Is being a "permavirgin" really a bad thing?

[skykiii]

This topic could easily become a cope for people who can't get laid, but let's be serious for a few minutes.

First, we're all familiar with the concept of a "coomer" who is totally controlled by their hormones to the point that they'll buy shitty anime figurines just to look up the skirts.

Secondly, a lot of the dregs of society are people who are obsessed with sex to some degree and it leads them to ruin their lives and that of those around them (including whatever poor girl they happen to impregnate).

Sex may well be a wonderful thing but a lot of humanity can't control their lust and so end up ruining it.

As such, if someone goes years without getting laid, is that really a bad thing?

Frankly I've said before I would rather just live forever than pass on my genes and have a "legacy." Legacies don't count for shit. History is full of brilliant people whose descendants fucked their legacy (sometimes literally).

But maybe I'm missing something. So I'm open to thoughts.

 

[WTBOnlineFather]

Your descendants are your legacy. If you don't wanna fuck bitches that's fine but if you decide to die childless that's pretty sad, especially if the only reason is that you're too much of a pussy to find a decent woman. That's one less good kid among increasing hordes of unmanaged little shits with absent parents.

 

[A Crying Goblin]

Yeah it does suck. For the autists out there. But generally speaking, they probably shouldn't be breeding anyway. SORRY.

Your descendants are your legacy. If you don't wanna fuck bitches that's fine but if you decide to die childless that's pretty sad, especially if the only reason is that you're too much of a pussy to find a decent woman. That's one less good kid among increasing hordes of unmanaged little shits with absent parents.

If someone is too much of a pussy to find a decent women, they weren't going to make a good kid to begin with.

 

[Sargon's wife's son]

There's no such thing as in cells in the United States
Are you a US citizen well then you have the easiest way to get laid go to the border with all those people crossing it find a woman or hold up a sign that says green card for sex
Scummy thing to do but if you're that concerned about getting laid you probably have no standards
Or find a fat ugly woman in cells are just as bad as those women who want six figures six pack and 6 ft

 

[Mister Baranavichy]

Ignore what the rest of the world does or says, the masses are almost always just bumbling retards larping as adults

There are low pleasures most succumb to like blowing someone back out in ONS, and high ones, like having a successful romantic partnership with someone who loves you as much as you love them is the peak, and saving yourself for this ideal should be that standard as in the long run it can't be beaten by any other, meaning that as long as you can keep yourself at a good and consistent personal growth both mentally and physically, it won't matter if you don't get a lay on cheap quality women.

Also, having children shouldn't feel like a necessity to "pass on the torch", it's the culmination of two individuals who love each other creating more love in the world, and it shouldn't be equated to "random 40-year-old spent E-whore wanting to trap a man for child support" being the standard viewpoint.

 

[WTBOnlineFather]

If someone is too much of a pussy to find a decent women, they weren't going to make a good kid to begin with.

Plenty of fine people with a good head on their shoulders are susceptible to letting the Internet blackpill them. Hell all it takes to lose faith in humanity is to open any dating app in a city. If you're able to snap out of it and find someone good in spite of the difficulty then you've redeemed yourself.

 

[Zbk3VmLfujjzjxBd43tL]

If you aren't into clerical celibacy/becoming a literal monk, then yes, yes it is.

Your descendants are your legacy. If you don't wanna fuck bitches that's fine but if you decide to die childless that's pretty sad, especially if the only reason is that you're too much of a pussy to find a decent woman. That's one less good kid among increasing hordes of unmanaged little shits with absent parents.

Jesus, Alexander the Great, and Hitler didn't leave any descendants but left a legacy anyway.

 

[WTBOnlineFather]

If you aren't into clerical celibacy/becoming a literal monk, then yes, yes it is.

Jesus, Alexander the Great, and Hitler didn't leave any descendants but left a legacy anyway.

That's nice and all but realistically how do YOU see YOUR chances of becoming Hitler 2.0?

 

[Lightsaber Dildo]

You don't have kids for the sake of a legacy or passing on your genes, you have kids because you want to have KIDS. You have kids so you can love them and raise them to live a happy life, one of the best things you can do for another human being is give them life and give them the knowledge and values they need to succeed and enjoy it.

But that's not a simple task, considering how many fuck-up parents there are. If you're not confident in your ability as a parent, or don't WANT to be a parent, don't have kids. It's a valid choice not to have kids. Never have a kid just to "pass on your genes/legacy", you will just be an absent parent. And we have enough motherless/fatherless shits in the world as it is.

Being a permavirgin isn't the same thing though. If you don't want to have sex then don't, it's okay not to. If you do, then go do it. It's not as hard as everyone thinks, just lower your standards.

 

[Bloitzhole]

If your primary reason for leaving a legacy is for the sake of leaving a legacy, you're probably not worth a legacy to begin with tbh.

Nothing wrong with a dry spell, but if you don't have any kind of intimacy for MANY years, I would say that probably indicates you have some kind of deficit - physical, mental or social - because people tend to find someone they like enough to be intimate with if they just make an effort to put themselves out there, keep themselves reasonably fit and don't act like complete spergs. Otherwise humanity would probably be extinct at this point.

 

[modern horrors]

That's nice and all but realistically how do YOU see YOUR chances of becoming Hitler 2.0?

Just drew a funny little mustache on my face with a permanent marker so I'm already a step ahead of everyone else. Only six million more steps left.

 

[SpergioLeonne]

Biological fulfillment is a pretty important aspect of being alive. I feel uncomfortable thinking about people missing out, and it’s a major reason I hate the trans pipeline.

Not only should you try to get laid, you should try having kids. We were designed to. It changes a lot of the way life looks and feels.

It’s not great to get obsessed with body count and derive self worth from a shit ton of partial, incomplete pairings. But if you don’t ever have sex and raise children, you’re throwing away your final form. You’re not completing your chrysalis and dying a caterpillar.

 

[Vect]

Pointing at somebody else with a hyperactive malfunctioning sex drive as justification for you to avoid getting laid is Nick "age-appropriate trad marriage is gay' Fuentes logic.

Just removed from the wider responsibilities and ethics of childrearing, the act of sex is character building. It's a process of physical and emotional communication between you and (for the sake of argument) one other person that requires reciprocation and a real test of your ego. Both the lead up and the act itself are a dance of give and take, and experiencing that dynamic bond with another human being on that level of intimacy even if it's a one-night stand is critical for your psychological health.

Yes, sex addiction is a thing, but that's far and away a miniscule societal problem compared to the growing numbers of people, particularly men, who are simply unwilling to engage in the emotionally demanding, socially awkward and, yeah, sometimes unfairly difficult task of getting fucked because they're much more comfortable jacking it at home and becoming preoccupied with an isolated fantasy they have of sex instead of the actual thing. Generally, the people who are the most obsessed with sex and claim to be doing it all the time are those that have the least of it, because mature people who have had their healthy share of it generally know, yeah it's fun - and also a fair bit of work.

There's no shame in going a few years without any action, but let's not pretend it's some galaxy-brain state of enlightenment.

 

[Foghotten]

Yes.

Lay pipe, nigga.

 

[Kill Your Idols]

Permavirgins are not an issue per se, but like with other negative identities, people should go through a lot of self-examination before accepting that path in life. If you want to go out and meet people, go out and meet people. If you want to start a family, start a family. If none of that sounds appealing, you probably shouldn't force it for some vague sense of legacy and fulfillment that may never come. Some dude going paycheck to paycheck and blowing his savings on whores isn't exactly a winner in my eyes, but neither is someone who throws in the towel and whines about it.

 

[The Lawgiver]

Tfw no gf

 

[SSj_Ness (Yiffed)]

Unless you're a priest, yeah, pretty much, it's a bad thing. You're supposed to go forth and multiply. Of course, I won't be twisting anyone's arm if they're not white...

Frankly I've said before I would rather just live forever than pass on my genes and have a "legacy."

Okay but you're not going to live forever, at least not in this life.

 

[LinkinParkxNaruto[AMV]]

Thats up to you to decide. A lot of people will just be happier on their own, other people will wither and perish without that drive.

Most communities of that brag or promote that sort of mindset are full of cope and seethe though.

 

[DiggieSmalls]

If KingCobraJFS/Boogie and company have gotten pussy, being a permavirgin is a choice.

 

[Tablet County]

Not if you're a monk.
On a more serious note, pussy from a woman whom you love is much more fulfilling than pussy for the sake of pussy. If you're promiscuous that's fine I guess, just wear protection and take antibiotics so you don't spread chlamydia everywere.