Is bullying in schools acceptable?

[Sweet and Savoury]

To me bullying is one of the test of manhood.

Sooner or later in life you are going to run into someone who think intimidation and physical force are fine tools used to get what they want.

Part of growing up is learning to confront and deal with people like this and facing up to your bully during adolescence can be a life changing event.

You can't protect your kids forever, they need to learn some things the hard way otherwise you end up with the issues we are seeing today from the "everybody's a winner" generation. Life can be hard, yes that sucks but the most important lessons learned come at the highest price.

 

[Dudeofteenage]

To me bullying is one of the test of manhood.

What's your opinion of the bullying of girls?

 

[Sweet and Savoury]

I can't really speak about bullying in girls because I have no experience being male.

Women handle conflict very differently then men, few of them will use physical force but rather they use social methods and words.

IMHO Females are far crueler to each other then men are, so bullying among young girls really is an issue but I have no idea how to tackle it.

But much of what I said would apply, girls need to learn to deal with such conflict the same as boys do as it's still a factor in adult life. Perhaps more so with women.

 

[EI 903]

@Glaive

your time has come

 

[Cosmos]

Some serious social darwinism in this thread.

Bullying is not OK. It might be impossible to totally eradicate it, but let's not try to pretend it's some kind of positive experience for the victim.

Thank you for saying this. I was shaking my head at a lot of these posts.

I wholeheartedly believe that people need to stand up for themselves and their friends. You should never let people walk all over you and you need to respect yourself enough to not let anyone make you feel worthless. But I'm not going to act like beating kids up or starting vicious rumors is ~character building~ because it's not. There are far better, healthier ways to build character, ways that don't leave emotional scars. Bullying is not nor will ever be a positive experience in and of itself.

The world isn't a hugbox and sooner or later, kids need to learn that. But is encouraging kids to bully other kids really going to make the world a better place? It seems like you're just breeding more assholes who learnt at a young age that it's okay for them to harass, bully, and threaten other people instead of acting like decent human beings. And the world really doesn't need any more assholes.

 

[Shokew]

I wholeheartedly believe that people need to stand up for themselves and their friends. You should never let people walk all over you and you need to respect yourself enough to not let anyone make you feel worthless. But I'm not going to act like beating kids up or starting vicious rumors is ~character building~ because it's not. There are far better, healthier ways to build character, ways that don't leave emotional scars. Bullying is not nor will ever be a positive experience in and of itself.

The world isn't a hugbox and sooner or later, kids need to learn that. But is encouraging kids to bully other kids really going to make the world a better place? It seems like you're just breeding more assholes who learnt at a young age that it's okay for them to harass, bully, and threaten other people instead of acting like decent human beings. And the world really doesn't need any more assholes.

Thank You! And knowing how stupid some of these comments above sound, you just saved me some time.

As for my take on the matter (as someone who's experienced it and barely got by defending myself and talking to someone about it like you're supposed to!), I know for a fact that I hate bullying of any kind and find it abhorrent to see in anything or anywhere (IRL or not), so FUCK NO, it should not be encouraged, it should be eradicated. But that comes from everyone doing their part - teachers doing something when they see it (to those responsible!), students standing up to their bully (without taking it too far!), and most importantly, all sides working to deal with the bully so it can be stopped and a more acceptable school environment exists at the end of the day. Life may be cruel and difficult, especially if you're just a kid, but bullying should not be a key cause of that hardship, nor one to ever be tolerated.

 

[HG 400]

I know for a fact that I hate bullying of any kind and find it abhorrent to see in anything or anywhere (IRL or not), so FUCK NO, it should not be encouraged, it should be eradicated.

Bullying is just a natural and normal part of life that separates the winners from the losers. Also nobody gets bullied for no reason so basically when you think about it the best way to stop bullying would be to teach bullied kids not to be such lame faggots so people will stop bullying them.

 

[AnOminous]

I think there's some disagreement as to what constitutes "bullying." A certain amount of conflict is going to happen with kids or anyone else. When this is just fighting among more or less equals with little chance of permanent harm, perhaps it should just run its course. But if you have some kid getting stomped half to death every day, that's another matter entirely.

When it gets into seriously sadistic behavior, stuff that would be criminal if adults did it, adults should step in.

But "zero tolerance" shit invariably lead to stupid policies.

 

[CIA]

Bullying isn't a pleasant experience, but its sort of just part of growing up and can't be avoided. Would I suggest kids go bully others to establish dominance in the social hierarchy? No. However I think sometimes it's beneficial for some kids, it was for me at least. In elementary school being bullied taught me to man up and stop taking shit from people, it wasn't nice to deal with at the time but overall it resulted in me becoming a stronger person. There's situations where others need to intervene though, however in my case it was minor enough for me to handle myself.

 

[KingofManga420]

Bullying is just a natural and normal part of life that separates the winners from the losers. Also nobody gets bullied for no reason so basically when you think about it the best way to stop bullying would be to teach bullied kids not to be such lame faggots so people will stop bullying them.

You were bullied weren't you

 

[HG 400]

You were bullied weren't you

Ya one time a kid called me a fat lame autist, so I stopped being fat, lame and autistic. It ain't rocket science, if you get bullied just stop deserving it.

 

[CatParty]

Bullying is necessary

 

[HG 400]

Bullying is necessary

It's practically education but instead of teaching kids useless shit like math and spelling it teaches them not to be fat and autistic.

 

[CatParty]

It's practically education but instead of teaching kids useless shit like math and spelling it teaches them not to be fat and autistic.

It's not like kids today even get real bullying. It's all stupid name calling that they could easily just tone out.

 

[John Furrman]

I wish I was bullied more so I could have worked up to courage to kill myself sooner. Bullying is very necessary.

 

[Sweet and Savoury]

if words "bully" you, you might as well go sign up for Tumblr right now and start listing triggers.

words cannot hurt you.

 

[CatParty]

if words "bully" you, you might as well go sign up for Tumblr right now and start listing triggers.

words cannot hurt you.

May I point out that whoever whines about bullying here is on the wrong website lol

 

[HG 400]

May I point out that whoever whines about bullying here is on the wrong website lol

Anyone who whines about bullying should just stop doing whatever it is that they get bullied for. Bullied for being fat? Lose weight. Bullied for shitting your pants at school? Stop shitting your pants at school. Bullied for being autistic? Learn some human empathy. It ain't exactly complicated and mysterious.

 

[Saney]

Best you can do is try to ignore it lest you also get into trouble.

What? No, the correct answer is to hit them in the back of the head with a heavy pencil case.

 

[OtterParty]

Look at these pissants and tell me they don't deserve the mother of all beatdowns.