Is there a point in online dating? - Incels gather here

Your better off honestly picking a hobby that has a higher female to male ratio and meeting people the old fashioned way.

I hate clubbing, and I dislike online dating but I've found I've had good success before with just randomly meeting people through social hobbies like jive and swing dancing. Best ways you meet interesting people and potentially widen your dating pool through common interests. Worst ways you improve a new hobby and get to work on some social skills in the meantime.
 
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Met my spouse online. We are both freaks so it worked out.

The first year is do able with long distance, but things can get tense if you are far away and can only meet up once or twice a year.

I recommend identifying the limit of how far you are comfortable with travelling, financially and time-wise. Then start looking. It doesnt have to be a dating site. In fact, if you go into it looking for a relationship vs a friendship, you might not have great luck.

Games you like playing, forums you enjoy browsing, those are good places to find someone where you can connect with someone beyond the need to fuck. I'm not saying post a dating thread on KF, but if you really hit it off with someone and find they are the opposite sex/single, move discussion to another platform like discord or Skype.

Dont go looking for your future spouse. Let it happen. But at the same time perhaps be a bit more open to engaging with others.
 
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I tend to do better with people offline than I do online. I find texting back and forth a hassle. It's like playing tennis, it tires me out so I sound apathetic privately messaging people. But with talking face to face, I'm upfront, honest, and I don't have nervous issues. I'm not gonna say I'm anything to look at but I think personality can go a long way with the right woman and mine usually holds peoples interests. It all depends on you if online dating will work or not. I do think having a hobby or you know, a church is the best option though.
 
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soft breathing said:
After reading this whole thread I am not exactly sad that I've been in the same relationship for longer than Tinder has been around. Online dating (and honestly dating in general) sounds so terribly stressful now.

I wish all of you luck in finding your better halves tho - no matter if through dating apps or in Bars or wherever.

You can do it, Kiwis. :heart-full:
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no i can't
 
I didn't start until ten years ago, and so far all the women I met except for the current and previous one were straight out of hell. The second women I met turned me away from the whole online dating thing for about six years, that's how bad it was.

The worst one was the self-absorbed slightly chubby "folk rock" (in my defense: she used the popular "fat girl angle shot" in her pictures and fooled me with it) and other similar shitty music loving one, constantly telling me about how she knows and met whatever guy from whatever shitty band she likes. I guess she expected me to be jealous of her connections and stroke her ego or whatever, but I wasn't and I didn't feel a thing for her and we had nothing in common. Still met her three times before calling it quits. She actually contacted me first and seemed a lot more interesting in her messages. A horrible experience all around.

Tinder is a shitshow, especially as a man. Unless you look at least 7/10, don't bother using it just to find a quick fuck, just get yourself a hooker.

Can online dating work? Probably, but be prepared for a lot of frustration, especially if you aren't rich or good looking or both. You will always be judged by how you look, that's just how the whole system works.
 
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JeanActimel said:
the system is biased towards womens and eve n3/10 girl get a ton of simps giving her compliments and attention
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But at the same time, embrace being a fat, hairy "Daddy" and you get equal amounts of attention (and money) by being a gay dude.

Honestly at this point I wouldn't even want to return the attention I was given by a girl if not completely isolated and alone. I remember having to basically chase after a few people in my dedicated community servers in my teens to get any attention just for the sake of friends. To imagine that shit, but wanting to also be romantic, as they're already stringing along a few other guys? Fuck that.

At least on actual dating sites you start out with immediate romantic interest, because nobody goes to dating sites to make friends. You do play games to make friends however, so if you actually get along, chances are you'll never reach into romance. That's why Chad ends up with the girl; he goes all-out romance from the start, and it either works or doesn't.
 
I've been on my fair share of dates from women I've met on dating sites, only one was any good and the relationship only lasted for a couple months. I've found better women in places I wasn't even going to for dating, the only good thing about dating sites is that they set you up with people who live somewhere near you. It sucks but the people you're gonna click best with are always going to be in places you frequent out of interest for a topic or hobby since the people there will be able to understand and relate to you better.

Just to clarify, you shouldn't be using places to discuss hobbies and the like to pick up women. My point is that they're the places you're most likely to run into someone you like and who will like you back. This might sound like an incel talking point but as a man, you're probably not going to be very successful on dating sites unless you're an 8 or up since it's full of people shopping while hungry and your pics will be placed directly next to people more attractive than you and bios just aren't that important to people. So yeah, online dating is pretty shit but you're bound to get lucky if you keep at it, I recommend never getting into a LDR though because those things never fucking work out unless you can arrange moving in together or close to each other after knowing each other as a friends for a long time who want to take it to the next level.

btw I'm taking girlfriend applications, slide into my DMs if you like anime plz
 
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Date-able women barely even exist these days as today they're all literal communists or high on validation men are showering on them.
 
I'd like to date, but I'm a bit anxious taking the first step. Plus all the horror stories you hear from those who have tried it and had not much luck.

Even from people I know had varying results, mostly leading to hookups or frizzled relationships.

I'm curious though, for those who said they had met their current significant other through hobbysites, how did that happen? Like for online dating sites such as Tinder or OkCupid, I know what I'm getting into, but for something like say discord or even a forum, how did the dating aspect come to fruition?

Did you both casually mention you're single and just decided to date? That's such a cool way to meet someone.
 
Lord of the Large Pants said:
So between Corona-chan and major cities being on fire, is this the best or worst time to try online dating?

Asking for a friend.
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I'd say the best time for online dating is the ones with the major cities that are on fire. Just lie about hating whites and cops and BAM instant pussy.
Although I can't garunetee that they won't have the corona-chan inside them already.
 
Online dating just doesn't do it for me. I just love being in a relaxed social setting and just being able to talk to the people that are around me. I've made lifelong friends just by sitting down and talking to the people next to me in the college cafe, concert hall bars, and that kind of thing.

There's really no good way to get that kind of experience with any online dating app/site.
 
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I saw the title, and all I could think of was this IFunny post
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Tinder sux.
Just pick up girls IRL. It's so much easier.

Living in [PowerLevel City] I tried Tinder and got about 1 match for every 50 right swipes. By contrast there was a cafe in town where I was 3 successful attempts, 1 rejection and 1 situation where I decided she was horrible and ended the convo on my own.
Cafes, bars, cafes, parks, cafes, Target, cafes, Trader Joe's and cafes.
 
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