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- Nov 10, 2021
I agree with Null about how people online moping about how sad they are all the time are annoying. But saying 'just choose to be happy' makes him sound like Dr. Phil, lol.
Anyone ever see 'A Charlie Brown Christmas'? It's a good representation of what it's like to be depressed and how to fix it. He had that exact problem where nothing was bringing him any joy during the holidays, problems with everything was all he saw and nothing would put him in a good mood. What cured him was involvement with all the other kids during their Christmas play. It started off with him being a dick and getting upset that the other kids weren't doing what they were supposed to be doing, then he gets even MORE depressed by thinking he's a screw-up by getting that terrible Xmas tree. It all goes away when the kids fix it up after grilling him about that to tell him 'look, it's not perfect, nothing's perfect, but so what it's fine.'
The fucked up thing about clinical depression is how it's being diagnosed. It's as if not being perfect means that you're not normal. Even on my end I took this health survey at work and I got diagnosed with depression purely based on the fact that I drink two beers one out of seven days (I retried it and said I didn't drink at all and that diagnosis was no longer there), it's total bullshit. It's been proven time and time again that there's a vested interest in getting people hooked on meds by diagnosing them with this type of thing, but people go along with it because they want an easy solution to a complicated problem. Clinical depression shouldn't have this broad a scope, that should be for people who find themselves literally crying for no reason or something.
If you think back to a time when you were most happy, when was it? What made it good? Where were you, who were you spending time with, and what were you doing? If all of those factors are currently absent, then look for a path to get back to that or try to find something similar. If getting back to that situation is not doable for whatever reason, then a new situation is always available but you have to look for it. There's your goal. Might sound simple, but it's usually pretty hard and can take a lot of time. So what? You can't do something just because it's hard? Sure you can.
Most of the time, all you really need is a change of environment (throwing out all your old shit you don't need, leaving your shitty job, breaking up, etc.). But if you've NEVER been happy (doubt) or at least can't remember the last time you were, then yeah maybe you're the type that needs clinical assistance. Big emphasis on the 'maybe'. That's the difference between being depressed and having depression that doesn't seem to get talked about very much. We all get depressed and go through rough shit in life because life is all about ups and downs and it happens. Getting down in the dumps sometimes IS FUCKING NORMAL. You should only go to a doctor about it if you or anyone else around you can't figure out what the problem is, and only if the problem is really messing up your life.
I must be coming off like a wannabe Tony Robbins right now but I'll go a step further from Null's 'stop being sad' take and say 'stop being a cunt'. I see a lot of people who claim to be sad also act super rude to other people and, at the same time, let so many things get to them emotionally. It's forgivable to do that when you're a teenager but as a grown up, no one wants to be around that. I dunno, maybe someone would get a lot more involvement and less flak from other people for being themselves if they showed sincere interest in others and didn't complain all the time. In that regard, Null is right. Turn that frown upside down, Charlie Brown.
The fucked up thing about clinical depression is how it's being diagnosed. It's as if not being perfect means that you're not normal. Even on my end I took this health survey at work and I got diagnosed with depression purely based on the fact that I drink two beers one out of seven days (I retried it and said I didn't drink at all and that diagnosis was no longer there), it's total bullshit. It's been proven time and time again that there's a vested interest in getting people hooked on meds by diagnosing them with this type of thing, but people go along with it because they want an easy solution to a complicated problem. Clinical depression shouldn't have this broad a scope, that should be for people who find themselves literally crying for no reason or something.
If you think back to a time when you were most happy, when was it? What made it good? Where were you, who were you spending time with, and what were you doing? If all of those factors are currently absent, then look for a path to get back to that or try to find something similar. If getting back to that situation is not doable for whatever reason, then a new situation is always available but you have to look for it. There's your goal. Might sound simple, but it's usually pretty hard and can take a lot of time. So what? You can't do something just because it's hard? Sure you can.
Most of the time, all you really need is a change of environment (throwing out all your old shit you don't need, leaving your shitty job, breaking up, etc.). But if you've NEVER been happy (doubt) or at least can't remember the last time you were, then yeah maybe you're the type that needs clinical assistance. Big emphasis on the 'maybe'. That's the difference between being depressed and having depression that doesn't seem to get talked about very much. We all get depressed and go through rough shit in life because life is all about ups and downs and it happens. Getting down in the dumps sometimes IS FUCKING NORMAL. You should only go to a doctor about it if you or anyone else around you can't figure out what the problem is, and only if the problem is really messing up your life.
I must be coming off like a wannabe Tony Robbins right now but I'll go a step further from Null's 'stop being sad' take and say 'stop being a cunt'. I see a lot of people who claim to be sad also act super rude to other people and, at the same time, let so many things get to them emotionally. It's forgivable to do that when you're a teenager but as a grown up, no one wants to be around that. I dunno, maybe someone would get a lot more involvement and less flak from other people for being themselves if they showed sincere interest in others and didn't complain all the time. In that regard, Null is right. Turn that frown upside down, Charlie Brown.
