This is a great question. Nothing's GOOD.
Everything I could come up at this stage of things with was borderline a platitude.
This is why I was wondering.
As a class, men are horrible and make life much much worse for women.
On an individual level, you
can make it work. A man will bring a whole bunch of bullshit to your life, but if the good he provides is greater than the bullshit, then you are better off.
The closer he is to you, the higher you should expect this balance to be. Partially because your lives will be more intertwined and so it'll be harder to break things off if he fucks up, but also because as women, we tend to make excuses and allowances for other people by taxing our own lives.
If you're a woman and he's a man, assume you are giving his motives and behaviour more credence than he deserves. You almost definitely are.
If this guy was a romantic partner, the tranny simping would be a pretty clear "run sis". As a pen pal, and an internet one at that, you don't have fucking shit invested in him. It's low risk to continue the relationship, as long as you maintain the low investment. Finding a connection with people who don't think like you can be grounding as fuck.
But there has to be something that's good. Boring, needy men are a dime a dozen, a man in your life needs to be doing something for you which makes your life better.
All of these are less about recognizing bad behavior and more about how I should probably respond instead of being "agreeable" and smoothing things over to my own detriment.
It sounds retarded, but sometimes that's all I need to hear to re-contextualize an interaction from "how do I fix this" to "WHY DO I EVEN WANT TO"? Someone here comes along and slaps me upside the head and I realize I've been trained to fix problems that aren't mine
This is it. If you're a woman, you are already blessed with the lessons of all your female ancestors. Every single one, from your mum and grandmother to gggggggggg-grandmother of the Middle Ages to the women of the Stone Age. They're all still with you, speaking in a language we only know as instinct. That weird feeling when you don't like a man and you can't say exactly why, is one of those female ancestors imparting the lesson she learned, in the only way she can.
Nothing I can ever say will match those instincts every woman holds within her right now, if what I say sounds like common sense, it's only because you're hearing something that deep down, you knew already.
