You are not arguing against me. See I do have rape fantasy but realize rape is wrong and wouldn't ever rape anyone, that is what I've said the entire time. I also know that cognitively females overwhelmingly don't really want to be raped, that is just as obvious as it gets. The problem here is that English doesn't really to my knowledge have two "want" words, one for cognitive and one for affective. I'm borrowing from language used in academic discussions of empathy here, but I think it is a proper use of the language.
Here are the definitions from discussions of empathy
http://blog.teleosleaders.com/2013/07/19/emotional-empathy-and-cognitive-empathy/ (sorry it isn't a pdf, not going to bother digging up an academic study for you)
Emotional empathy, also called affective empathy or primitive empathy, is the subjective state resulting from emotional contagion. It is our automatic drive to respond appropriately to another’s emotions. This kind of empathy happens automatically, and often unconsciously. It has also been referred to as the vicarious sharing of emotions.
Cognitive empathy is the largely conscious drive to recognize accurately and understand another’s emotional state. Sometimes we call this kind of empathy “perspective taking.”
See, affect is something that is kind of beyond your control. It's your intrinsic emotional response to something, and is more primitive than cognition. Cognition is your conscious thought process, the things you think, the beliefs you have, etc. These systems often are not in synch with each other, with actually leads to state called cognitive dissonance.
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/cognitive dissonance
COGNITIVE DISSONANCE: psychological conflict resulting from simultaneously held incongruous beliefs and attitudes (as a fondness for smoking and a belief that it is harmful)
Unfortunately English has this word want, which is a desire for something, but it doesn't specify if the desire is cognitive or affective. Females (many of them anyway) want to be raped in the affective sense, it is a primitive emotional desire. Cognitively they do not want to be raped. The overwhelming majority of females are not even cognitively aware that it can be evolutionarily advantageous for them to be raped by high quality males. The females affect was coded by evolution though, and it is well aware of this fact, and this manifests itself as rape fantasies being very prevalent in female populations. So females often do want to be raped, but only affectively not cognitively.
In the same fashion, I affectively want to rape people and be generally sexually coercive, but cognitively I actually don't want to rape people and even wish I hadn't the affective desire to do so (as it is inconvenient).