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Alpha Loves You said:
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Poly couples being jealous, insane and non-functional. In other news, water is wet
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There's a lot she's not saying here, and that's telling.

What's up with poly people (and also kinky people, for which there seems to be a large overlap) always saying 'playing' instead of 'having sex with' or 'hooking up with' or whatever? I see this with bisexual women talking about women a lot, which makes me wonder how they view lesbian sex, but guys do it do (also usually talking about women, but that could be because there's not a lot of out bi poly guys on r/polyamory). I don't care for it.
 
Crunchy Leaf said:
What's up with poly people (and also kinky people, for which there seems to be a large overlap) always saying 'playing' instead of 'having sex with' or 'hooking up with' or whatever? I see this with bisexual women talking about women a lot, which makes me wonder how they view lesbian sex, but guys do it do (also usually talking about women, but that could be because there's not a lot of out bi poly guys on r/polyamory). I don't care for it.
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It's simple, they have a weak sense of commitment and very little respect for their love/sex partners. It shouldn't be surprising that they use 'play' instead of 'having sex' when they also treat their partners as toys. Most poly bi women seem to be really fucking confused about their sexuality. If their discussions about sex are anything to go by, majority of them are only able to enjoy lesbian sex if it pleases their male partner, this also seems to be the only reason to identify as bi for many of them.
 
Peeno Noir said:
It's simple, they have a weak sense of commitment and very little respect for their love/sex partners. It shouldn't be surprising that they use 'play' instead of 'having sex' when they also treat their partners as toys. Most poly bi women seem to be really fucking confused about their sexuality. If their discussions about sex are anything to go by, majority of them are only able to enjoy lesbian sex if it pleases their male partner, this also seems to be the only reason to identify as bi for many of them.
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There seem to be a lot of bi women in relationships with men love to churn out awful articles about how 'queer' they are, how they should be able to make out with their hubbies at gay bars without people getting mad, etc., etc., and poly bi women are worse, since it's less hypothetical. The way they and their husbands treat their 'unicorn' is rarely good (and usually the 'unicorn' is another poly bi woman, so it's a constant circle of exploitation).

And, as usual, there's a huge lack of poly bi guys even though statistically, women are only slightly more likely to be bi than men.
 
Crunchy Leaf said:
There seem to be a lot of bi women in relationships with men love to churn out awful articles about how 'queer' they are, how they should be able to make out with their hubbies at gay bars without people getting mad, etc., etc., and poly bi women are worse, since it's less hypothetical. The way they and their husbands treat their 'unicorn' is rarely good (and usually the 'unicorn' is another poly bi woman, so it's a constant circle of exploitation).

And, as usual, there's a huge lack of poly bi guys even though statistically, women are only slightly more likely to be bi than men.
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There is some truth to all stereotypes. Bi/poly activists are very quick to screech about biphobia/bi erasure/polyphobia/fsdfsdfphobia whenever someone points out all these things to them, but what they usually forget is that a quick scroll through any bi/poly forum will confirm every single one these points. Every 5th thread is about some failed triangle, how they don't understand why their gay boyfriends/girlfriends don't like it when they flirt with men/women or how they aren't satisfied with their relationships because they miss cock/meow (and many other crazy drama concoctions that can only be a result of a person sitting on two chairs). I do not believe that all bi people are sluts who can never be satisfied, but there is a large enough number to justify double consideration when it comes to dating bi folks. And as you said, bi polys are even worse. They are often outright homophobic and will even try to guilt trip lesbian "unicorns" into fucking their boyfriends, which is just disgusting (see the OP in the thread). Their exploitation of vulnerable bi women who fall for this shit is even more repugnant. The reason why kweer "community" is pushing the acceptance of this clusterfuck is still a huge mystery to me, considering how it evidently goes against everything the community (well, what preceded it) fought against.
 
Peeno Noir said:
There is some truth to all stereotypes. Bi/poly activists are very quick to screech about biphobia/bi erasure/polyphobia/fsdfsdfphobia whenever someone points out all these things to them, but what they usually forget is that a quick scroll through any bi/poly forum will confirm every single one these points. Every 5th thread is about some failed triangle, how they don't understand why their gay boyfriends/girlfriends don't like it when they flirt with men/women or how they aren't satisfied with their relationships because they miss cock/meow (and many other crazy drama concoctions that can only be a result of a person sitting on two chairs). I do not believe that all bi people are sluts who can never be satisfied, but there is a large enough number to justify double consideration when it comes to dating bi folks. And as you said, bi polys are even worse. They are often outright homophobic and will even try to guilt trip lesbian "unicorns" into fucking their boyfriends, which is just disgusting (see the OP in the thread). Their exploitation of vulnerable bi women who fall for this shit is even more repugnant. The reason why kweer "community" is pushing the acceptance of this clusterfuck is still a huge mystery to me, considering how it evidently goes against everything the community (well, what preceded it) fought against.
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Well, thirty or forty years ago, you were only out if you couldn't be in. Now bisexuals in straight relationships can be loud about it without much repercussions, and there's more of them than there are gay people.

They're not really accepted--if they were they would stop whining about it.
 
AzureGaru said:
why can't they just cheat like normal people
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Because they're too self obsessed to not try and rationalize their selfish behavior as either a scenario wherein they are a put upon victim of society's brutism moral behavior or they want to say they're just far too advanced intellectually to be held to the same standard as everyone else. These are people who need to rationalize everything as them being superior for having done it.

Most poly couples dont start that way, one just gets sick of the other, cheats, comes clean about it because they're "too ethically/mentally superior to be secretive in their indiscretions (in reality because they don't want to feel guilty so immediately blabbing it to their spouse releases them of that guilt and replaces it with smug self satisfaction). They then brow beat the person who was cheated on in to feeling guilty for keeping them tied down and they go in to a poly relationship where they fuck their gross coworkers and ignore their spouse as anything but an extra source of income. Eventually the other half (almost always the guy) will try to bang some chick and the initiator of the relationship will guilt them in to not doing it because they're normally hyper insecure realizing if the guy can get pussy elsewhere, he'll be able to realize he doesn't want to be a cuck.

The resentment boils, a messy, embarrassing divorce happens and my buddy who practices family law tells me another hilarious and predictable divorce story
 
TiggerNits said:
Because they're too self obsessed to not try and rationalize their selfish behavior as either a scenario wherein they are a put upon victim of society's brutism moral behavior or they want to say they're just far too advanced intellectually to be held to the same standard as everyone else. These are people who need to rationalize everything as them being superior for having done it.

Most poly couples dont start that way, one just gets sick of the other, cheats, comes clean about it because they're "too ethically/mentally superior to be secretive in their indiscretions (in reality because they don't want to feel guilty so immediately blabbing it to their spouse releases them of that guilt and replaces it with smug self satisfaction). They then brow beat the person who was cheated on in to feeling guilty for keeping them tied down and they go in to a poly relationship where they fuck their gross coworkers and ignore their spouse as anything but an extra source of income. Eventually the other half (almost always the guy) will try to bang some chick and the initiator of the relationship will guilt them in to not doing it because they're normally hyper insecure realizing if the guy can get pussy elsewhere, he'll be able to realize he doesn't want to be a cuck.

The resentment boils, a messy, embarrassing divorce happens and my buddy who practices family law tells me another hilarious and predictable divorce story
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Sometimes it's also 'man thinks threesomes are hot and browbeats his straight wife into bisexuality'.
My favorite is when the guy is the one who wants to be poly and then his wife goes out and gets guys and he can't get a single chick.
 
TiggerNits said:
Because they're too self obsessed to not try and rationalize their selfish behavior as either a scenario wherein they are a put upon victim of society's brutism moral behavior or they want to say they're just far too advanced intellectually to be held to the same standard as everyone else. These are people who need to rationalize everything as them being superior for having done it.

Most poly couples dont start that way, one just gets sick of the other, cheats, comes clean about it because they're "too ethically/mentally superior to be secretive in their indiscretions (in reality because they don't want to feel guilty so immediately blabbing it to their spouse releases them of that guilt and replaces it with smug self satisfaction). They then brow beat the person who was cheated on in to feeling guilty for keeping them tied down and they go in to a poly relationship where they fuck their gross coworkers and ignore their spouse as anything but an extra source of income. Eventually the other half (almost always the guy) will try to bang some chick and the initiator of the relationship will guilt them in to not doing it because they're normally hyper insecure realizing if the guy can get pussy elsewhere, he'll be able to realize he doesn't want to be a cuck.

The resentment boils, a messy, embarrassing divorce happens and my buddy who practices family law tells me another hilarious and predictable divorce story
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It happens to women too. The common denominator is one is more manipulative, dominant, extroverted, and egotistical, while their cucked partner is really submissive, nice, etc. What I find odd is how the mistress/"guy" friend are often uglier and terrible people.

The only poly relationship that I've seen last without blowing up spectacularly (so far) is this hipster threesome that are all friends. The women are bi and so is the guy, so it works out for them. They live together too, so I guess they differ in that they are actually dedicated to each other. So, they really don't fit in with r/polymory which is just an excuse to cheat and avoid commitments.

Crunchy Leaf said:
Sometimes it's also 'man thinks threesomes are hot and browbeats his straight wife into bisexuality'.
My favorite is when the guy is the one who wants to be poly and then his wife goes out and gets guys and he can't get a single chick.
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It's even funnier when she ends up dating more women. Or when the wife runs off with the mistress. The opposite has probably happened too.
 
Crunchy Leaf said:
Sometimes it's also 'man thinks threesomes are hot and browbeats his straight wife into bisexuality'.
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Threesomes are hot, but obviously you shouldn't force people into them if they don't want to. That whole "forcing your partner to do sexual things they're not comfortable with" is why idiots like Anthony Burch lose their partners. Can you imagine that someone actually liked that guy enough once upon a time that they'd marry him, and that he completely fucked himself over just to get off?
 
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https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/8um6bb/gf_of_six_years_wants_to_explore_enmpoly_first/

Yet another reminder that if your partner tells you they're going poly, leave them immediately. If your relationship doesn't go down the toilet, your self esteem will.
 
Straight guys who aren't super hot but also aren't willing to fuck any random kimberly from fetlife will always be getting laid less than their female partners--unless 'poly' is just a way for them to legitimize their already existing affair.
 
Alpha Loves You said:
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Yet another reminder that if your partner tells you they're going poly, leave them immediately. If your relationship doesn't go down the toilet, your self esteem will.
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At least he's aware enough to realize that the whole situation is indeed is wife just wanting to get more ass while he stews in his impotence at home.
 
I knew this particular autism existed but I haven't ever looked deeply into it. Had my first run in with one of these last year. I'm going to go through this subreddit today and see if I can find her account. Strangest interaction with a woman I've ever had.
 
Alpha Loves You said:
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Yet another reminder that if your partner tells you they're going poly, leave them immediately. If your relationship doesn't go down the toilet, your self esteem will.
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He prob would've had at least some matches if he said he was single and not poly. I know the poly community hates guys doing that but if he's only going to get laid with these women then why does it matter if he lies a bit to get what he wants?
 
Buer said:
He prob would've had at least some matches if he said he was single and not poly. I know the poly community hates guys doing that but if he's only going to get laid with these women then why does it matter if he lies a bit to get what he wants?
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They seem really anal about letting everyone they know that they're poly before getting involved. It gives them a get out of jail free card when things end up blowing up in everyone's faces. In my limited experience with a poly "couple" I noticed a lot of things y'all are talking about throughout the thread:

- Needless 5-10 minute explanation about what poly is (could have just told me you were a whore)
- A bunch of ground rules like; no sex in the apartment my boyfriend shares with me, we all have to be one big happy fuck family
- Woman told me she just knew she was poly for the longest time but only recently told her boyfriend of 10 years but it's okay. He's totally cool with it even though he's so loyal he won't fuck other women even though I encourage him to try it
- Going batshit insane with jealousy because a cat she couldn't tame allowed me to pet it and sat in my lap (she locked it in a cage when I stepped out of the room).

I could go on. I'll admit I only stuck around for as long as I did because I never slept with her in high school and I thought she was the one I missed out on. It only took a few times of hanging out to realize she wasn't what I thought she was. I still would have fucked her and even took her home but her boyfriend looked so sad when we left that I couldn't bring myself to cuck him. She also got werid once we got alone. I don't know what happened. I think she might have caught more feelings or some old ones got stirred up. She continued to pursue me afterwards so I don't know what her deal was. I ended up telling her I thought she was treating her boyfriend like shit and I didn't want to hang out with people that treated other people like that.
 
One of my friends went poly, broke their ~fundamental rules~ by fucking another dude in their bed and got mad when he fucked their roommate, and now we don't talk because I said I thought her polyshit was probably why her relationship was failing. That and she keeps cheating on all her boyfriends/girlfriends, being poly didn't fix that. I noticed that she and her polyfriends thought my lifestyle was boring, and in the same breath berated me for reaching traditional milestones while asking how they could achieve them. I wonder if people go poly because it's easier than fixing the more concrete issues in the lifestyles?
 
Being poly must be exhausting. There's so many rules to follow and a lot of lines that can be crossed. It just sounds like a potential shitshow in the works.
 
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