I hate my life and everyone in it. What do?

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Move. Make new friends in real life. Lift heavy. Find a therapist and read up on the work you gotta do inside your own head. Get a dog...it helps you get outside of your own head.

People don't like you? Fuck em.

Cheesy right? But fuck, if you want change you'll have to do it and there is simply no pussy footing around the work.

No one cares what you say you're going to do so shut the fuck up, and do it on your own. You want to talk to someone, find a fuckin professional you trust. If you can't afford one read a fuckin book on how to not be a victim or how to feel better in your own head. None of them will work entirely or all the time so then read another one. Then another. And another. You'll develop a set of tools over time. But the key is...over time. So just put in the fucking work. Want a list of books to start? Heres a fucking list...some look fucking cheesy but who the fuck cares, find others that look better to you and fucking read.
  • Feeling Good
  • Feeling Great
  • Stopping the Noise in your Head
  • 10% Happier
  • Little Bear
  • Start Where You Are
  • The Happiness Trap
  • Whereever you go, there you are
Here is a shitty quote about money which also applies to your fuckin life. Mind the pennies, and the pounds will look after themselves.

How do I know this works? Cuz I put in the fucking work. And still do. But, it DOES get easier if you do.
 
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These may be the magical substances that turn things around. Don't be afraid to try new things!
99% of junkies try a new substance before they OD. Get it twisted. Trying a new substance is an investment in a new superior altered state. You will try a new substance, you will get high as fuck, you will drown in your own vomit
 
If all else fails, start a gratitude list. Right now, what are three things that you are grateful for?
Just thinking about that gives me a stress headache.
I found a great deal of peace by deciding how long I have to live for. Giving myself a set date in the future really freed me up mentally.
It's why I haven't kms yet
I should go on a trip actually. Thanks for the idea. I mostly ignore people that hates me because they don't get my style but I'm at a low point in life and I guess it can only go up from here
My name is not important, what is important, is what I am going to do.
I ain't the garbage man. I'm not taking the trash out with me. I'm taking people who matters in the way I never will be. The likes of them to go with the likes of me.
 
I just seclude myself from others. It makes things a lot nicer. I don't think most people can handle that lack of socializing though, they'd feel too lonely. You might hate your life less if you got over your seeming autoandrophilia.
 
I got an idea to elevate your chemistry. I read some articles about faking a smile from years ago and later articles about edm that said it helped with depression based on the research from multiple studies. They theorise that faking a smile tricks the brain into releasing endorphins. The same chemical response happens with edm because of the repetitive energetic rhyme.
Alex Megane - I Think Of You (Accuface High Energy Club Mix)


Cascada - Everytime We Touch


Echo Image - Skulk


Daft Punk - One More Time


Deee-Lite - Groove Is in the Heart

 
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I got an idea to elevate your chemistry. I read some articles about faking a smile from years ago and later articles about edm that said it helped with depression based on the research from multiple studies. They theorise that faking a smile tricks the brain into releasing endorphins. The same chemical response happens with edm because of the repetitive energetic rhyme.
Alex Megane - I Think Of You (Accuface High Energy Club Mix)


Cascada - Everytime We Touch


Echo Image - Skulk


Daft Punk - One More Time


Deee-Lite - Groove Is in the Heart

Helo I am a retard with PTSD who spends all day reading about neurobiology in an attempt to get better and also a musician.

The smile thing works. It works because the limbic system has direct connections to the body, bypassing the cortical brain, ostensibly so that the body can react more quickly to threatening stimuli. Your limbic system monitors what's going on in your body and uses that information to determine how you should be feeling, so you can consciously force your body to exhibit the behaviors associated with different emotions and it will trick your limbic system into changing your mood.

The music thing is more complicated. There are most likely a few different things going on. One is that transients (abrupt noises) trigger a SNS (fight or flight) response. The way I first heard it described is that each transient causes the body to quite literally send bioelectricity into parts of the nervous system, and that the nervous system needs to discharge that energy through movement, be it dancing or tapping or just sitting still and shaking like a raped ape. I'm pretty sceptical of that description of the mechanism of action, but it's pretty observable that regular rhythms make people move. Anyway, moving your body in turn triggers a bit of an epinephrine release, which makes you more alert and prone to keep moving. So that's part of it.

Another part of it is that regular rhythms will actually cause the frequency of brainwaves to sync up with the rhythm through a process called entrainment. I'm not yet autistic enough to have memorized the different types of brainwaves and their corresponding effects, nor what BPM they correlate to, but I'd bet it has an effect. There's a therapy called neurofeedback(?) that can be either incredibly powerful or a nightmare spiral depending on whether the therapist actually knows what the fuck they're doing where they actually directly measure the frequency of brainwaves in different parts of the brain and encourage different frequencies through gamified conditioning so we know there's a correlation between frequency and mood there, and so if the frequency changes in response to regular rhythms it stands to reason mood does as well.

Music in general also just has a dopaminergic effect on its own. I've seen it theorized that it's because regular patterns facilitate many small instances of accurate prediction, i.e. where the next beat will fall or what the next note will be, but as far as I know that came directly from someone's ass. But it's observably dopaminergic.

All that said, if you can't even sit down and write down some things you're grateful for you're a little bitch with garbage distress tolerance and you should feel bad so that you can learn how to feel bad without reaching for something to make you feel better because life sucks and it doesn't get easier, you're going to spend a lot of time feeling bad and usually you're going to have to suck it up and do shit anyway so you better get used to it.
 
Balls move on the trip. Great idea. Set all that shit in your head aside for a few days. I am serious. Do the trip for you. Not the shit in your head.

Your queation fucking stuck with me all day so i am back with more bullshit for you to ignore.

Pick an hour when you get back from your trip, write it on your calendar and schedule that time to allow yourself to feel badly or anxious or worried for that hour only. Get down in it. Fuck around in it. Allow yourself to be sad or anxious or infuriated or disappointed or whatever. But you have a time limit! At the end of that hour, get up, look at your fucking dog who needs YOU and walk them.

Time is up. You now move onto something else. Schedule some more time maybe the next say but your time in that space it bound by that time limit.

Come back, and then spend 15m just writing what you CAN do. Small shit, little shit, anything and eveything. But only 15m then get up and take the fucking animal who needs YOU out again. Or go watch shit outside that gets you out if your head. Birds will make you wonder "what the fuck" or simply watching people, or cars or dragonflies. Anything visual and OUTSIDE that you force yourself to watch with some weird sense of fucking wonder. Dont get dewey eyed and faggoty though, just watch and consider thinking why the fuck does a bird/bug/person/animal do what they are doing. It is called "wonder" motherfucker, and its pure and childlike and it is the reason i said read Little Bear. Simplicity breeds peace for fuck's sake.

Listen, and i aint fuckin around here. It takes small fucking steps, you cant get around that...so to be clear, fuck any grandiose notions you are harbouring. They may be a guidepost of sorts but small steps little feet and all that shit.

I have checkboxes in my planner for the smallest shit sometimes, like simply calling someone back that i needed to. Gay shit like that. I did 15m of dishes. I talked to my dogs cremated remains reminding him that I still think of him. I texted my wife. Small simple shit still means small fucking wins.

You need wins. You can create wins. No matter how small but fucking start making small wins, reminding yourself that no matter how innocuous it may seem you deserve small wins.

Getting out of your own head will get you out of your own way. It is fucking hard but you are able to do it though you gotta figure out your way.

Physically, you have to do one of two things. Lift heavy shit or ride/row/jog for long distances. Start small but tire your body out a few times a week. No yoga, no fucking stretching, no shit that avoids the simple fact that you have to work your body hard. Simply do hard work, expend effort.

I dont know fuck all but i know what it took for me to do it.
 
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