out what you want from life, what you value, and take the steps that you can to accomplish this.
And accept as well that you aren't going to be happy all of the time, or even a lot of the time - who truly is? There's always going to be something along the way to put a damper on your mood... that's just life for you. So why strive for something that's impossible? Rather, accept that there will be both good times and bad. We can't understand one without knowing the other, after all. It's quite freeing realising this, and it helped me to appreciate the good times even more.
You might find that this book helps you. (Mobi file for Kindle users.) I'm not big on self-help books normally, but I found it helped me to think about things in a less neurotic way, giving me a new and more useful perspective and basis for tackling issues and problems I experience.
To give a basic example - and I think the book may even use this as an example - if I'm going to be late to work because of traffic, and there's nothing I can do to change that, should I get angry and frustrated about this? Will ranting and raving achieve anything other than prolong my being pissed off? Will it get me to work any sooner? No, so why put myself into that state, when I could just use the time to listen to some music I like or catch up on a podcast I enjoy? I'm still going to be late either way, so may as well make the most of it.
You do get less neurotic as you age, too, so things will get better with time regardless. Keep on and at it, frens.
Instead, focus on what you can control. Figure out what you want from life, what you value, and take the steps that you can to accomplish this.
And accept as well that you aren't going to be happy all of the time, or even a lot of the time - who truly is? There's always going to be something along the way to put a damper on your mood... that's just life for you. So why strive for something that's impossible? Rather, accept that there will be both good times and bad. We can't understand one without knowing the other, after all. It's quite freeing realising this, and it helped me to appreciate the good times even more.
You might find that this book helps you. (Mobi file for Kindle users.) I'm not big on self-help books normally, but I found it helped me to think about things in a less neurotic way, giving me a new and more useful perspective and basis for tackling issues and problems I experience.
To give a basic example - and I think the book may even use this as an example - if I'm going to be late to work because of traffic, and there's nothing I can do to change that, should I get angry and frustrated about this? Will ranting and raving achieve anything other than prolong my being pissed off? Will it get me to work any sooner? No, so why put myself into that state, when I could just use the time to listen to some music I like or catch up on a podcast I enjoy? I'm still going to be late either way, so may as well make the most of it.
You do get less neurotic as you age, too, so things will get better with time regardless. Keep on and at it, frens.