Was going to post this on the Autism board, but felt it better fit here:
Do any of you ladies ever feel as if you aren't allowed within male dominated spaces or hobbies without feeling like a poser, even if you've been in the hobby space for long/arent planning on being a tourist?
I've noticed a recent shift in online communities I frequent, which are mostly male dominated (Comics, TTRPG, Manga, Paintball, LARP etc). I don't go in professing myself as a woman, because I'm not a faggot or tranny looking for attention, but sometimes when I see the discussion of topics relating to women I jump in and try to give my view on it as it relates to my gender. It's not often, but most times I feel as if there's a shfit when people I used to genuinely have deep and interesting discussions with all a sudden act as if I'm some kind of poser or attention seeking harlot tourist and act as if we havent been interacting for 6 plus months and just chilling out.
I feel like sometimes, even in this era where "acceptence and equality" is the norm, that I can't even partake in my interests without having to hide my identity. I do it anyways, but it still makes me feel a sense of unease and contempt towards men. Especially when they become condescending or isolate me after the fact. Used to be a big conversation leader and participant in a group chat I was in for 4 years. Found out I was a woman, kicked me from the chat and never spoke to me again.
There's a 4chan screencap that explains the rationale behind "tits or gtfo" logic and the way it's supposed to work in theory is like this:
"Has anyone read this Superman comic?"
"As a woman, I've read it."
Tits or gtfo warranted
"Why do women hate Superman?"
"As a woman, I don't hate Superman."
Tits or gtfo not warranted
But it's never used that way in practice, it's just the automatic kneejerk to finding out someone is a woman, even if she's contributing perfectly fine and nobody had a problem with her posts before finding out she's female. And, like you say, they still act like this when gender directly comes up as a topic.
I say "warranted" but to be honest, I am really over Guy In Real Life culture. Every other word out of men's mouths is related to their penises, balls, fapping, semen, waifus, but ever making any reference at all to your actual anatomy or husbandos gets you deemed an attention seeking cunt whore. Men are not the default human, it's gay and retarded that women and young girls online are pressured into thinking it's normal and respectable to constantly go out of your way to omit your real sex as much as possible, or straight up deny it and larp as a man, just to have a conversation about comics or vidya or whatever. I never believed the stories about women getting free stuff in video games until I read posts about it on here, since my experiences of people finding out I'm a girl in games were typically along the lines of "gtfo" and I learned to hide it and larp as a dude on the internet very early on, years before I even had any concept of politics or gender wars. It's based on complete bullshit anyway, as if women haven't always been a part of these hobbies and internet culture from the start. It's not special, deviant or holding up a neon sign begging for attention for a woman to openly be interested in these things. This is part of why I couldn't ever consider myself a feminist, feminists are always dunking on nerdy hobbies (not the overindulgence, which would be fully understandable, but the hobbies as a whole) as juvenile wastes of time for failed males. It's a bit of a horseshoe with men saying women naturally don't like this stuff and don't contribute, which is just untrue.
As I got older, I stopped caring what upsets penisniggers. That may be unhelpful advice, but really, why treat their opinions with any weight at all? It doesn't matter if you don't go in professing yourself as a woman, they see you exactly the same as someone who does, regardless of how well you behave, how hard you follow their rules and how much respect you give (that will always be one-way). And honestly, who cares if someone is honest about being a woman without some kind of acceptable justification? Men don't have to justify themselves in order to mention they stroked their dick to Toriel today or to tell everyone in the groupchat in graphic detail about how their prostate is acting up. If a woman is being an ass, that's an entirely separate issue from whether she confirmed she's a woman.
Moid rage tax
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