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LovisXVI said:
I think most people of either sex are simply not equipped to deal with that kind of emotional sincerity.
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Maybe this is just my incomplete view of the world, but I feel now more than ever there is vested interest in being emotionally insincere in all aspects of your life. (Not to say that the pressures of emotional insincerity have not always been in society, because they have since the dawn of speech, but the common culture seems to be demanding this more than usual. Especially internet culture, with the structure of the modern internet making emotional insincerity not only far easier, but more rewarding than it ever was.)
I would prefer somebody who is an odd duckling (within reason) but unabashedly themselves over somebody cool but emotionally insincere any day.
synthetic_glazer said:
I've never been a fan of the Sweetheart from the Ground-Up approach. Obviously, if you're friends with someone and develop feelings for them after the fact, that's different, but going into a friendship with the intention of trying to turn it into a romantic relationship feels dirty to me, since the friendship is being built on ulterior motives, and when you do ultimately try to turn it into a romantic relationship, the entire friendship could collapse if it goes south.
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The concept of going for somebody for the express purpose of "making it work" is so foreign to me, I cannot imagine doing it. Instead, I take the high road, which is spats of nonsensical unrequited love for random friends until it accidentally works out.
Tangentially related: I have never really understood how anybody can use a dating app of any kind. A couple friends I know have managed to make great connections with them, they're very happy in their relationships and they've gone for years now, but I could never imagine making it work. Feels too much like gamification.
 
for the L G and possibly B's did your sexuality or desires change after the loss of one or both parents? A few of the other homosexuals I spoke to have said that when thier parents were alive even tho they only liked men they still wanted to attempt to give thier parents grandchildren. But after the death of either thier favorite parent or both that desire and any remaining "straightness" left them.
 
General Zoider said:
for the L G and possibly B's did your sexuality or desires change after the loss of one or both parents? A few of the other homosexuals I spoke to have said that when thier parents were alive even tho they only liked men they still wanted to attempt to give thier parents grandchildren. But after the death of either thier favorite parent or both that desire and any remaining "straightness" left them.
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There's many cases where the parents are not accepting of this lifestyle, so it would explain it

My parents never knew and i plan on keeping it that way
 
General Zoider said:
for the L G and possibly B's did your sexuality or desires change after the loss of one or both parents? A few of the other homosexuals I spoke to have said that when thier parents were alive even tho they only liked men they still wanted to attempt to give thier parents grandchildren. But after the death of either thier favorite parent or both that desire and any remaining "straightness" left them.
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Not in the slightest. Both parents knew, didnt have a problem with it
 
General Zoider said:
for the L G and possibly B's did your sexuality or desires change after the loss of one or both parents?
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I was fortunate that neither of my parents had an issue with my sexuality. They never tried to force me in to a relationship with a woman so they'd have grand kids. I think my generation (X) was the last where there was the expectation that you have to at least try and be with a woman. It was the whole "how do you know you're gay if you've never been with a woman?" argument that you don't really see anymore. I think people realized it doesn't work that way and when you suck cock, you suck cock and nothing else.
 
Mesh Gear Fox said:
I was fortunate that neither of my parents had an issue with my sexuality. They never tried to force me in to a relationship with a woman so they'd have grand kids. I think my generation (X) was the last where there was the expectation that you have to at least try and be with a woman. It was the whole "how do you know you're gay if you've never been with a woman?" argument that you don't really see anymore. I think people realized it doesn't work that way and when you suck cock, you suck cock and nothing else.
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My parents were already old when they had me, so whole different generation. Dad would absolutely be disappointed if he knew. Mom always said to me she'd still love me if i came out gay though, but that when i was a teenager. Now that i'm an adult and she saw me with enough women to cast away any suspicions she lets out some homofobic remarks that would put the chuddiest kiwis to shame. I really don't get the importance people give to "come out to your parents". It was never an issue to me, and i think it would only strain the relationship. Being bi allowed me to fly under the radar just fine but i guess it would be harder if i was gay
 
yall had the normalish childhoods while my parents were lesbians and were hoping I was going to be the one to give them grandchilden.
 
General Zoider said:
yall had the normalish childhoods while my parents were lesbians and were hoping I was going to be the one to give them grandchilden.
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YOU WERE THE CHOSEN ONE
 
souschef said:
I mean, if they adopted you, you can adopt children, problem solved
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If i decide to go down that route ill wait until all the bullshit blows over. However, I have a bigger issue I don't know how to solve. I seem to be some kind of older women magnet where they will so far as to bring me to high class restaurants and pay the bill in full.
 
General Zoider said:
If i decide to go down that route ill wait until all the bullshit blows over. However, I have a bigger issue I don't know how to solve. I seem to be some kind of older women magnet where they will so far as to bring me to high class restaurants and pay the bill in full.
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Guy's living my dream and calling it an issue
 
General Zoider said:
for the L G and possibly B's did your sexuality or desires change after the loss of one or both parents? A few of the other homosexuals I spoke to have said that when thier parents were alive even tho they only liked men they still wanted to attempt to give thier parents grandchildren. But after the death of either thier favorite parent or both that desire and any remaining "straightness" left them.
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Nope. both of mine are still alive, haven't talked to my dad in over a decade, and my Mom has never discussed sexuality in any capacity with me. I think she'd probably be disappointed if she knew what I was interested in but ultimately fine with it.
 
Oh, you've had normal childhoods?

Sexuality has never ever been a topic with my parents, or anything in that regard even remotely. I was raised in a pretty cold (in every sense of the word) place, and I've had no normal parent-child relationship with them.

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