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Poly bullshit is one of the grossest STD-infested hives I've ever had the displeasure of witnessing. Before she met me, my last ex was in some weird creepy throuple that lasted all of a week. The way she described it seemed very typical: creepy schizo guy that beat up his girlfriend wasn't satisfied sexually, so he convinced her to open up the relationship (which she was susceptible to as a genderspecial wacko). The dude got STDs from fucking random men and women of course. Then he waited until my ex had broken up with her long-term boyfriend and groomed her to move in with them. Guy gave her a disease, and the girlfriend lost her shit because she got jealous, and got super fucking catty doing her best to degrade her. They lived together for five months after the "polycule" or whatever ended, and it was constant abuse, cheating, manipulation, etc. I'm convinced every last one of these people are socially maladjusted and emotionally immature to the point that they seem incapable of centering anyone other than themselves. There's always an inability to deal with problems and work through them because commitment is too hard or some shit. She agreed it was bad all-around at first, but then I learned her besties on her socials were poly, and had actually asked her to join them in it. That was followed by maybe halfway into the relationship she reversed course on everything and told me she was poly while drunk, but took it back, defended her ex's woman-beating (who she talked to every day), and lied about her location every so often. I'm pretty sure when people can't do things in the "ethically non-monogamous" way, they drop what they consider to be ethical and flat-out lie, cheat and abuse to get their way.

And of course, there's a trans/genderfreak overlap in those social circles. I noticed so many batshit insane "nonbinary" women looking for multiple partners, usually other women, to join in with their creepy boyfriends. One of them started a new job and had a mental breakdown on the first day because it was too hard, so she got fired on the spot. And these days it seems like 2 in 5 of the women I see on apps are "ethically non-monogamous" or some other stupid shit.

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Sure Jan, sure.
 
DumbDude42 said:
its true though
men routinely beat each other up over getting jealous or competitive for the same woman. in times past they'd sometimes beat each other to death or fight formal duels to the death over it. women generally dont do that.
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You've never interacted with a woman for an extended period of time, have you?
 
fishercat said:
You've never interacted with a woman for an extended period of time, have you?
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i've seen girls get bitchy and annoyed over their bf talking to (or looking at lol) other girls
meanwhile i've seen a guy straight up punch another dudes teeth out because he went through his girlfriends phone and saw him in her texts trying to hit on her
there's a substantial difference in intensity between these responses
 
DumbDude42 said:
i've seen girls get bitchy and annoyed over their bf talking to (or looking at lol) other girls
meanwhile i've seen a guy straight up punch another dudes teeth out because he went through his girlfriends phone and saw him in her texts trying to hit on her
there's a substantial difference in intensity between these responses
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Have you seen black girls?
 
DumbDude42 said:
i've seen girls get bitchy and annoyed over their bf talking to (or looking at lol) other girls
meanwhile i've seen a guy straight up punch another dudes teeth out because he went through his girlfriends phone and saw him in her texts trying to hit on her
there's a substantial difference in intensity between these responses
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I saw a girl take off her high heel and destroy another girl's eye in high school. That was when I learned that the aqueous humor is clear.
 
Troonologist PhD said:
Don't ask me for sources on it but I've read that it's not an uncommon sentiment for men from polygamous cultures to think polygamy is too much work and too little gain.
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It'd probably be fun for the small amount of time during the day you're having sex, but the rest of the day (all 23 hours of it) would be a lot worse
 
DumbDude42 said:
i've seen girls get bitchy and annoyed over their bf talking to (or looking at lol) other girls
meanwhile i've seen a guy straight up punch another dudes teeth out because he went through his girlfriends phone and saw him in her texts trying to hit on her
there's a substantial difference in intensity between these responses
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I think women are just less likely to get into physical fights, that doesn't mean they have a lesser degree of jealousy and/or possessiveness. When women bully each other in grade school for example it's almost never physical, but that doesn't mean nothing is going on.
 
scathefire said:
I think women are just less likely to get into physical fights, that doesn't mean they have a lesser degree of jealousy and/or possessiveness. When women bully each other in grade school for example it's almost never physical, but that doesn't mean nothing is going on.
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When women resort to violence they're seriously trying to fuck each other up.
 
scathefire said:
I think women are just less likely to get into physical fights, that doesn't mean they have a lesser degree of jealousy and/or possessiveness. When women bully each other in grade school for example it's almost never physical, but that doesn't mean nothing is going on.
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Remember that women are the weaker sex. Most polygamous societies were very patriarchal. Women had no right to fight back against the situation. Women put up with the situation and bared it, while the men were the ones taking many wives. That's not to say there weren't any happy polygamous marriages. There almost certainly were. But most times, the women had little, if any, say. Even more so if the woman was a spoil of war and taken back to a land as a war trophy.

Women back in the day learned quickly to "go along to get along" and "get with the program". Its a survival trait, helped along by women's basic biology, such as hypergamy. Men are violent, possessive, virile and competitive by nature, making such a mentality impossible for most of them. Only the most cuck of men fall into such positions.
 
Women get extremely jealous; it just depends on how we're raised to deal with it. I've seen Latina women tear out each other's earrings and go for the eyes and throat. Look at what that psycho Cardi B did by hiring men to go beat up those women that were flirting with her man. Fat white poly women are usually afraid of conflict and just run away to another partner because they're cowards with arrested development. This actually reminds me of a "date" I went on with a poly woman way back when. She had this main boyfriend and like two or three side guys. She knew I was only interested in dinner and hanging out, but still seemed to want to open up about all of her problems--from her parents not accepting her despite a relatively successful career, to how she couldn't find women to join her polywhatever. She went on about how the main boyfriend was super possessive at first, despite being "one of the good ones and very feminist", and would only let her sleep around with women. Eventually, she nagged him enough about it and he agreed he was being hypocritical, hence the two other guys she would see on occasion, which also wasn't enough for her because she had been going on casual dates with numerous guys every other week. She wasn't overly possessive, and it seemed like she ran away from him whenever they had trouble and preferred living 2 hours away; maybe that's how they tolerated having been together for 15 years or so. Even still, she did seem a bit snarky and irritated when she talked about his "girlfriends", and how she would abandon ship completely just for her him if it really came down to it. For most people, I think it really is constant internal fighting to not be jealous if you actually have a genuine loving attachment to them--to the point that many of these people distance themselves to a degree to try to avoid that.
 
scathefire said:
I think women are just less likely to get into physical fights, that doesn't mean they have a lesser degree of jealousy and/or possessiveness. When women bully each other in grade school for example it's almost never physical, but that doesn't mean nothing is going on.
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I've seen women go after other people's property when they're pissed. Mostly destroying a boyfriend's stuff.
 
Ashley said:
Poly bullshit is one of the grossest STD-infested hives I've ever had the displeasure of witnessing. Before she met me, my last ex was in some weird creepy throuple that lasted all of a week. The way she described it seemed very typical: creepy schizo guy that beat up his girlfriend wasn't satisfied sexually, so he convinced her to open up the relationship (which she was susceptible to as a genderspecial wacko). The dude got STDs from fucking random men and women of course. Then he waited until my ex had broken up with her long-term boyfriend and groomed her to move in with them. Guy gave her a disease, and the girlfriend lost her shit because she got jealous, and got super fucking catty doing her best to degrade her. They lived together for five months after the "polycule" or whatever ended, and it was constant abuse, cheating, manipulation, etc. I'm convinced every last one of these people are socially maladjusted and emotionally immature to the point that they seem incapable of centering anyone other than themselves. There's always an inability to deal with problems and work through them because commitment is too hard or some shit. She agreed it was bad all-around at first, but then I learned her besties on her socials were poly, and had actually asked her to join them in it. That was followed by maybe halfway into the relationship she reversed course on everything and told me she was poly while drunk, but took it back, defended her ex's woman-beating (who she talked to every day), and lied about her location every so often. I'm pretty sure when people can't do things in the "ethically non-monogamous" way, they drop what they consider to be ethical and flat-out lie, cheat and abuse to get their way.

And of course, there's a trans/genderfreak overlap in those social circles. I noticed so many batshit insane "nonbinary" women looking for multiple partners, usually other women, to join in with their creepy boyfriends. One of them started a new job and had a mental breakdown on the first day because it was too hard, so she got fired on the spot. And these days it seems like 2 in 5 of the women I see on apps are "ethically non-monogamous" or some other stupid shit.

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Sure Jan, sure.
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I went on a dating app the other day due to boredom. The amount of people on there open to "non-monogamy" seems to have shot up from when I was checking it out years ago. Also Women have started putting in "I'm not interested in your 3-some" in their profile so there must be more couples looking for a 3rd.


Maybe an upside is that the non-monogamy people admitting such would've just cheated on you years ago.
 
Man these takes on women's psychology and socialisation are bordering on incel shut in levels of understanding. Go work as a police officer, and then go stand in the town centre near a club on a Saturday night. I'll tell you now it ain't going to be two guys fighting over a woman you're intervening in most of the time. Screeching harpies clawing at eachother for flirting with the same guy are the most common shit you'll end up dealing with.

It just happens that anyone who is "poly" is that because they're too passive to stand up for what they want and instead prefer to convince themselves that set up is just fine. You've all seen the reddit responses to "we have x problem in our polymess" it's always "go read this book and convince yourself it is the correct take, even if it is contrary to everything you know and have empirically observed."
 
Coccxys said:
Man these takes on women's psychology and socialisation are bordering on incel shut in levels of understanding. Go work as a police officer, and then go stand in the town centre near a club on a Saturday night. I'll tell you now it ain't going to be two guys fighting over a woman you're intervening in most of the time. Screeching harpies clawing at eachother for flirting with the same guy are the most common shit you'll end up dealing with.
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Well clearly the modern American woman isn't going to act the same as an ancient Sumerian woman. She's got a completely different situation, and none of the social obligations of the latter. We live in a post-feminist world. Women and men now have more freedom to let their bad habits and lesser natures rule them.

Coccxys said:
It just happens that anyone who is "poly" is that because they're too passive to stand up for what they want and instead prefer to convince themselves that set up is just fine.
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Or they want to have their cake (be in a relationship), and eat it too (also be able to sleep around like they are still single).
 
Alcoholism said:
They generally don't have huge orgies. Usually it's just one woman at a time, the one you dislike the least at that point in time.
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Which is why I never got why women agree to being part of a harem if they have a choice. The more wives, the less dick there is to go around, and the more sexually neglected each wife becomes. What's the upside if you're part of a guy's harem? For a community of coomers, it sounds like hell.
 
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