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I can't imagine thinking so little of myself and having such a fragile sense of self-importance that in order to feel like I'm "valid", I need to see incredibly generic character traits that apply to hundreds of millions of other people being displayed in a commercial that's pumped out by some massive, soulless corporation because they know you're fucking stupid enough to trade that 15 seconds of absolutely nothing into an unwavering support for the company that would undoubtedly try to fucking murder you if it meant saving $0.01 on each of their products.
I can't imagine celebrating a fucking commercial. Yes, that's a pun and no I'm not apologizing.
I can't imagine celebrating a fucking commercial. Yes, that's a pun and no I'm not apologizing.
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“My Boyfriend Treats His Daughter Like SHE is His Girlfriend”
My partner,”Bob,” has an 18-year-old daughter from his previous marriage. Bob and I are not married, but we are aiming to live together along with with my 12-year-old son with whom Bob has an amazing relationship. The problem here is Bob’s daughter. First of all, Bob and I were in abusive marriages prior to our relationship. We were both emotionally manipulated and physically beaten by our spouses. Yes, he is a male and I’m a female, but the same story happened to both of us. For the past ten years, I have carefully avoided a relationship and have done extensive therapy. I recognized all the signs in my partner of having gone through the same history (he also told me his story), and having met his ex, I could see similarities to my ex. Bob’s daughter has the same dominating temperament as the ex and plays her father into emotional blackmail in very subtle ways. But this is the least of my troubles. Bob has a very traditional conservative religious background and believes he failed family values by divorcing. He never had a true attachment to his ex-wife (she mocks him by saying the last time they kissed was on their honeymoon) and therefore he has invested all his life and love in the daughter whom he adores as if she were a goddess.
The real trouble is this: Whenever the daughter calls him, Bob withdraws from me completely. He goes to the point of not talking to me at all for days. His libido falls flat. He needs to see the girl immediatly. He keeps little secrets with her (such as buying her presents, having meetings which he could very well tell me about, messaging, exchanging lovey-dovey pictures). He broke down in tears one day confessing he was not “cheating on me, he was with her.” This is his quote, not mine, and it’s important to say I had NOT questioned him about “cheating” at all; I had merely asked what was going on because he seemed rather stressed. This pattern comes around about a week per month. She calls and he goes off for about a week, withdrawing from me and drawing toward the girl like a thirsty man in the desert to water. Then he comes back, very sorry. He will even visits his ex’s house (and he has been abused again while there), just because the girl asked that he go there.
When Bob goes through a very emotional situation, he is torn between calling me or calling his daughter. Upon making a decision for one or the other (and I’m not always the chosen one), he declares the other one cannot know, because he is being disloyal to the first one. So, he is either in the me phase or in the daughter phase. In short, he treats his 18-year-old daughter like a girlfriend (minus the sexual side of it, which he doesn’t feel – believe me, I checked all the signs). I confronted him about this, and he went to therapy. But the therapist blah-blah-blah’d about dealing with divorce and didn’t grasp how this relationship with the daughter was unhealthy, so my partner told me I’m seeing things that are not there. But there’re there.
This week I decided to give Bob a sort of ultimatum to sort out his life; I told him we need to take a “time off” from our relationship. My son hates me for it, which makes me deeply unhappy. Sure enough, rather than finding therapy, Bob ran to his daughter and posted on social media about it. He has not contacted me at all this week except for a very lofty message in which he said “my love will always be here for you” and “I will guide you to me,” which is the emptiest thing I have ever heard. I don’t mean to be arrogant, but I’m not the one who needs guidance.
Bob is a very good man, but I think the issues are far too big for me to handle. I am hurting quite a bit, especially because of my son and because this was my healing relationship after the devastating one. I am not sure what to do about this man. Also, if he loved me, this infatuation with the daughter wouldn’t be there, right? — Tired of Competing with the Daughter
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You didn’t give Bob an ultimatum and you know it. You gave him a test to “prove” his love to you, and he failed your test. You wanted to see if he’d come running to you, begging that you end the “time off” from your relationship, promising to always prioritize you over his daughter, declaring loyalty to you and only you, all his other relationships – including with his teenage daughter! – be damned. It was a highly manipulative tactic and it backfired on you. Your problem is not with Bob’s daughter. It’s not even really with Bob. The problem you have is YOU. You have not healed from your painful past. You said yourself – this relationship with Bob was supposed to be your “healing relationship,” which was a surefire way to guarantee that not only would you not heal, but also that you’d regress and try to pull everyone in your path down with you (in this case, at least Bob, his daughter, and your son).
You need a reckoning with yourself, and until you open yourself to that, there’s nothing I can say that will resonate with you. You are probably already drafting an email to me demanding I take this post down. You are already crafting a response in your head about how I don’t understand, how it was a mistake that you reached out to me, how you’ve suffered so much pain in your life that you’ve simply created boundaries to protect yourself from more pain and Bob has failed to honor those boundaries by daring to continue a relationship with his teenage daughter which you WILL NOT TOLERATE, and how anyone who doesn’t see that just doesn’t understand the full scope of the situation. What I understand from the information you’ve provided is that you decided that, in order for Bob to be a good partner to you, he had to change fundamental relationships in his life, and to that I say: If someone has to change in order for you to be satisfied, he is not the right match for you.
We could debate all day whether Bob’s relationship with his daughter is healthy or whether his daughter is truly manipulative. We could debate whether his “very traditional conservative religious background” is influencing how he navigates relationships in his life, but it would be a waste of time to do so because it doesn’t matter. What actually matters is that you KNEW – you knew, and you know – about these things that you find problematic and you decided to pursue a serious relationship with him anyway. You’ve dragged your son into a relationship that was doomed from the start, allowing him to bond with someone you had such fundamental issues with, and if you are “deeply unhappy” now, you have only yourself to blame. You are a grown-up who knew exactly what she was getting into. How do you think your son feels?!
I can’t help a grown woman who pits herself against a teenage girl and demands her partner choose sides, as if he can only love and be loyal to one person. I can’t help a woman who seeks healing not from within herself but in a relationship with someone who has to change in order to meet her needs. Contrary to your argument, you DO need guidance, and you clearly need help to see how dysfunctional your tools of manipulation are – how they are hurting your son and keeping you from the kind of love and healthy relationship you want. With humility and the guidance of a great therapist, there’s hope for you, but you have to be willing to take responsibility. Are you?
My partner,”Bob,” has an 18-year-old daughter from his previous marriage. Bob and I are not married, but we are aiming to live together along with with my 12-year-old son with whom Bob has an amazing relationship. The problem here is Bob’s daughter. First of all, Bob and I were in abusive marriages prior to our relationship. We were both emotionally manipulated and physically beaten by our spouses. Yes, he is a male and I’m a female, but the same story happened to both of us. For the past ten years, I have carefully avoided a relationship and have done extensive therapy. I recognized all the signs in my partner of having gone through the same history (he also told me his story), and having met his ex, I could see similarities to my ex. Bob’s daughter has the same dominating temperament as the ex and plays her father into emotional blackmail in very subtle ways. But this is the least of my troubles. Bob has a very traditional conservative religious background and believes he failed family values by divorcing. He never had a true attachment to his ex-wife (she mocks him by saying the last time they kissed was on their honeymoon) and therefore he has invested all his life and love in the daughter whom he adores as if she were a goddess.
The real trouble is this: Whenever the daughter calls him, Bob withdraws from me completely. He goes to the point of not talking to me at all for days. His libido falls flat. He needs to see the girl immediatly. He keeps little secrets with her (such as buying her presents, having meetings which he could very well tell me about, messaging, exchanging lovey-dovey pictures). He broke down in tears one day confessing he was not “cheating on me, he was with her.” This is his quote, not mine, and it’s important to say I had NOT questioned him about “cheating” at all; I had merely asked what was going on because he seemed rather stressed. This pattern comes around about a week per month. She calls and he goes off for about a week, withdrawing from me and drawing toward the girl like a thirsty man in the desert to water. Then he comes back, very sorry. He will even visits his ex’s house (and he has been abused again while there), just because the girl asked that he go there.
When Bob goes through a very emotional situation, he is torn between calling me or calling his daughter. Upon making a decision for one or the other (and I’m not always the chosen one), he declares the other one cannot know, because he is being disloyal to the first one. So, he is either in the me phase or in the daughter phase. In short, he treats his 18-year-old daughter like a girlfriend (minus the sexual side of it, which he doesn’t feel – believe me, I checked all the signs). I confronted him about this, and he went to therapy. But the therapist blah-blah-blah’d about dealing with divorce and didn’t grasp how this relationship with the daughter was unhealthy, so my partner told me I’m seeing things that are not there. But there’re there.
This week I decided to give Bob a sort of ultimatum to sort out his life; I told him we need to take a “time off” from our relationship. My son hates me for it, which makes me deeply unhappy. Sure enough, rather than finding therapy, Bob ran to his daughter and posted on social media about it. He has not contacted me at all this week except for a very lofty message in which he said “my love will always be here for you” and “I will guide you to me,” which is the emptiest thing I have ever heard. I don’t mean to be arrogant, but I’m not the one who needs guidance.
Bob is a very good man, but I think the issues are far too big for me to handle. I am hurting quite a bit, especially because of my son and because this was my healing relationship after the devastating one. I am not sure what to do about this man. Also, if he loved me, this infatuation with the daughter wouldn’t be there, right? — Tired of Competing with the Daughter
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You didn’t give Bob an ultimatum and you know it. You gave him a test to “prove” his love to you, and he failed your test. You wanted to see if he’d come running to you, begging that you end the “time off” from your relationship, promising to always prioritize you over his daughter, declaring loyalty to you and only you, all his other relationships – including with his teenage daughter! – be damned. It was a highly manipulative tactic and it backfired on you. Your problem is not with Bob’s daughter. It’s not even really with Bob. The problem you have is YOU. You have not healed from your painful past. You said yourself – this relationship with Bob was supposed to be your “healing relationship,” which was a surefire way to guarantee that not only would you not heal, but also that you’d regress and try to pull everyone in your path down with you (in this case, at least Bob, his daughter, and your son).
You need a reckoning with yourself, and until you open yourself to that, there’s nothing I can say that will resonate with you. You are probably already drafting an email to me demanding I take this post down. You are already crafting a response in your head about how I don’t understand, how it was a mistake that you reached out to me, how you’ve suffered so much pain in your life that you’ve simply created boundaries to protect yourself from more pain and Bob has failed to honor those boundaries by daring to continue a relationship with his teenage daughter which you WILL NOT TOLERATE, and how anyone who doesn’t see that just doesn’t understand the full scope of the situation. What I understand from the information you’ve provided is that you decided that, in order for Bob to be a good partner to you, he had to change fundamental relationships in his life, and to that I say: If someone has to change in order for you to be satisfied, he is not the right match for you.
We could debate all day whether Bob’s relationship with his daughter is healthy or whether his daughter is truly manipulative. We could debate whether his “very traditional conservative religious background” is influencing how he navigates relationships in his life, but it would be a waste of time to do so because it doesn’t matter. What actually matters is that you KNEW – you knew, and you know – about these things that you find problematic and you decided to pursue a serious relationship with him anyway. You’ve dragged your son into a relationship that was doomed from the start, allowing him to bond with someone you had such fundamental issues with, and if you are “deeply unhappy” now, you have only yourself to blame. You are a grown-up who knew exactly what she was getting into. How do you think your son feels?!
I can’t help a grown woman who pits herself against a teenage girl and demands her partner choose sides, as if he can only love and be loyal to one person. I can’t help a woman who seeks healing not from within herself but in a relationship with someone who has to change in order to meet her needs. Contrary to your argument, you DO need guidance, and you clearly need help to see how dysfunctional your tools of manipulation are – how they are hurting your son and keeping you from the kind of love and healthy relationship you want. With humility and the guidance of a great therapist, there’s hope for you, but you have to be willing to take responsibility. Are you?
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Super Hans
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I've always been told that being a grown up is a mental state, not a physical one.
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Can somebody give me the rundown on the LGBT free zones?
What is the desired outcome? Why do they need to designate them LGBT free if everybody there is anti-LGBT? Doesn't that just mean there's an absence of Islamic Content already?
What is the desired outcome? Why do they need to designate them LGBT free if everybody there is anti-LGBT? Doesn't that just mean there's an absence of Islamic Content already?
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This woman sounds insane. Why shouldn't this guy's daughter be his first priority?
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Idk. I agree with the woman being retarded with "I can fix him!" or some other bullshit. At the same time re: father and daughter I've seen enough hentai to know where this is going
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It has little legal recourse. It's like the million of non-binding resolutions that governments pass, a statement of intent, nothing more. And it's not like areas per city, but it's about the third of a country. You can think of it like california having different goals than nevada.
wtfNeedSignUp
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About the evil step mom post. Can we giver a Semper Fidelis rating to the person posting the reply? There's nothing more to be said. The woman has a problem and is taking it out on the most convenient target.
P.S. I'm really happy there is nothing sexual between the father and daughter, which was my first fear.
P.S. I'm really happy there is nothing sexual between the father and daughter, which was my first fear.
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Lego stops promoting police, White House sets amid George Floyd protests
The original directive by Rakuten Linkshare, which handles Lego's affiliate marketing, indicated that over 30 Lego toys representing police officers, firefighters, criminals, emergency vehicles and buildings should be removed from "sites and any marketing ASAP."
Lego stops promoting police, White House sets amid George Floyd prote…
archived 11 Jun 2020 13:26:35 UTC
Lego says it hasn't stopped sales of any products
Lego says the suspension of promotional campaigns for its building-block sets of the White House and law enforcement officers and equipment, a move that flummoxed avid customers, was meant to demonstrate respect amid nationwide protests over the death of a black man in police custody.
An e-mail directive from Rakuten Linkshare, which handles Lego's affiliate marketing, indicated that over 30 Lego toys representing police officers, firefighters, criminals, emergency vehicles and buildings were to be removed from "sites and any marketing ASAP," according to an e-mail obtained by The Toy Book.
The e-mail cited "recent events" as the cause and didn't specify how long the products shouldn't be promoted.
The order came after more than a week of protests spanning from coast to coast, some peaceful and others violent, condemning police brutality and racial injustice following the death of George Floyd.
The latest in an array of black people to die in police custody in recent years, Floyd was being detained May 25 by a white Minneapolis officer who has since been charged with murder. The three other officers on the scene have been charged with aiding and abetting second-degree murder and second-degree manslaughter
While some police officers nationwide have supported protestors, the demonstrations have also created a division between reform advocates and law enforcement supporters who say all officers shouldn't be blamed for the actions of a few.
We’ve seen incorrect reports saying we’ve removed some LEGO sets from sale. To be clear, that is not the case and reports otherwise are false. Our intention was to temporarily pause digital advertising in response to events in the US. We hope this clears things up.
Questions from Lego aficionados on fan sites, raised against that backdrop, prompted the company to attempt to clarify its intentions. The company said it has not halted sales of any of the products it stopped promoting.
"The misunderstanding is the result of an email that was sent on our behalf to members of our affiliate marketing programme," a spokesperson for Lego told FOX Business. "The intent of the email was to ask that they pause promoting and marketing a selection of LEGO products on their sites."
The company had suspended all marketing across its own social channels earlier this week.
Lego says it regrets any misunderstanding and "will ensure that we are clearer about our intentions in the future.”
The company says its mission is to "inspire and develop the builders of tomorrow, and that includes inspiring them to be tolerant, inclusive and kind."
To support that goal, the toymaker announced it was donating $4 million to organizations dedicated to helping black children and educating all children about racial inequality.
"We stand with the black community against racism and racial inequality. There is much to do," the company tweeted.
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This whole insane sperg-out of the left followed by companies doing the most ineffectual virtue signalling like this has got to be some of the dumbest shit I've ever lived through.
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'A negro in lego city has stopped breathing, start burning everything in sight'
'HEY'
'burn down the city, and welcome to poverty!'
'HEY'
'burn down the city, and welcome to poverty!'
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Why don't they show solidarity with the black community by creating a limited edition June 2020 Minneapolis set?
Or a Chiraq set?
Or a Baltimore abandoned houses set?
Seriously, why don't they? I'd buy them.
Or a Chiraq set?
Or a Baltimore abandoned houses set?
Seriously, why don't they? I'd buy them.
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What's wrong with firefighters?
And emergency vehicles? Ambulances?
But Lego had no problem cashing in on White House sets when Obama was in office.
And emergency vehicles? Ambulances?
But Lego had no problem cashing in on White House sets when Obama was in office.
People must have been really, really bored under quarantine to get this sort of fallout.
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so why is this dead jogger the one that has corpos throwing hissy fits
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Corona fucked everyone up. Plus it's election year, have to have at least one major controversy before November.