Megathread Non-binary genders / Enbies - When Male and Female Aren't Special Enough

Crunchy Leaf said:
'Nonbinary lesbian' is so dumb. If you're a lesbian, that means...you're a chick. Which is a binary gender identity! Inherently so! And I see 'nonbinary woman', too, which is equally dumb. At least try to be consistent.

What's wrong with bride...?
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Just being lesbian isn't special enough anymore. It's gotta be something new and sound like something is medically wrong with you. Bonus points if your self diagnosis and pronouns are contradictory because you get to call anyone that questions you any number of "phobics" even ones you just made up!
 
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And then call the actual lesbians who question you "transphobic" and/or "TERFs" for bonus pity points.

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What's wrong with bride...?
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Because even though they were (somehow) getting married to a man, they didn't want to be called a bride, or have their friends talk to them about "bridal" things, because just because they were feminine and would be wearing a dress didn't mean that they were a woman, and "bride" is a word for women!!
That was the gist of it that I got, anyway. Also, calling them "heterosexual" is bad.

Not many of them seemed to be getting married overall though (surprisingly), and most of those who did were marrying other women who would likely just go the "two angry-looking lesbians in suits" route.

I can't help myself, I love the mental gymnastics of these nutters trying to make out like they're oppressed, because someone sees a female-bodied person in a dress with makeup and long hair and cleavage, calls her"she", and is considered transphobic and problematic for it. It's still incredible to me.
 
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Synthesizer Patel said:
And then call the actual lesbians who question you "transphobic" and/or "TERFs" for bonus pity points.

Because even though they were (somehow) getting married to a man, they didn't want to be called a bride, or have their friends talk to them about "bridal" things, because just because they were feminine and would be wearing a dress didn't mean that they were a woman, and "bride" is a word for women!!
That was the gist of it that I got, anyway. Also, calling them "heterosexual" is bad.

Not many of them seemed to be getting married overall though (surprisingly), and most of those who did were marrying other women who would likely just go the "two angry-looking lesbians in suits" route.

I can't help myself, I love the mental gymnastics of these nutters trying to make out like they're oppressed, because someone sees a female-bodied person in a dress with makeup and long hair and cleavage, calls her"she", and is considered transphobic and problematic for it. It's still incredible to me.
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Acts like a woman, dresses like a woman, literally wants to be a woman, gets called a woman, BIGOTRRRRRRRRREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!

Errybody wants the Gold for mental gymnastics in the Oppression Olympics.
 
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That's pretty dumb.
A frequent refrain in non-binary rhetoric is 'why are masculine clothes associated with androgyny and not feminine clothes ree' and like, the reason is because women fought to be able to wear pants and stuff (used to be illegal!), whereas there was no fighting on the part of men to wear dresses and stuff. Read a book once in a while.

There's a person in one of my classes who wears a 'they/them' button and I am judging a little, but they have a fairly gender neutral hairstyle and wear tshirts and cargo shorts, which I respect a lot more than enbies who have their titties out all the time.
 
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Crunchy Leaf said:
That's pretty dumb.
A frequent refrain in non-binary rhetoric is 'why are masculine clothes associated with androgyny and not feminine clothes ree' and like, the reason is because women fought to be able to wear pants and stuff (used to be illegal!), whereas there was no fighting on the part of men to wear dresses and stuff. Read a book once in a while.

There's a person in one of my classes who wears a 'they/them' button and I am judging a little, but they have a fairly gender neutral hairstyle and wear tshirts and cargo shorts, which I respect a lot more than enbies who have their titties out all the time.
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I'm mostly referring to the people who express themselves as one gender but lose their shit when when referred to as said gender. I know all about the women and pants legal battles from years past and it was a stupid time in history, kinda like now.

Good on the person in your class though. I can support them when it's clear they aren't some trender looking to scoop up progressive points.
 
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Oh, sorry if you thought I was talking to you! I meant the enbies who have no knowledge of anything that happened more than five years ago (also including any gay activism from the 60s on or...well...anything).

One time someone referred to me with they pronouns in person and I was extremely uncomfortable. And this was a girl at a women's college. But they're inexplicably filled with enbies and trans guys, so idk.
 
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Crunchy Leaf said:
Oh, sorry if you thought I was talking to you! I meant the enbies who have no knowledge of anything that happened more than five years ago (also including any gay activism from the 60s on or...well...anything).

One time someone referred to me with they pronouns in person and I was extremely uncomfortable. And this was a girl at a women's college. But they're inexplicably filled with enbies and trans guys, so idk.
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I second this. I visited an all-time college recently and there were enbies on every floor. Maybe no other place would take them.
 
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Oh, yeah, when I was in high school I went to one of those visit-a-college things at Smith, and during some question-and-answer event someone asked about being non-binary there. Isn't that basically misgendering yourself? Unless the school you went to becomes co-ed later, anytime anyone ever looks at your resume they're going to think 'woman'.
 
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Crunchy Leaf said:
Oh, sorry if you thought I was talking to you! I meant the enbies who have no knowledge of anything that happened more than five years ago (also including any gay activism from the 60s on or...well...anything).

One time someone referred to me with they pronouns in person and I was extremely uncomfortable. And this was a girl at a women's college. But they're inexplicably filled with enbies and trans guys, so idk.
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No worries! Sorry for the confusion.

So many of these enbies need to learn their history because they are going to do so much more harm than good to the civil rights of actual trans people.
 
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It says a lot about the age and relative maturity of the people who make these kinds of shitty graphics that they offer no stupid alternatives at all for husband and wife. Spouse? Lifemate? Ring Twin? Man, coming up with this bullshit is harder than I thought, but that might be because I don't want to sound completely asinine and that doesn't appear to have been a consideration for OP here. I don't suppose it matters, though, when absolutely none of them are likely to get married until they tear their gazes from their oh-so-perfect and non-gendered navels, grow the fuck up, and stop screaming abuse every time they don't get their own way.
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I like how one of them is just 'person'. Your relationship will last forever with such a generic, distant-sounding term of 'endearment'.
 
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Crunchy Leaf said:
One time I made a list of every word I saw on tumblr that I'd never seen before, and then I had to stop because there were so many words.
I took a pop into the tumblr 'non binary' search right now, filtered on recent text. I saw...xirl, woman-aligned, transmasculine, cisgender, neurodivergency, neurotypical, lunarians, solarians, fem aligned, masc aligned, multigender, genderfluid, exorsexist, and amab non-aligned enbies. I s2g.

Also, having a private blog is great because you can reblog posts there to save for later without them being able to tell who you are.
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We're going to get the point when it's going to be just be offensive to "label" anyone at all.

With all the bullshit we're sifting through right now though, I can't decide if that will be worse or a godsend.
 
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I like how one of them is just 'person'. Your relationship will last forever with such a generic, distant-sounding term of 'endearment'.
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I can see why some don't want to use "partner" as it's usually prevalent in a homo relationship. That's fine. I mean usually it's used for that as it's gender neutral and if someone is gay but doesn't want to say it they'd probably say partner... Though if someone says "partner" a lot of people will assume they're either engaged or gay or both, due to it being used mostly by gay people.

However "person" is a little bit weird. I mean I get why someone would think "that person is one of my favourite people" or "they are my favourite person to be around"; but as a relationship term? No thanks. There's probably a shit ton of more neutral (and actually gramatically correct) ways of referring to people. I could look it up but I have a no-glasses induced headache.

"Datemate" doesn't sound as bad as the others despite it being a case of "lesser than however many evils", but it still didn't stop an ex-partner of mine sounding insane when they asked if they could use the term for me a year and a half ago. No matter how "sane" and mentally healthy someone is or claims to be, they'll still sound like an idiot if they do that shit (bonus points if they claim to be "polyamorous"). Things like "babefriend" doesn't just take the biscuit; it takes the whole fucking tin.
 
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