Yeah, the people who did get secularized or defanged.
But that's the point. They're not secularized / defanged. They are playing you and you're falling for it. If the US continues to increase muslim immigration you will see it too.
You say Americans are arrogant? The Dutch dichotomy is Schrödinger's ineffectual dutchmen. Its either "There is nothing we could have done differently to deradicalize them or better integrate them" vs "We shouldn't even try to deradicalize them". Both of these solutions are pretty off the mark, but I wouldn't expect a Dutchman to see the problem with either approach.
I'm saying learn from the fucking mistake of my parent's generation. They came here as temporary migrant workers, the way italians had in years before. But unlike the italians they never went back (because our socialist/commie government at the time gave them legal immigrant status rather than returning them). We could have just held the agreement and tell them to go back as the deal was, rather than trying to convince them to stay. These were mostly illiterate immigrants, they were selected for their illiteracy so they could be better exploited as factory workers.
I'm saying Dutch strategy was terrible; everything about it. I know I stepped on your american ego there, but I mean it specifically in context of islam. It's not my fucking ego that's speaking here, it's my love of what this country was and could be again. It's a full acknowledging how fucking backward our approach has been that got us here. I'm saying don't make the fucking same mistake because what you're saying here was a pretty common sentiment here 20-30 years ago. What you're suggesting has been done in a number of places and not had the effect you're suggesting it would have. I'm saying we stepped on a landmine, don't get into this field, don't make the same mistake. But americans never believe it, because they know a kind, smart muslim. We'll I've known a bunch of those as well. Coming over for dinner. But then as there are more and more muslims and they start going to the mosque more and more, and suddenly music is haram, drinking is haram. They stop coming over for dinner.
It's a mistake to think Dutch government bent backwards. They leaned forward into it. It's not the same thing. People that spoke out against it, like CD, were terrorized and bombed. Recently, involved journalists admitted they falsified the image of him in media. They weren't too permissive; they actively persued their goals and bombed people that disagreed and were a threat to their goals.
And deradicalize them? We can't deradicalize them without destroying the things we stand for. When you take control of their children's minds, as it requires, then you've just created the precedence for the state to do that to children. (Not that our government isn't doing that with the recent youth news program telling kids that people that don't wear masks kill people by not doing so).
All I'm asking for is for you to take the problem seriously and not think that any of limp wristed attempts are going to work.
In case you're wondering here's the best solutions I've been able to think of. The peaceful solution would be a gradual exodus, with incentives for leaving and penalties for staying. The violent one would be religious cleansing. Any other solution is admitting to a defeat in 4-5 decades to the high birth number of muslims and younger age of starting families. I'm open to other ideas. I know that "just give the worst of muslims a place in society" is exactly the kind of limp dicked approach that you think you are challenging.
Not that it matters what I can think of. Mass immigration to each western country is not a fluke, it's a strategy. It's not a failure, it's a success, for those who planned it.
PS. I see you're not touching on the mexican mass immigration. When talking about kosher meats, it's not like you're putting any resistance to paying jews for all the kosher products either, so why would it suddenly be a problem when it comes to muslims?