I know a lot of women who loved the whole pregnancy experience, but of course it's not easy even if you have an "easy pregnancy". But nothing worth doing is easy
Women definitely experience pregnancy differently, but I think all women can at least agree that the delivery part of pregnancy is not pleasant.
Most pregnancies, and for
most women, aren't utter misery, nor an exercise in fetishization, nor traumatizing - eventful, often difficult, but not usually horrific or unbearable.
I loved being pregnant.
Of course nausea isn't "fun,"and the last couple weeks with weird twinge-y pain at every step aren't a way I'd like to do every day in life, but otherwise it was cool. Not in a gritted-teeth, "I'm getting a baby out of it so this is worth it," and also not "woo woo such a mystical connected experience" (though tbh actually growing a baby inside you is a pretty rad idea/experience, imo/ime), but just regular, plain old enjoyed it.
As for birth, epidurals are fantastic, highly recommend. Pitocin is a bitch for sure, especially when Nurse Ratchet is administering it - but jeez, it's not like the pain of getting/fixing an acl tear means you hate doing your sport of choice - it's just a thing.
Call me stubborn or sturdy, but a bit of pain (or discomfort, or inconvenience) hardly automatically makes life (or pregnancy/ birthing) some kind of absolutely terrible or terrifying thing.
Going to add also that I loved it even with a shitty husband who didn't do a damn thing during or after.
And I'd have done it again if I'd had a better one (husband), but I didn't, so I wised up and out a couple years after the last. None of that changes that pregnancy itself was a great experience for me.
I also know plenty of women who really disliked it or hated the body changes or had very bad experiences/scary complications, but for most, it's fine-to-good, at the least.
I 100% endorse never getting pregnant if you know you don't want to experience any discomfort, you're terrified of or have reason to expect you would experience major complications, or you don't actually want to reorient your life for decades. Or - if you just don't want to.
I genuinely don't take the positive descriptions of pregnancy and childbirth from people who have been pregnant because many of those memories have either been erased or manipulated by hormones that have been in their ancestral line to want to have another kid.
Why do this? You're dismissing the actual, lived experiences of people who have done something, in favor of speculation by those who have not. Those who have not know better - how?
As for accuracy of recollection, mine are consistent with the things I experienced
and wrote down while actually going through it. I had no romantic notions about being pregnant or having children going in, and I didn't lose my brain as a result of either one. Not all women are rendered idiot slaves to hormones or motivated (because patriarchy or pick-me, I guess?) to paper over some mythical hellscape and live in denial of horrific trauma as part of the universal conspiracy to con other women into accepting lives of hell. Nope, some of us just enjoyed it - the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Condescending to women who have real, actual experiences that don't jibe with second- or third-hand horror stories is something I would expect from ill-intentioned incels and other male malcontents.
Let's be honest, most fathers still get plenty of sleep while the woman wakes up every hour to breastfeed.
My useless ex-husband never once did (if that's an exaggeration, it's not by much). I didn't have a full night's sleep for over a year with my challenging first; no help from dad. He thought he was a "50-50" guy, yet which one of us had the higher-stakes job, made markedly more than half of our household income, and did 98% of the childcare? I wonder.
Incels (I mean those who proudly and sincerely identify as such, not just guys who haven't had luck romantically) and red/blackpillers on women stuff have rendered themselves into non-men. There is nothing positive about them. And they can blame women and feminism until the cows come home, but they did it to themselves.
