The biggest problem with poly, and really any other weird fetish, is that they get so used to their little circle of the internet telling them what their doing is right and normal/should be normal that they can't wrap their head around the idea that normal people in the real world don't go around talking about what get them off 24/7. But instead of taking a step back and thinking hey maybe my coworkers and family don't want to hear about my 3 boyfriend and 2 girlfriends, they think View attachment 307816
Because they're attention whores. Their relationships keep failing horribly because they're not motivated by having a healthy sex life that suits them. They just want to feel superior to all those normie cucks and their boring, patriarchal monogamous relationships.
Also, by adding in more people to the relationship, they are adding more fuel to the fire. It's like they think only for themselves, oh wait, they only think for themselves.
I've never even really got the idea of the "fuck buddy" or "swingers" thing. If you are fucking other people just because they are a dick or a hole on legs, why aren't you just using a toy? Because that's all you see each other as. Seems like a lot more work and time just for a sex toy on legs.
Plus there's those stories I've heard of "Oh I have this fuck buddy on the side, but they've told me they've actually fallen for me, what do I do?"
Alright I found my glasses and I've had time to do stuff and have coffee so I guess I could put another experience with poly people on here. It's a long story but if you want to bask in the pure :autism:, go ahead.
Once again, boatload of :powerlevel: but I thought it would be a good example of something a few people in the thread have mentioned, that being "someone wants to be in a non-monogamous relationship/friends with benefits situation to keep their options open but then they get mad that the other person gets lucky" I may remove the story purely because it's really long and i don't know how relevant it is. I thought it would be as it's about someone who wanted non-monogamy but then gets mad about it when you make use of it being non-monogamous. If that's the case tell me and I'll keep it to the TLDR at the end alone
I will preface this with the fact that that this person never specifically said "poly" but I deem "open relationship" and poly to be one in the same.
I wasn't looking for anything serious at the time, and was pretty much just looking for a hookup or someone i could keep as a booty call and found someone on Tinder. We hit it off and met a couple times before hooking up and he made it very clear we aren't in a relationship. That's fine with me.
We acted like a couple but weren't one. I guess it's what he wanted out of the relationship? I wasn't fussed as I was still getting some. The relationship we had "open friends with benefits"/"open relationship without the romance" scenario (making his later actions even more :autism was a mutual agreement. He was telling me that I could see other people... Even though I was still technically single. Makes sense, even though I didn't really need his "permission" as we weren't exclusive/in a relationship.
Later on in the year there was something going on near him and he asked if I could join him and his friends. I stayed at his house the night before and was supposed to stay for the weekend. Shit hit the fan on the first day of this event. All day, he's telling people "we're not together in that sense" when they commented on "you guys are a cute couple" (cringe), which is true, so it wasn’t a big deal. At this event there was a lot of drinking. AKA we took a shit ton of beer and stuff to this event to share between us and his friends to get shitfaced. I get horrendously drunk and meet some interesting girls and guys. One of which I went home with and we hooked up.
Not too long after I leave this guy’s place, I get a text from this guy, calling me a cunt, the whole “we're done" spiel as if I cheated on him. At the time I was apologetic as I didn't realise he had some form of attachment to me and actually felt kinda bad about it... Not long after, I realised he was fucking stupid. He said we could see other people, and didn’t object to us going to this guy’s house. He bailed on us and from what I remember I asked if I should go with and he said no. I was still single at the end of the day.
Had to get a ride home, I was really drunk and couldn't exactly go back to this guy's house.
Even had to wait for him to cool down before I could get my shit back though half of it went missing. He admitted that his sister took a few things of mine. Didn't want anything else to do with him so I just let it go as I got my tablet back and that's all I really needed to get back from his house.
TL/DR: Got into a non-monogamous friends with benefits-type relationship with a commie. He got mad I fucked someone else, and autistically screeched at me about it over text. Bonus points for the fact that when i went to get my stuff back from his house half my stuff had been nicked by either him or his sibling.
I guess this is exactly what @Hollywood Hulk Hogan was talking about with weird fuck buddies getting their feels caught up in it. It's fucking annoying. The whole situation after he bitched me out for doing something that was actually completely okay was a bloody headache that I'm never dealing with again.
The biggest problem with poly, and really any other weird fetish, is that they get so used to their little circle of the internet telling them what their doing is right and normal/should be normal that they can't wrap their head around the idea that normal people in the real world don't go around talking about what get them off 24/7. But instead of taking a step back and thinking hey maybe my coworkers and family don't want to hear about my 3 boyfriend and 2 girlfriends, they think
I have a friend who is poly and ticks a lot of the stereotypes (fat, bi, constantly says it's not a kink, reposts Facebook articles on how it should be more "accepted", etc.) and she simply couldn't understand why her brother got extremely pissed off when she brought her boyfriend AND her fiance to her family Thanksgiving dinner.
Meanwhile, her fiance now lives halfway across the country and got involved with a woman at the women's prison he works for. But they're totally still together.
Probably the ones who open the relationship because they want to sleep around but then their partner ends up getting some while they can't find anyone else. It's quite funny to watch it blow up in their faces. Even funnier being on the receiving end of their sperging because you know it's from the place of "this didn't turn out how I wanted it to"
Probably the ones who open the relationship because they want to sleep around but then their partner ends up getting some while they can't find anyone else. It's quite funny to watch it blow up in their faces. Even funnier being on the receiving end of their sperging because you know it's from the place of "this didn't turn out how I wanted it to"
My personal lolcows went the polyamory route and the outcome was hysterical. And a little sad because I felt bad for the girl cow, but I can still laugh about it. Oh, the treasured memories I have...
My personal lolcows went the polyamory route and the outcome was hysterical. And a little sad because I felt bad for the girl cow, but I can still laugh about it. Oh, the treasured memories I have...
Reading that large wall of text, all I could picture behind the keyboard was a sad person with a Stepford wife like grin going "Being poly is great, it's so great. I could never go back, not ever ever ever." They're trying so hard to convince themselves that it's right and everyone else is wrong. If they really felt that way they wouldn't need to talk about it all the time.
was a mutual agreement. He was telling me that I could see other people... Even though I was still technically single. Makes sense, even though I didn't really need his "permission" as we weren't exclusive/in a relationship.
can you be?