Plymouth shooting: Multiple fatalities in Keyham

CrescentCelica said:
Extremely faggy question(s) with some powerlevelling ahead.

As someone in their early twenties with effectively no irl social circle and an extremely well paying (but physically demanding) job in heavy industry, how am I supposed to meet people? I know that my lack of social interaction with both women and people my age is the reason for the lack of a social circle, but I don't know how to rectify that. I have one real life friend. I participate in one community hobby that is extremely male dominated, mostly with military guys, and I don't hang out with any of those guys outside of events.


I make more than all of my peers by a significant margin, and I'm also worried about alienating some of the online friends I have due to the large disparity in our incomes and lifestyles. Most of my online friends give 0 shits as far as I can tell, but it still bothers me. I'm extremely lonely and I don't know how to course correct at this point. Everyone tells me how well off I am and how they wish they were in my spot at my age, but I just feel empty in side. Other than hobby events, I'm terminally online, and I have no real motivation to do anything else. I'm certain I'm depressed, but I'm also certain that ssris will only make things worse.

I mean, it's bad enough that I'm asking for advice from other online retards in a thread about a fucking incel spree shooter. Fuck.
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I'm sorry you feel lonely, that's not a good feeling.

First, don't beat yourself up because meeting new people as an adult can be hard. People who go to college/uni have an advantage because they are dropped into a large pool of unknowns their own age and the odds of liking some of them are very high. It's much harder when you work because there won't be 2000 randoms of your cohort around at your job. People also make new friends when they have kids and are forced to interact with other families at school and social events, that's something that just happens due to circumstances rather than intention.
Also, don't feel ashamed about making money. Decent people really don't care about that. Almost all my friends are wealthier than me, and it never bothered me. They all still have their own struggles and issues, as I have mine, and I care about them so I want them to do well in life. And maybe one day you can use your financial position to help out a friend who is struggling, that's a nice position to be in.

You say you have one real life friend - how many friends does he have? If he has more friends, do you know how he met them?

You say you participate in one hobby with other guys, why don't you hang out with them after? Is there something stopping you from saying 'you want to grab a beer saturday?' to one or two guys you get along with?

Seems like the biggest issue is that you're terminally online and feel depressed. Online friends don't make great friends, they can always ghost you and connections are tenuous. Could you meet up with one of them or are they all very far away?
I think you should limit your time online and get out more in the local community. I can understand that it's hard when you do physical labour all day but it's the only way to really meet people. And with that I do mean joining in (lame) community events or signing up for a course or workshop or something, or doing some volunteering that involves people. You'll meet a variety of people there, and that's good - even if you end up connecting with older people, they know other people and might introduce you to them. Social interactions really are like a network, you meet more people as you get to know more people. It sucks but it is what it is. The good part is that when you have a few connections you don't have to work so hard anymore.
 
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Shadfan666xxx000 said:
A big part of the trick is putting yourself in environments where you meet women regularly IRL on a consistent basis. This was actually pretty easy in the days where you could go to church and join fraternal orders who would network you but right now the only place to meet new people is in work settings mostly. This means men who work trades and high powered careers can't easily build organic relationships with women and there are only so many office drone jobs that pay worth a damn and won't kill your soul.
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And as an office drone you are subject to regular “anti-harassment training” which all boils down to “it’s harassment if she decides it is”. This and the gender dynamics in general combine to have the effect of men overwhelmingly taking a “don’t shit where you eat” policy towards female co-workers. This is shown by surveys of newlyweds asking where they met. Work used to be one of the most common places and has dropped significantly in the last 20 years.
 
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The Great Chandler said:
I might partially disagree here. It is true that when you hear stories of more unfortunate people, it can create an effect were the mentally unwell dude thinks even less of himself because he feels guilty for having those privileges in the first place or envious that these people have more grit than him. On the other hand, hearing about less fortunate people can perhaps motivate or at least give an idea of how these people endure it.

How I see it, it's just another advice in a sea of other advice. It's all a matter of learning from it
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>can perhaps

Hypothetical of a hypothetical. Sometimes it's better to chew than to talk.
 
folly magnet said:
Women on dating apps like Tinder are the ones getting inundated with dick picks every day. Maybe you were flattered by it yourself but generally speaking, women do not actually like getting those (ironically, the ones who do, would just get called whores). After a while, those women get disillusioned and will decrease the time they spend on those apps and many will quit using them altogether discouraged. At the end of the day, the main issue is that men want more meaningless sex than women. It carries less risk for them for one. It has nothing to do with your perceived attractiveness. You could post just a picture of your dick on grindr and you'd still get flooded with responses. That's how thirsty men are. Since women are not in as much of a hurry to get laid, they can take their time and take breaks from looking once in a while and stake up crochet or whatever instead in the meantime. They're certainly not about to meet every weirdo who messages them when even a teenage boy could easily overpower them. If you want to take women's "narcissism" down a notch, you should start a movement for men to be less thirsty for pussy.
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Did I say I was looking for casual sex?
Did you even read my post?
I am talking about dates; dumb bitch. This isn't about you. Get your vagina out of a knot.
 
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Spasticus Autisticus said:
And as an office drone you are subject to regular “anti-harassment training” which all boils down to “it’s harassment if she decides it is”. This and the gender dynamics in general combine to have the effect of men overwhelmingly taking a “don’t shit where you eat” policy towards female co-workers. This is shown by surveys of newlyweds asking where they met. Work used to be one of the most common places and has dropped significantly in the last 20 years.
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That's where you simply apply some extra tricks to get things going.
First, women operate in flocks. They will generally go with the flow of the senior or leading women of the group. That means looking for the senior matron in the workplace, figuring them out, and ingratiating yourself to them. Always be respectful and never vulgar. These will make or break an office setting.
Second, women love a good love story. These are creatures of feels above all else. Earnest feeling and genuine charm will make them forget all the rules as long as you turn in results.
Third, women love taboo. A prize with a high cost is a prize you can brag about. No woman truly hates a competent man with standing and the ones who do are always countered (i.e. Kavanaugh).

If your job has an official no dating policy then stay wary and don't pick the berries but otherwise, stay cool and frosty.
 
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Shadfan666xxx000 said:
That's where you simply apply some extra tricks to get things going.
First, women operate in flocks. They will generally go with the flow of the senior or leading women of the group. That means looking for the senior matron in the workplace, figuring them out, and ingratiating yourself to them. Always be respectful and never vulgar. These will make or break an office setting.
Second, women love a good love story. These are creatures of feels above all else. Earnest feeling and genuine charm will make them forget all the rules as long as you turn in results.
Third, women love taboo. A prize with a high cost is a prize you can brag about. No woman truly hates a competent man with standing and the ones who do are always countered (i.e. Kavanaugh).

If your job has an official no dating policy then stay wary and don't pick the berries but otherwise, stay cool and frosty.
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I sincerely hope you're trying to be funny with this...
 
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Cousin_Larry said:
Well, gosh! I can't imagine why women aren't interested with a decorum like that! Lol you're a fool. Get used to being lonely, bud
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You're trying really hard. I don't feel ashamed.
I act this way now because I don't care anymore. If you read my initial post you would've realized that, dumbass.

I also made repeated mention of my circle of friends in my initial post. Pretty sure that's the opposite of lonely.
Keep trying, bud.
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GooglePuppet said:
Did I say I was looking for casual sex?
Did you even read my post?
I am talking about dates; dumb bitch. This isn't about you. Get your vagina out of a knot.
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And I never implied you were. You personally may have been looking for a relationship but those women have to trudge through hundreds of dick picks to find that one seemingly normal dude who's not just looking to pump and dump. At some point, most just give up. Anyway, I see no comments on thirsty men being the reason why women can afford to be pickier.

Also, women can pick up a lot of subtext that men subconsciously give. It's a survival mechanism when you're the physically weaker sex. Probably the reason why autistic women tend to function better. Judging by your recent exchanges in this thread, I feel like that might be something you want to work on.
 
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Beating Women said:
I have no idea who this was...
It's some mad TERF who had a multipart breakdown breakdown in the TERF thread weeks ago for people being mean about feminists and using stickers in a way she doesn't like :story:

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Everyone can see your history. Even if you set your profile to private, loads of people have certainly been stalked by you.

Mod’s can easily stroll in, see history, see an incel (or whoever) revenge rate others, stalk them, become obsessed with anyone who makes jokes in threads they preciously hold dear & demand others post how you like, all serious, & name call anyone you dislike.

They see you lie. Move on please. At least you haven’t power leveled beyond claiming you spend all your time on incel forums, yet. That I know of.
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GooglePuppet said:
You're trying really hard. I don't feel ashamed.
I act this way now because I don't care anymore. If you read my initial post you would've realized that, dumbass.

I also made repeated mention of my circle of friends in my initial post. Pretty sure that's the opposite of lonely.
Keep trying, bud.
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You're very angry. If you, in fact, have friends, you should talk to them. I'm not trying to do anything but tell you your demeanor, at least here, is repulsive. You might be a nice person, but if this is how you present yourself in real life, no one is going to want that.

Just a little advice from a woman. Take it or leave it, I guess.
 
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folly magnet said:
And I never implied you were. You personally may have been looking for a relationship but those women have to trudge through hundreds of dick picks to find that one seemingly normal dude who's not just looking to pump and dump. At some point, most just give up. Anyway, I see no comments on thirsty men being the reason why women can afford to be pickier.

Also, women can pick up a lot of subtext that men subconsciously give. It's a survival mechanism when you're the physically weaker sex. Probably the reason why autistic women tend to function better. Judging by your recent exchanges in this thread, I feel like that might be something you want to work on.
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Will you quit being so melodramatic and full of shit?
You're acting like women are getting fucking 'nam flashbacks from dating apps. 'trudge through', give me a break.

If most just gave up, then there'd still be people getting dates at bars.
 
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folly magnet said:
And I never implied you were. You personally may have been looking for a relationship but those women have to trudge through hundreds of dick picks to find that one seemingly normal dude who's not just looking to pump and dump. At some point, most just give up. Anyway, I see no comments on thirsty men being the reason why women can afford to be pickier.

Also, women can pick up a lot of subtext that men subconsciously give. It's a survival mechanism when you're the physically weaker sex. Probably the reason why autistic women tend to function better. Judging by your recent exchanges in this thread, I feel like that might be something you want to work on.
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We're gonna be reading about this dude in the news soon, let's be serious. At least we can say we tried!
 
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GooglePuppet said:
Will you quit being so melodramatic and full of shit?
You're acting like women are getting fucking 'nam flashbacks from dating apps. 'trudge through', give me a break.

If most just gave up, then there'd still be people getting dates at bars.
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I dated a guy I met a bar. You're just mad because no one likes you.

Shadfan666xxx000 said:
I have a way with words. Your point besides that?
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You don't, and you know nothing about women.
 
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