How to enjoy life again as you get older?

[YTV In the 90s]

You see my name, you can probably guess what kind of things I liked. Life is pretty simple when you're growing up, no bills, no deadlines, just school and whatever your family demands of you at the time. Most people leave you alone, and you feel like you have all the time in the world to practice a skill, or start a pointless project in your backyard. Friends come easy, because no one is guarding themselves in youth. The internet is full of interesting things, and hardly ever boring, there are so many pieces of old media to discover and everyone is talking about them. Technology is on the rise and things seem like they're just going to keep getting better, so each year is more exciting.

Fastforward to adulthood,
Making a friend is an exercise in futility, find someone with as few conflicting flaws as possible and hope they find the same in you. Everyone is apprehensive of each other, no one has the patience to sit down and talk at length, and the internet is just hitting us with instant gratification and clickbait day after day. As I notice patterns, I get bored, I don't feel lost online anymore or like there is anything exciting to discover. Wikipedia is this big knowledge base of people and places, and yet things that used to be multi day interests and excursions, or discoveries of new sites and communities, is now just "eh, that's neat" and moving on to the regular vices.

This place was one of those excursions that gave me hope that things were still interesting somewhere, but even here I do see some of the usual patterns bleeding out from the same sources like youtube, imgur, twitter, reddit, 4chan etc. Some of you have been around just as long as I have, are any of you still enjoying life as you get older? if so, what do you do that interests you? What are your hopes for the future?
Thanks for reading my blog.

 

[JULAY]

You sound like you fucking suck as a person, so I'm guessing the problem is you.

 

[b0o0pinsn0o0tz]

The secret is, I never enjoyed life.

 

[JambledUpWords]

• Stay on top of meds (if you need them)
• Find joy in small things
  • Nice weather
  • A good conversation
  • A hug
  • Giving/receiving compliments
  • A nice meal shared with others
  • Helping others out
• Do chores to make where you live a nice place (it also helps in making yourself feel useful)
• Find a hobby you have a passion for or start a new hobby
• Watch your weight (many health problems will be mitigated if you avoid gaining too much weight)
• Find a community where you feel belonging
  • Church
  • Work
  • Hobbyists
  • Academic groups
  • Sports
  • Neighbors
• Try to accomplish at least one hard thing during the year (challenges help the brain and they help you realize your potential)
• If you have the time/money, plan a vacation or cool experience to look foreword to
• Try to conquer at least one thing you’ve been afraid to do (within reason)
• Don’t forget to remind yourself of what you already have done and are capable of doing
  • Just make sure it doesn’t get to your head
• Learn to be okay with your aging body and don’t look at it in shame (look at it as how long you’ve had to live so far and what you accomplished with it)

 

[snailslime]

get off the internet and try to make irl friends. it's obviously hard to do that right now, but you can try using a service like bumble bff or something. i noticed an instant improvement to my mental health after i stopped letting the internet consume so much of my life

also are you single? you may just be lonely and in need of a bf/gf

 

[uncleShitHeel]

I'd advise you take up heroin.

 

[YTV In the 90s]

• Stay on top of meds (if you need them)
• Find joy in small things
  • Nice weather
  • A good conversation
  • A hug
  • Giving/receiving compliments
  • A nice meal shared with others
  • Helping others out
• Do chores to make where you live a nice place (it also helps in making yourself feel useful)
• Find a hobby you have a passion for or start a new hobby
• Watch your weight (many health problems will be mitigated if you avoid gaining too much weight)
• Find a community where you feel belonging
  • Church
  • Work
  • Hobbyists
  • Academic groups
  • Sports
  • Neighbors
• Try to accomplish at least one hard thing during the year (challenges help the brain and they help you realize your potential)
• If you have the time/money, plan a vacation or cool experience to look foreword to
• Try to conquer at least one thing you’ve been afraid to do (within reason)
• Don’t forget to remind yourself of what you already have done and are capable of doing
  • Just make sure it doesn’t get to your head
• Learn to be okay with your aging body and don’t look at it in shame (look at it as how long you’ve had to live so far and what you accomplished with it)

I can appreciate weather, but things like chores and cleaning, I do those, but I find no joy in it. I get that some people feel good about organizing their space, but it's never really appealed to me. As far as communities go, that was my highschool friends, most of them have moved on, or become the atypical facebook types sharing memes or shocking news articles but not really doing much talking. My problem is that barely anything seems appealing these days. I'm more fascinated by communities that have lasted out the ages, or things that have remained unchanged for the last 20 years like an old building.

get off the internet and try to make irl friends. it's obviously hard to do that right now, but you can try using a service like bumble bff or something. i noticed an instant improvement to my mental health after i stopped letting the internet consume so much of my life

also are you single? you may just be lonely and in need of a bf/gf

Nah I've had a girlfriend for most of my adult life. I've tried attending some community events like when a symphony plays, or there's some kind of workshop, but I honestly find it all so boring and unappealing. I feel like all the fun people are now beyond my age group, so I'm just going to be a bored hermit for the rest of my life. Everyone gets so drained as they age.

 

[JambledUpWords]

I can appreciate weather, but things like chores and cleaning, I do those, but I find no joy in it. I get that some people feel good about organizing their space, but it's never really appealed to me. As far as communities go, that was my highschool friends, most of them have moved on, or become the atypical facebook types sharing memes or shocking news articles but not really doing much talking. My problem is that barely anything seems appealing these days. I'm more fascinated by communities that have lasted out the ages, or things that have remained unchanged for the last 20 years like an old building.

Sometimes with finding happiness, you have to create your own new things sometimes. I’ve moved quite a bit and have had to make new friends, and in that process I found my husband. If you’re interested in old things, maybe you’d like learning about history? Learning about the past can give you a new outlook on the present. Also, I hate to break it to you, but few things in life are ever permanent. That’s why you need to keep yourself grounded. I know changes are hard, but change can help you grow. If you can, I advice you to find a place where you have belonging. People will still move, others will die, and new people will join, but so long as you feel welcome and purposeful, I promise you that you will feel like life has more meaning. You are not alone, and you won’t feel alone if you have a good support group. You have power to change things for yourself, use it.

 

[Chaos Theorist]

Heroin

 

[Shadfan666xxx000]

Just chill out and stop giving a shit for a while. Keep yourself healthy of course but dont go out of your way to try something new if you don't feel any passion for it. At most, find a side gig and get greedy for a while and you might feel excited about something.

 

[Grinrow]

Have you tried taking up fishing? It helped me alot when I was feeling down a few years back and its the perfect time to get into it.

 

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Nah I've had a girlfriend for most of my adult life... I feel like all the fun people are now beyond my age group, so I'm just going to be a bored hermit for the rest of my life. Everyone gets so drained as they age.

This is destiny telling you to have children. It is normal not to enjoy chores done to serve yourself- it is normal to derive enjoyment serving others. Good things will come to those who do good deeds.

 

[voodoovenom]

To the OP, just wait till the gay nihilism, and eventual boredom to things you always enjoyed, sets in. Even this place is subject to the inevitable "same-ish" quality as everything else, it'll even become the same 'thing' as other places you mentioned. KF and it's users will turn into a mini-twitter before it fizzles out, the characteristics are already there. Maybe having a spouse and kids if you can afford it, don't be like me, that venture was an absolute disaster and I've never felt the motivation to try since. Never creating a family to replace the one that is dead or dying, 'losing everything' is an accurate statement to the rest of life till death. Try a hobby if that doesn't get old, you have something that's always new. I recommend you get desperate and venture as far outside your comfort zone as possible, otherwise you'll just feel alienated and disgusted by anything new, wishing for old times with things you already know, then it'll just be you, like me never feeling more than dead inside.

 

[Metric is Stupid]

"How do I enjoy life?"

Proceeds to talk about internet culture as the reason why life is meaningless

Hmm... Can't say.

 

[Feline Supremacist]

I suggest going to a shithole country and live like the locals for a few months. Central Africa/rural Mexico/Dominican Republic for example.

You will learn to appreciate things like safe drinking water, a working toilet/sewage system and hot showers on demand.

Also you will value having law enforcement whose immediate response to a 911 call isn't to demand a bribe or beat the shit out of you for not paying up.

 

[Rokko]

This question cannot be answered by anyone but you. Its a question as old as the rocks!
Look at it like something positive, it makes you think about your life.

You cannot change any "variable" in this scenario except your mindset.

Every human has a point in their life that is depressing at first, but a door retrospectively.
Some humans ignore it, some get spiritual, some buy a Porsche.

Enjoy it! Cheers.

 

[Chad Nasty]

Stick some dicks in ur butt op

 

[Chan Fan]

I'm just going to be a bored hermit for the rest of my life

You've already made up your mind any nothing any of us tell you will change that

 

[oldTireWater]

Exercise and anger.

 

[TurdFondler]

Turn off the computer, go outside and only turn it back on once you're normal.