If boys can't be expected to cope in a co-educational system where they are expected to perform such unreasonable behaviours as sit the fuck down and don't yell like a retard, then they should be given schools of their own away from the girls.
And requiring discipline in a classroom is a beginning-of-time requirement. Including when men were the bulk of teachers, and definitely when men held (as they still do) the larger share of the upper-level administrative posts, who are the ones setting policy. "Feminists" had nothing to do with sitting still in class.
I'd like to think this as pretty decent litmus test for good partner. Has anyone else noticed this happening?
"Happening"? As in a new thing? No, this is classic. This is taking care of a family in a very traditional way. My dad did, and at 80 still does. (And he also taught me how to do things myself, because that is important, and he's a good dad and parent.)
I know men who literally never let their wives pump gas - one I know takes each car to the station every Sunday, one by one, to fill up for the week (she doesn't even drive one there for the errand). That's weird to me, but whatever. (This guy has also built (almost finished) a full two-story garage with work/living space by hand from the ground up, fixes the cars and every mechanical thing, keeps the lawn in scrupulously good shape, etc. But he doesn't do it to "show love"; he does it because that is what he sees as his role and his duty. (
Sadly, the office/living space in that garage he built will likely become his living quarters when it is finished.)
Other men have no clue. My kids' dad (legit Boomer, no less) doesn't know what a screwdriver is unless it contains juice. Everything my kids know about tools and self-sufficiency that way came from me. My ex "showed love" by a) existing, apparently, and b) giving gifts that he also could enjoy.
On the other hand, I've been with someone who did all that stuff, made a huge deal of it as a massive expression of love and caretaking,
whether I wanted it or not. (
Knowing how to hammer didn't stop him from ultimately being a nightmare, and funnily (not funnily) enough left me with a ton of half-finished Handy Andy projects (that he clearly started when drunk) when he got the boot.)
Rape is a crime of opportunity. Retards always think only 10/10 supermodels get raped because men just find them soooo sexy they can't resist, but actually the women who get raped the most are disabled women and shockingly enough also the elderly in care facilities. That's because they often can not communicate what happened to them and they are left alone with men who take advantage of their situation.
Also remember that it's only very VERY recently that there was any sort of "report, it's not your fault" ethos - and of course as soon as there was, suddenly it's screeching about "false reports."
Not to worry, boys! Plenty of us got violently raped and never reported because we were brought up a) to blame ourselves (for being alone with a man, or for drinking, or for wearing nice underwear, or for flirting, or for forgetting the iron chastity belt at home, or not pressing our knees together hard enough, or having pretty hair, or whatever), and also with the knowledge that it would go nowhere except to turn the finger back at us. Oh and also would bring on the social and potentially professional blame at potentially ruining a rapist's good reputation and career. So there are probably at least 10 million women raped over time with no recourse for every man falsely accused, and that's generous, and just the US. You're still "winning."
No woman is impressed by carrying the grocery bags from the car to the kitchen counter. Making the grocery list, doing the shopping, unloading the groceries once home, and then cooking a delicious yet nutritious meal with those groceries, sure. Carrying shit 20 feet as if that's love is delusional.
Well, carrying in the bags is not a bad thing to do. Seems like a thank you and an appreciation and mainly - just a normal thing. If he's sitting on his ass while she hauls in the groceries, he sucks.
And it's not normal or healthy to tally up everything on a spreadsheet to find out whether it's enough "love."
Personally, I don't see "acts of service" (the term from that dumb love languages book - which is dumb but more, like everything, misunderstood than even dumb) as "love." Who never does something nice or appropriate for a person they love?? That's just everyday behavior, not extra credit. And frankly a lot of that household stuff benefits the doer as much as the "done for," so that doubly doesn't "count," if for some reason you are counting.
