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Anchuent Christory said:
Yeah, there's definitely a "sweet spot" for making a move. Too early can be creepy, too late implies that you're just going to keep messaging to keep them at arm's length to satisfy some need to feel like you have somebody without actually making some sort of commitment.
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Or, if you're a man, that you're too much of a puss to ask to meet them in person.
 
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Holdek said:
Is that like a Vulcan?
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No, stoicism was a Greek philosophy.

Google Definition for you:
An ancient Greek school of philosophy founded at Athens by Zeno of Citium. The school taught that virtue, the highest good, is based on knowledge, and that the wise live in harmony with the divine Reason (also identified with Fate and Providence) that governs nature, and are indifferent to the vicissitudes of fortune and to pleasure and pain.

Basically, ignore pain, ignore joy. Focus on knowledge and reason.

A semi-stoic believes in ignoring the pain, but taking the joy where it can be found, but not in excess.
 
Tinder is much more likely to work if you live in a large city. Anywhere else and the pool of potential matches gets too small to make it effective.

Grindr, though, that'll work anywhere.
 
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Hellblazer said:
Tinder is much more likely to work if you live in a large city. Anywhere else and the pool of potential matches gets too small to make it effective.

Grindr, though, that'll work anywhere.
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It works pretty well in any city above 50,000 people. It works decently with fewer if it's a college town.

I had a bi roommate explain grindr to me a few years ago. Seems a bit creepy if they tell you exactly where the other person is. (Given, I did see an album of grindr messages on reddit--possibly in r/cringe--that was one of the most hysterical online dating things I've ever seen, so I guess it's good on that front.)
 
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Picklechu said:
It works pretty well in any city above 50,000 people. It works decently with fewer if it's a college town.

I had a bi roommate explain grindr to me a few years ago. Seems a bit creepy if they tell you exactly where the other person is. (Given, I did see an album of grindr messages on reddit--possibly in r/cringe--that was one of the most hysterical online dating things I've ever seen, so I guess it's good on that front.)
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Holdek said:
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She's cute!

Doctor Professor Timon said:
I've dated online.

I have learned that desperate people go to the internet to date.

I have also learned crazy women do that.

Never again. One had my phone number and would not stop texting me, another was one of those suicide-threateners, and, finally, one seemed normal, but then it turned out she was more dumb than a box of rocks and didn't understand why I broke up with her after she admitted she cheated on me.

As for real-life: Two in particular, first one was a nut-job and I got out of there fast, and the other couldn't understand what personal time (away) from them meant.
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I kind of want to do online dating, but reading this, I'm not so sure anymore.

Hellblazer said:
Tinder is much more likely to work if you live in a large city. Anywhere else and the pool of potential matches gets too small to make it effective.

Grindr, though, that'll work anywhere.
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Aren't they somewhat the same?
 
WanderingVagabond said:
Aren't they somewhat the same?
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Tinder's more of a matching service (you literally swipe left if you're not interested, right if you're interested, and the app tells you if you both swipe right, at which point you can message one another), while grindr uses some kind of geolocation, not to mention that, from what my roommate showed me, it seems to have some sort of social media type functions (although I'm not too sure about that). Plus, you have to consider the economics of it, for a lack of a better term--dudes, both straight and gay, are typically hornier than women, and some gay/bi dudes are probably in the closet and don't have any other way to hook up or meet other dudes.
 
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Picklechu said:
Tinder's more of a matching service (you literally swipe left if you're not interested, right if you're interested, and the app tells you if you both swipe right, at which point you can message one another), while grindr uses some kind of geolocation, not to mention that, from what my roommate showed me, it seems to have some sort of social media type functions (although I'm not too sure about that). Plus, you have to consider the economics of it, for a lack of a better term--dudes, both straight and gay, are typically hornier than women, and some gay/bi dudes are probably in the closet and don't have any other way to hook up or meet other dudes.
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So Tinder's for straights and Grindr is for bis and gays?
 
WanderingVagabond said:
So Tinder's for straights and Grindr is for bis and gays?
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You set your sexual preferences when setting up Tinder, so I assume that you could set it up to look for people of the same sex. Grindr exclusive caters to dude who are into other dudes, unless they've expanded since then. (It was 2012 when my then-roommate explained it to me.)
 
I actually met my current girlfriend over tumblr of all places, she followed a friend of mine while said friend was visiting me from the other side of the country, and we browsed her blog cause she had a cool URL and reblogged interesting content. (and no social justice stuff! at all!) We both followed her and eventually she and I started talking, lo and behold she was great to talk to! I met her at a really rough time in my life, and talking to her really helped tug me through it. I had just been through an awful breakup and my dog had just died, but when when I was too exhausted to talk to anyone, I still had a great time sperging around with her. We played all the same games, had a ton of shared interests, and after a few months we were together. :heart-full:
A few months later she came down to visit me for a week, and it was amazing. We've been seeing each other every few months, as frequently as we can with finances and work and such. She's going to be coming down here for two weeks in July, her first time down here since our first visit. We hope to live together soon, but since she's Canadian and I'm in the states it's pretty complicated. But we're both dedicated to working to make this work, so I'm not worried at all.
 
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I met this guy on a chat room for people with anxiety issues- so it was a really good idea to meet him in the real world. We've lived together for three years now.
Only date people you meet in mental disorder chat rooms is the lesson here.
 
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Anyone try Hinge? I think it's like Tinder except it connects you with friends of friends for dates. I guess if Tinder is like the app version of going to a bar, Hinge is like the app version of having you friends set you up. (Plus it increases the chance that you'll meet not-crazy people?)
 
Holdek said:
Anyone try Hinge? I think it's like Tinder except it connects you with friends of friends for dates. I guess if Tinder is like the app version of going to a bar, Hinge is like the app version of having you friends set you up. (Plus it increases the chance that you'll meet not-crazy people?)
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I downloaded it last year, and still have it on my tablet, but I guess that I didn't like it considering that I've almost never used it. I honestly don't really remember.
 
I used OKCupid for a while before I started dating my fiancée. Oddly enough, I was active enough that they made me a moderator. I no longer moderate there unless I get desperate enough for something to pass the time, although some of the shit that gets posted there is a bit lulzy from time to time.

It was there that I learned that some people find edible lingerie sexy. :cryblood:
 
Zeorus said:
I used OKCupid for a while before I started dating my fiancée. Oddly enough, I was active enough that they made me a moderator. I no longer moderate there unless I get desperate enough for something to pass the time, although some of the shit that gets posted there is a bit lulzy from time to time.

It was there that I learned that some people find edible lingerie sexy. :cryblood:
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Everybody gets to moderate if you're on there long enough/answer enough questions.
 
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I personally have never been particularly fond of the idea of dating sites. I've always preferred to meet like-minded people or get together with mutual interest groups from online so that way there's already something I have in common with the other people.

It just so happens the mutual interest group I meet with regularly in the real world is hyper-sexualized and not exactly conducive to establishing monogamous relationships.
 
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