There is literally nothing beauty alone gets you more often than average women other than harassment. If you're both beautiful and a cruel manipulator, maybe, but if you're good looking, honest and nice you just get assumptions that your life is easy as pie and that nothing should bother you
Oh, please, not "pretty women have it the worst."
All women (as a group, not each and every one) get treated like shit based on appearance, albeit with different rationales. Assumptions that "you're pretty so you must be dumb/a slut/after something," or"you're plain or ugly, so you must be desperate/ deficient/ overshooting," are standard fare.
If you're at a place you sincerely wonder whether maiming or disfiguring yourself is a step toward...something better, you need psychiatric help and/or to grow up, because you're playing helpless victim*. We (almost) all experience negative things in life, and the best course is just to do well, do good, and excel to the best of your abilities, despite biases or uphill battles (and if that feels beyond reach, self-work is a good idea; no, it doesn't fix bias, but it optimizes life; and nothing prevents working for the larger good as well).
*You may in fact be a victim in certain ways and by certain people, and those biases may have a real, negative impact. I've experienced it many times. But we (humans, barring extreme circumstances) are not helpless in a larger sense. I'm not saying bias based on sex or appearance is fair or right, to be clear. Just that we have choices, in most cases, to fight it, leave it, or work it. Consequences aren't always great, of course, which is wrong.
It makes one wonder if maiming your face, getting skeletal thin or planet sized fat(or chopping your tits off) would get people to start viewing you as a human instead of some sort of transcended alien
Ladies, stop diminishing yourselves. Things like tit-chopping (or self-harm) as a reaction to being pretty are unsupportable. Chop em if you hate them, I guess, but as a reaction to being considered pretty or attractive, it's insane and ridiculous. If - and I don't believe it is the case - these are being done on any scale for this reason, the need is for a) mental care and/or b) ingraining of a sense of self and resilience (and recognizing that dumbfuck men's views of you don't define you; abuse victims are a different thing, so not including that in my comment).
they need to feel desired without caring to become desirable and push it back on shit like height and baldness
This is a great point. Many (no idea as to %, but I'd wager it's at least "most") women go to pains to maximize their superficial appearance, and that's the "norm." Yes, some things we (generally speaking) do are for our own sense of feeling good, to be our best selves, or at least to feel comfortable, but there are significant cultural influences - including on basic bodily upkeep.
There is a subgroup of men who are joyless and (coincidentally, sure) loveless refuse to make similar "accommodations." Cool; do you, but understand that if an aim is to attract others, then there may be things you do (like shower occasionally) in part because of general norms/expectations, in addition to actually feeling better and often being more on top of life when you tend to your physical body. This subgroup refuses to accept that in a
society, sometimes we do things that are deemed social norms. Everyone should feel free to disregard those per one's own preferences, but choices (may) have consequences. Falling back on "women hate shorties" or "bald guys never have a chance" is just
weak, when you refuse to wash yourself (or go outside, or be minimally congenial, or have a job, or whatever).
I think a lot of men just straight up don't want babies period. They might say they do, but all they actually want is muh genetic legacy and to babytrap a woman. As soon as the kid is born they want nothing to do with it (or are actively abusive) and pawn off all the work on the woman.
Too many men (meaning, > 0) think their job is done at insemination, and the rest is wOmAn'S wOrK.
So if the norm is for women to cover their hair, men will get rock hard if they see flyaway hairs. It's like an arms race: the more restrictive women's dress codes are, the more men will do to get their nut on.
Not really apropos, but sort of, and a grand old song, for a moment of lightness:
"In olden days, a glimpse of stocking
Was looked on as something shocking"
That was common sense on the Internet 20 to 25 years ago, hell as recent as ten. Every forum I've ever gone on, despite choosing a sort of female sounding screenname, I wouldn't advertise my sex. And I got away with it. You'd be amazed (well, probably not) how dimwitted males are, talking to someone with a female sounding screenname, yet calling me "him". I wouldn't correct them until I got well integrated into the forum and felt okay with revealing my actual sex. And of course, even though most people were okay, you'd always get one or two fucking weirdos who wouldn't leave you alone. I'm sure plenty of women never reveal it. [...]
All the more reason the whole "pronouns in bio" thing still baffles me to this day. I came from a time where you didn't do that. I used to almost exclusively see youngfag millennials, who may as well be zoomers, and zoomers do it. But even older people do it now on Twitter. It's fucking bizarre.
Idk and basically dgaf about advertising pronouns, but though I've occasionally chosen semi-gender-ambiguous user names in (granny voice) all my years on the internet, I've never actually hidden my gender, even in places I knew would be immediately dismissive of a woman's comment/viewpoint. Why? Because I don't fucking care whether or not someone perceives me one way or another because I am a woman. I am confident in my ability to interact and to debate (win or lose) if that's where it goes. I don't need to mask or masquerade due to gender. Women's ideas are not "lesser than" or bound by sex. If you have independence of thought grounded in reality and aren't unthinkingly parroting viewpoints without having investigated them, what's to be afraid of? Sexist or demeaning comments and offensive dms? Dismiss or defeat (or report/annihilate, if they are abusive). Online comments don't have real-life impact*; I'd think that folks younger than I would know that more than anyone and be more hardened to it than my GenX contemporaries.
*and I mean
comments, not going outside that universe
Honestly? We are. It's not that we want to actively antagonize, we're just kinda simple that way. "Does this make me feel good? If so, i like it." Blessing and a curse in my opinion.
Y'all can do better.
I wonder why so many men seem to think they are bound by their reactive urges. Presumably, most of these men are sentient, some even intelligent. If you know you're an ape at heart, ok, but then - try not to be an ape. It's not hard to check yourself. If you (the general you) wanted to do better, you would. But there's a circle-jerk culture of self-reinforcing affirmation for being an ape, lately cloaked as bIoLoGy, as if individuals were helpless to moderate it. It's weak and lame and lazy. Do better.
