I Failed At Life

Jesus christ.

Get offline, get a job (and don't base it around where a goth girl works, just get something and focus on getting a better one after awhile or a promotion), save up, try to get a place or live with some other half-decent dudes, do some physical activity, and someone said reach out to your pastor/priest if you are actively religious and suicidal again and that is a good idea.

Op get offline, step one. STEP ONE.

edit to say actually idk what denomination you are but just talk to someone anyway. That is too much self-loathing to tackle alone and you need someone to help you/stay accountable to some of your goals or to even make goals with
 
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Saddam Hussain Obama said:
i wanna work there because as ive mentioned before this gothic chick i have a crush on works there so i would get two benefits

1 i would get to be away from my mom
2 i would get to know her and be her friend
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You're trying to date this girl. Ask her out from the jump and then see where it goes.
 
retard strength II said:
Jesus christ.

Get offline, get a job (and don't base it around where a goth girl works, just get something and focus on getting a better one after awhile or a promotion), save up, try to get a place or live with some other half-decent dudes, do some physical activity, and someone said reach out to your pastor/priest if you are actively religious and suicidal again and that is a good idea.

Op get offline, step one. STEP ONE.

edit to say actually idk what denomination you are but just talk to someone anyway. That is too much self-loathing to tackle alone and you need someone to help you/stay accountable to some of your goals or to even make goals with
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im not in a church right now that might be a good idea though get into a church
Shadfan666xxx000 said:
You're trying to date this girl. Ask her out from the jump and then see where it goes.
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next time i see her im gonna ask her out
 
Saddam Hussain Obama said:
next time i see her im gonna ask her out
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No, not until your shit is totogether. You can be a total bum in most cases and still get and keep the girl but you need confidence and independence. Get a car and a job where you're valued by your fellows and either have your own place or commandeer it from your family. If she's worth it, she won't easily settle for less.
 
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No, not until your shit is totogether. You can be a total bum in most cases and still get and keep the girl but you need confidence and independence. Get a car and a job where you're valued by your fellows and either have your own place or commandeer it from your family. If she's worth it, she won't easily settle for less.
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yeah on second thought once i have my car and can go by myself i will ask her out
 
Shadfan666xxx000 said:
Thats smart. Remember not to neglect your social skills either. You don't want to be that guy who buys random stuff for a girl and has her leech off you before bailing.
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my social skills improve when im alone because i know that if i embrass myself nobodys gonna remember it but me vs with my mom she never forgets
 
Another piece of advice that I would recommend is find some kind of hobby that isn't internet based. Reading, writing, drawing, painting figurines, whittling, bushcraft, hiking, cooking etc are ways to disengage from technological brain fog. Its important to keep in mind that its okay to royally fucking suck at doing these things. I can only really draw shapes and abstract designs, I only tend to whittle sticks to points and then just toss them in the fire, sometimes it takes me months to finish one or two books, I write mostly nonsense but at least something gets on the page. The nature of a hobby is not to achieve perfection, its not to make money, its not to make people proud; its to help you go to bed thinking "Hey at least I did something today" and to help you wake up thinking "hey there’s something I want to do today". You mentioned rocks and religion in your post. You could start making it a hobby to go out into your areas and find a cool rock and you could make a hobby of maintaining that collection whether it be a little monument in your garden or a detailed shelf in your room. You could make a hobby of reading and understanding your religious texts, taking notes or marking favorite passages maybe branching out to adjacent faiths to learn about their differences. No matter what though none of this will fall into your lap, you have to go out and search for it and you have to instill meaning into it.
 
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Sorry you're going through it OP.

I've climbed my way out of a similar situation in my mid/late twenties. You need to get in a fitness routine, it helps give you something to be directly in control of and holds you accountable. Even if you have to just get a job at a gym as a desk worker, do it. Do whatever it takes to get in and create the habit of going to the gym 3-4 days a week. Figure out what you love at the gym then do that, and do it a lot. Take preworkout every day, listen to podcasts, read a book, etc. Just find something to get you accountable and working on your health every day.

Physical health is so important to mental wellbeing and having the discipline to get into fitness in an earnest way unironically "builds character" and has you learn first hand motivation/discipline tools that you can apply to other facets of your life. Losing the weight will give you the biggest confidence boost in the world, because its something you took control of and fought to get back.
 
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If you're a Christian, you don't have to fear death. God has spared us from it in His infinite mercy. Try to stop judging other people before you seriously work on yourself. It will only hurt and upset you, which further distracts you. Eat a diet where you drink plenty of water, eat lots of lean protein and greens, and clean your room. Start doing some resistance exercises like pushups and set ups every day to work out the tension in your body. Stretch. Pray twice a day. Get intense cardiovascular exercise three days a week at minimum. I really believe these are the foundations for a good life.
 
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Saddam Hussain Obama said:
i ate like garbage today should i still workout?
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What do you think I will say? Yes. Your workout will be less effective and you might get heartburn, but you will still have worked out. It's best to work out in the morning in a fasted state, but any time and condition will do. Try to hang on to the positive feeling and achievements regardless.

Just because you didn't have the start of a virtuous day does not mean you have to finish it like that. This is called the "what the hell" effect:
The what-the-hell effect describes the cycle you feel when you indulge, regret what you’ve done, and then go back for more. Your brain rationalizes your behavior by saying, “You already blew your goal of only having two cookies, so... what the hell, you might as well eat the entire pan.” The phrase was coined by dieting researchers, but the effect can apply to any setback or willpower challenge.
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There is no evidence to say you can improve intelligence beyond what you currently have but willpower can definitely be trained, like a muscle.

Do the work.
 
sorry to say but i did not workout i showered but starting new years i will fully commit to dieting again i can do it i just have to get rid of the temptation
 
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you'll never follow through. all you really want is attention so you trauma-dump and suicide-bait. everything will be done "tomorrow".

why post if you're unwilling to hold yourself accountable and grow the fuck up?
 
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