The way that paedophiles and zoophiles are supposed to have fantasies about being their victim of choice before they become predators themselves I think rapists, especially serial rapists, probably invent fantasies of being assaulted or wronged by women in a way that justifies doing it, or that they secretly want it.
According to men, women read exactly 2 books (Twilight and 50 Shades) and their personal sex drive is exactly like that of Bella/Ana.
Women do not want to be raped (that’s a contradiction in terms anyway, if you want to be raped then you aren’t being raped) yet they fantasize about situations in which a powerful man takes control of the situation and does sexy kinky things to them without having to ask.
Contrapoints/Nick said in his last video that part of the fantasy here is
not having to ask; that the hero imposes this sexual pleasure on the heroine so she doesn’t face the guilt and shame of having to ask her boyfriend to fuck her like a whore or eat her ass or whatnot. I think that’s an important distinction.
I think straight women, when they fuck, want to feel physically dominated by their partner and that giving the partner some status that gives him control over your body (eg he’s a dominant, role playing doctor and patient, boss and secretary, etc.) heightens the physical pleasure women experience.
Women are always worried. I think the main difficulty of enjoying sex is an inability to stop worrying; worrying about your partner’s judgment, worrying your requests are too slutty, or too vanilla, where am I in my cycle, did I take my pill today? etc etc. And one main worry women have about sex is that it’s slutty/whorish/unattractive to ask for what you want in bed. “Good girls” as defined by men aren’t supposed to know shit about sex, let alone take pleasure from it. So many women can’t enjoy themselves unless they can basically absolve themselves of responsibility for the encounter.
Both sexes need single sex spaces. The Boy Scouts should have stayed boys only. The girls scouts exists and should offer activities as fun as the boys get. We can’t demand female only spaces if we deny men those spaces as well. BOTH sexes need a single sex space. There’s an argument to be made when there’s no separate but equal access - the gentlemen’s clubs are a key place the power brokering happens, and if women are excluded then that’s excluding them from power. But there is no argument we can make that allows us to keep our spaces but denys men and boys theirs. Women MUST be able to exclude men from some places and if that’s true then the reverse is as well.
> women are being asked to tolerate sex pests in our locker rooms and toilets
> men are being asked to tolerate coed hiking and knot-tying classes in their scout troop
One of these issues is patently more urgent and carries worse consequences than the other. I’m still not totally clear on what the Boy Scouts are being deprived of by letting girls join their troops, but it seems obvious what women would stand to lose letting trannies into the women’s locker rooms and bathrooms and private women only pink subway cars etc.