How to enjoy life again as you get older?

It's not really a matter of pity alone, I do love and care about her, if I hated her guts I would have left ages ago during some of the worst fights. She's a nice girl most of the time, and we tolerate each other's flaws, share a lot of interests in cartoons and video games. If anything I'm selfish for wanting more experiences outside of that.


I mean, I don't know you, I'm not going to tell you to break up with your girlfriend, but so far you've said you've been with her since you were a teenager, you can't sleep unless she goes to her parents, you thought about leaving multiple times, you'd promised yourself you'd leave by 30 and you feel sorry for her.

Don't take my advice alone, talk to people you know like your parents or friends or whoever, again I want to stress I do not know you and I'm only getting the bits and pieces you post here, but it really sounds like you resent your girlfriend and haven't had the balls to leave for years.
 
If anything I'm selfish for wanting more experiences outside of that.

No you're not

What @Never Scored said sounds about right. Is she your very first and only serious relationship? Seems like it. Yeah, breaking up is gonna hurt, but it just really sounds like you're fucking miserable and need to move on. You two aren't the same people you were when you were teenagers. Plus, you don't need to feel sorry for her, like she's gonna be alone - women can move on and find someone new in no time. Hell, I felt that way about my first girlfriend, but when we finally broke up, she started dating immediately and was married within a year.

She'll be fine, dude. You do you.
 
It's not really a matter of pity alone, I do love and care about her, if I hated her guts I would have left ages ago during some of the worst fights. She's a nice girl most of the time, and we tolerate each other's flaws, share a lot of interests in cartoons and video games. If anything I'm selfish for wanting more experiences outside of that.
Have you guys ever discussed studying Torah together? Apparently it turns even the foulest wife-beating, pedo gorillas into Pinnacle Man. If it can do that for Marshall Casterson, imagine what it could do for you....
 
It's not really a matter of pity alone, I do love and care about her, if I hated her guts I would have left ages ago during some of the worst fights. She's a nice girl most of the time, and we tolerate each other's flaws, share a lot of interests in cartoons and video games. If anything I'm selfish for wanting more experiences outside of that.

Is she above 200lbs? Employed? Either way just leave, she will have a new partner before you do if this is your first relationship and you're 30+, so don't feel sorry for her.
 
Some of the answers given have made me happy just knowing that even on a despicable femnazi site like this, there are still wonderful wholesome people who care about others :)
 
Really? Being a kid fucking sucked. Everyone told you what to do and you had no freedom. As an adult you can do anything you want. The only catch is that you have to deal with the consequences of your actions. You can even kill people. You would just have to deal with the cops and big black men in jail afterward.
 
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