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[Dalish]

When autistic people get over stimulated, that can translate into violence. I used to work with autistic people. I've been punched, slapped, pinched, screamed at, spat on, etc. It doesn't make the student a bad person.

sure, but being unapologetic about it DOES make you a bad person.

you know what most decent people, regardless of their mental illnesses do?

fucking apologize when they punch a disabled person maliciously

 

[TremendousBoredom]

I've never heard of them before, but it can explain something that happens every now and then with a friend of mine that's only just got diagnosed with a form of Epilepsy for years he has done this 10 - 20 second zone out occasionally an has no recollection of it happening (punch line of a joke stands out most).

Thanks dude!

No problem! So many folks have a view of seizures based on wildly inaccurate media depictions. Absence seizures can be unsettling as hell to deal with and can go untreated for quite some time because people expect the writhing on the ground foaming at the mouth seizures that the media tends to present.

A bunch of shit that couldn't be bigger red flags for abuse than if you took a huge red flag and wrote "ABUSE!" on it.

You do not need Phil. You need to talk to a counselor. I can't think of any worth their degree that wouldn't call what Phil has done to you abuse. That isn't how you treat friends. While I will not rule out with certainty that Phil is mentally ill, that in no way excuses how you've been treated.

 

[tweaker the cat]

You need help as bad as Phil...

You became a bum because he wouldn't let you go to a shelter, You were KIDNAPPED ffs.

You are closing on the line from pitied victim to your own cow....

Well I'm housed now. I'm looking for work as soon as my leg heals, I don't have any ridiculous tattoos... I just have some self worth issues. I'm working on it.

 

[Bassomatic]

Well I'm housed now. I'm looking for work as soon as my leg heals, I don't have any ridiculous tattoos... I just have some self worth issues. I'm working on it.

Getting away from an abuser would be a VERY good step.

 

[Cid Highwind]

When autistic people get over stimulated, that can translate into violence. I used to work with autistic people. I've been punched, slapped, pinched, screamed at, spat on, etc. It doesn't make the student a bad person.

But...I thought calling social services on welfare frauds was violence? Or was it misgendering a transtrender? Or was it calling out ethnic liars?

 

[tweaker the cat]

did adf tell you that the reason you probably couldn't go to shelters was because, well... they've been blacklisted from most of them?

The reason she gave me was cuz she was scared of rape and transphobia. She did mention that she had been blacklisted from one.

 

[Cid Highwind]

The reason she gave me was cuz she was scared of rape and transphobia. She did mention that she had been blacklisted from one.

Who in their right mind would want to rape a fat, smelly white man with a mullet, shaven eyebrows and a serious hygiene issue? Examined from the reality that the vast majority of us find ourselves in, that is a ridiculous claim and most people would be able to see right through it.

 

[Bassomatic]

The reason she gave me was cuz she was scared of rape and transphobia. She did mention that she had been blacklisted from one.

You claim you know he's a liar and they even admitted being banned from shelters.

Honestly, we feel for you being socially empty and naive, we've all been young and some people here have social issues or did. But you gotta put your foot down, we aren't saying this to loltrolladf harder, it's because you are being used, badly and put in danger because ADFs refusal to well do anything aside be a horrid person.

Seriously, call a shrink open a thread here or something. You deserve better, but you won't get it till you demand it.

 

[BT 075]

@tweaker the cat,

Does Phil have fetal alcohol syndrome? Physically and in terms of his behavior, he has a lot of the characteristics a child would have whose mother drank during pregnancy. Given his rocky relationship with his parents, did he ever mentioned his mother drank while pregnant with him?

He may be a bit 'chromosomally impaired'.

 

[tweaker the cat]

But...I thought calling social services on welfare frauds was violence? Or was it misgendering a transtrender? Or was it calling out ethnic liars?

I don't believe any of that bullshit for the record.

 

[Weeping With Pity]

Who in their right mind would want to rape a fat, smelly white man with a mullet, shaven eyebrows and a serious hygiene issue? Examined from the reality that the vast majority of us find ourselves in, that is a ridiculous claim and most people would be able to see right through it.

I'm going to go out on a limb and say that, rape being more about application of power and dominance than about sexual desire, I could see there being a risk of people in the down-and-out demographic who may be so desperate to prove that there are people lower than themselves that they would force themselves on Ahuviya just to feel better about their own situation, and I have no confidence at all that she'd be able to defend herself if someone did try. Of all the ridiculous things she spews, this is one of the more reasonable fears.

 

[tweaker the cat]

sure, but being unapologetic about it DOES make you a bad person.

you know what most decent people, regardless of their mental illnesses do?

fucking apologize when they punch a disabled person maliciously

She has apologized. And, more importantly, *her mother forgave her.*

 

[Ravenor]

1. Because I know her well enough to know that's just the kind of person she is. She talks a big game but in reality is about as dangerous as a barking chihuahua.

I'd like to say not as well as you think, but you know him in person most of us know him from his posts. But I have to say chihuahua's a really good description for him, Originally a pest control dog, now bread into being naught but a toy.

2. Each time I was able to get her to give the knife to me, and at the time we were sleeping outside cuz she refused to let us go to shelters. So bug spray>therapy at that point.

Follow on from this makes me ask, how hard was it to do so? If I'm reading this right you where in Oregon at the time one of the few states that does gender therapy (I'm British so other than you guy's don't have the NHS the intricacies of US social care escape me) so seeking help wouldn't have been that much of a issue.Talking as a outsider what he was doing was emotional manipulation putting aside that he is your friend and once partner can you see how we see it?

3. I've not seen that evidence. And no a statement from him doesn't count. Neither does that newspaper article.

We have other evidence aside from a single newspaper article, I'm not going to go into detail right now but it exists, as do some documents about the divorce his mum sure hated his dad, and he seems to like his mum more who was less authoritative with him.

4. Not that I know of. If she did I don't think she would admit it.

Fair enough, I have known people to regret some ink after the fact that they where proud of at the time but regretted it later (an not on the level of girlfriends name, or drunk tat's either).

5. I know what you're talking about its called chain reaction. And yeah she asked one person in sf to help her but idk what happened with that...

Ah cool I iddn't know the US name for it, in the UK it goes by a few names but one of them (local to me) is ReCycle! I donated my old commuter bike to them when I replaced it an got a pashley, it had a crack in the frame but they replaced the broken bit an gave it to some one. Nice scheme and it helps people out a former TDF rider who was getting out of competitive riding who lives near me gave his whole collection of bikes (bar one or two) to young competitive riders who can't afford a good bike. They did an now one of those kids is training for the TDF.

What I am getting at is a lot of those people are really hard to piss off, so he either turned it down of his own accord or he acted in such a way they withdrew support, I'd like to know what happened but if you don't know you don't know.

Thanks for answering, but I have more questions if that's OK?

 

[tweaker the cat]

@tweaker the cat,

Does Phil have fetal alcohol syndrome? Physically and in terms of his behavior, he has a lot of the characteristics a child would have whose mother drank during pregnancy. Given his rocky relationship with his parents, did he ever mentioned his mother drank while pregnant with him?

He may be a bit 'chromosomally impaired'.

The jury's out. I brought it up once and didn't get anywhere cuz it's a tender subject, so I dropped it.

 

[RWS Watcher]

@tweaker the cat

You mentioned that Rika's bathroom was "gross". How "gross" was it? Can you spare us some details?

 

[Dalish]

I'm going to go out on a limb and say that, rape being more about application of power and dominance than about sexual desire, I could see there being a risk of people in the down-and-out demographic who may be so desperate to prove that there are people lower than themselves that they would force themselves on Ahuviya just to feel better about their own situation, and I have no confidence at all that she'd be able to defend herself if someone did try. Of all the ridiculous things she spews, this is one of the more reasonable fears.

nah.
rape is usually about power and control, yeah, but how can you exert power over someone that's 200 lbs heavier than you are?

disabled women are at a higher risk than any other group to get raped or abused. phil has no outward physical disability, rarely presents as a woman, and is mobile. even if he tricks people into thinking he's a trans woman (lol, he doesn't), the 1-in-12 has been so well and thoroughly debunked that even other trans women are calling bullshit.

i guess what i'm saying is 'lol no' and that phil is probably cognizant of these facts but chooses to ignore them to support his 'oppression' web.

 

[Squealer]

@tweaker the cat , you seem like a lost lamb, you appear to be a tool in the way you talk about adf, his concern of you is akin to when someone is trying to fix a broken tool.
You aren't going to get anywhere in life by asspatting adf, if he sees you as a person he would understand differing opinions. I'm not saying you need to cut him ut completely, just let him be the one to cut the freindship, or hopefully repair it.

In short, be a friend and not a tool

 

[Sussuro]

I have more of a comment than a question about you, I guess. I gave you a "disagree" on your post about having anxiety and not being able to make friends;

Are you prone to panic attacks? Wouldn't coming to a site like this and opening yourself up to the kinds of interrogation you know/expect you'd get here raise your anxiety levels, which you already make out to be crippling?

On another note, you have yet to answer this:
What does Ahuviya smell like?

 

[Twrx]

@tweaker the cat. I'm going to give you some advice, and I may be revealing a bit of power level. I was in an abusive relationship for quite a while. My ex wife would not only mentally abuse me, but physically as well. She had me convinced that all I had in the world was her. This woman nearly killed me.

I see a lot of myself, in you. You think that all you've got in the world is Phil. It's not healthy, nor is it safe. I understand you feel alone in the world, but there are people who would gladly be your friend. Stick around here, and we'll be your friends. But the first thing you need to do, is take that first step away from him.

Anyone who threatens to release you phone number to the world, and cause you possible harm due to a disagreement is not a person you need to be associated with.

When I finally left my ex wife, it was scary, and I thought I would never have any friends or a partner again. Now I'm in a healthy, incredible relationship, and have an incredible circle of friends.

You can take that first step, it will be difficult, but it will pay off in the end.

Oh, and, why does Phil feel the need to keep 30 pounds of bdsm gear in his backpack?

 

[tweaker the cat]

you know him in person most of us know him from his posts

She's much different in person vs online.

you where in Oregon at the time

Not true. We were in philly when that happened, which, as far as I know, has no gender care in its state insurance.

who was less authoritative with him.

I agree with you there. She's very much the doting mother.

Chain reaction is just a thing in Portland, idk of any resource like that in SF. I don't think she's ever accessed their services but I could be wrong.

Go ahead with your questions!

Are you prone to panic attacks?

I used to be, but with meds and therapy I haven't had one in quite a while.

What does Ahuviya smell like?

Feet.