So it sounds like you're saying as long as I use a DPMS/LR style lower and milling myself, I should be gucci. Aero M5 upper should work? I have a hard time finding companies that make AR-10 uppers tbh, Aero feels safe cuz I know I can go with their enhanced version and know I will be good for the FA, the dust cover, the BCG, and everything related to the handguard. Would their be any issues with different AR-10 uppers and the DI tube alignment? Was thinking of just running a Faxon barrel at this point, think it should be fine...
this hinges on you being competent, but unlike Armalite, DPMS didn't care if people wanted to use their "specification" with Bushmaster and others opting for the "free" DPMS specification vs the licensed design that Armalite was offering. since DPMS also didn't care if people didn't license it from them, you had clone makers reverse engineer the drawings and machining instructions by measuring out finished products, leading to some variation depending on who did it.
Armalite AR-10 uppers are everywhere, but less common than DPMS (which has "high" and "low" variations). if you feel safer with Aero precision, then buy an AP upper and machine a lower to fit.
the gas tube should not vary between Armalite or DPMS, or really any pattern other than length and "type" like carbine, rifle, medium, pistol, or some of the funkier ones out there. unless you have a particular gas block that isn't standard, they should match up fine.
Some people had the same issues with PA308 uppers when they came out
PSA has their own specification for their rifle and while some parts can interchange, major assemblies will not without modification.
Do you have recommended parts for a dpms upper, and the barrel nut (is that what it's called, the part the free-float handguard attaches to?)
find out what you need or want, and work with a quality vendor on acquiring those parts. the barrel nut clamps the barrel to the upper receiver using the shoulder of the barrel extension, which is threaded onto the breach of the barrel. while this is a standardized part, many handguards and some fancier accessory attachment systems may use a specific one based on their unique mounting design. unless you have a real need for something special, a typical free float tube with jam nut or a more standard heatshielded GFR handguard from an AR-15 should work fine. be aware that the handguard cap may or may not be needed, and your front sight block may have it's own particular requirements for mounting.
the complexity of a complete barreled upper receiver is why many people choose to just buy one vs assembling their own.