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[neverendingmidi]

Anyone who gets into a relationship with a married individual and then pulls a shockedpikachuface when that individual 1) doesn't leave their spouse or 2) leaves their spouse and then turns around and gets a new sidepiece because you're the spouse now is an idiot who deserves what they get.

My mother worked at a place where a guy was fucking around on his wife, and as you said, the second he married the girl he cheated on his first wife with he found another side piece. This bit of gossip was talked about by everybody at the business and one of them asked my mom's opinion.

My mother said " A man who will cheat on his wife, is a man who will cheat on his wife."

And really, that is the sum and whole of polymory. Why they constantly grab at a new person. Because cheaters cheat, especially when cheating is considered the norm.

 

[CivilianOfTheFandomWars]

The funny thing about polyamory is that it’s really just people wanting to have their cake and eat it. If you want an exclusive, loving relationship that’s fine. If you want to spend some time in college sleeping around with likeminded people, that’s fine. It’s when you try to do both that things get weird.
Maybe there’s a unicorn couple out there who can actually make this poly stuff work, but I’d wager that’s very rare.

 

[Nectarine]

Came across a pretty dark/interesting saga that's unfolded over the past few weeks. It's spread out over 3 posts, and the gist of the story is that OP decides to have a 2nd trimester abortion after realizing she wants to "dive into the unknown" and leave her polyamorous marriage so that she can pursue a new life. There are a decent amount of comments criticizing her communication skills, but for the most part, it's a lot of ass-patting.

Part 1: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/..._weeks_pregnant_with_our_poly_familys_second/


Part 2: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/hmy886/15_weeks_pregnant_im_getting_an_abortion_next/


Part 3: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/hwu43e/i_finally_aborted_my_15_week_pregnancy_and_im/


Keep in mind that she's 15 weeks pregnant in the 1st post, so she was probably at 16 or 17 weeks by the time she had the abortion. For context, at around 15 weeks, you've passed the point where the fetus can be aborted via medication, and it must be surgically "evacuated" from the uterus. Also, keep in mind that she told her husband's daughter she would be getting a baby brother, and she also makes it clear that people in her life knew she was pregnant. Seems like a real class act. I can't imagine why her own family members want nothing to do with her.

 

[MediocreMilt]

Came across a pretty dark/interesting saga that's unfolded over the past few weeks. It's spread out over 3 posts, and the gist of the story is that OP decides to have a 2nd trimester abortion after realizing she wants to "dive into the unknown" and leave her polyamorous marriage so that she can pursue a new life. There are a decent amount of comments criticizing her communication skills, but for the most part, it's a lot of ass-patting.

Part 1: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/..._weeks_pregnant_with_our_poly_familys_second/
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Part 2: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/hmy886/15_weeks_pregnant_im_getting_an_abortion_next/
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Part 3: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/hwu43e/i_finally_aborted_my_15_week_pregnancy_and_im/
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Keep in mind that she's 15 weeks pregnant in the 1st post, so she was probably at 16 or 17 weeks by the time she had the abortion. For context, at around 15 weeks, you've passed the point where the fetus can be aborted via medication, and it must be surgically "evacuated" from the uterus. Also, keep in mind that she told her husband's daughter she would be getting a baby brother, and she also makes it clear that people in her life knew she was pregnant. Seems like a real class act. I can't imagine why her own family members want nothing to do with her.

The abortion part is absolutely fucked, the ditching polyamory is absolutely correct.

 

[Tour of Italy]

Came across a pretty dark/interesting saga that's unfolded over the past few weeks. It's spread out over 3 posts, and the gist of the story is that OP decides to have a 2nd trimester abortion after realizing she wants to "dive into the unknown" and leave her polyamorous marriage so that she can pursue a new life. There are a decent amount of comments criticizing her communication skills, but for the most part, it's a lot of ass-patting.

Part 1: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/..._weeks_pregnant_with_our_poly_familys_second/
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Part 2: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/hmy886/15_weeks_pregnant_im_getting_an_abortion_next/
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Part 3: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/hwu43e/i_finally_aborted_my_15_week_pregnancy_and_im/
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Keep in mind that she's 15 weeks pregnant in the 1st post, so she was probably at 16 or 17 weeks by the time she had the abortion. For context, at around 15 weeks, you've passed the point where the fetus can be aborted via medication, and it must be surgically "evacuated" from the uterus. Also, keep in mind that she told her husband's daughter she would be getting a baby brother, and she also makes it clear that people in her life knew she was pregnant. Seems like a real class act. I can't imagine why her own family members want nothing to do with her.

I have zero patience for this shit when kids are involved. Anyone married with kids understands that they barely have time for each other as it is, much less time to fuck around courting new partners.

Anyone with kids who thinks they can dip their toes into the poly cesspit without their existing relationships suffering is deluding themselves. You can fool yourself into thinking you have infinite love to give, but you sure as shit don’t have infinite time. It’s no wonder that a lot of these types are shocked to finally learn that even amongst degenerates, love is measured and grown with time.

And that’s before you take into account fucked up shit like this.

 

[Safir]

Seems like a real class act. I can't imagine why her own family members want nothing to do with her.

Lol what? She had been sweet-talked into degeneracy by her cheating partner of (then) 1 1 years, probably her only partner ever, and FINALLY had the sense to leave. She's been suffering the consequences of a retroactively bad decision she made at 16 (to start dating the penis) for half her life. She wasn't "in a polyamorous" marriage, notice how she wasn't having orgies with the husband AND his mistress, and neither did she get laid elsewhere. But it'd be the right decision to leave even if she had. No one should be having children with fucked-up people who by law will have access to these children. Getting knocked up by a death row serial killer is a better plan to have a child than this, because the law is on your side.

The mistress's daughter is two. She'll forget soon enough if not already. Everyone else who attended the gender reveal party? They're degenerates, she'll be crossing them out of her life, and maybe have her actual, non-degenerate, family back in her life.

 

[Maggots on a Train v2]

I wish she had recorded a hidden camera video of her degenerate un-husband finally realizing all his consequences had come due at once. I want the see the exact moment.

Consequences on this level can only be measured in units of lowtax.

 

[RSVP]

Part 2: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/hmy886/15_weeks_pregnant_im_getting_an_abortion_next/

I know the guy deserves blame for pressuring her into a poly arrangement in the first place, but...

She killed his baby without warning him. Because she didn't want to hear his opinion. He got to find out about it out of the blue. Surprise! Your son is dead!

 

[queerape]

I have zero patience for this shit when kids are involved. Anyone married with kids understands that they barely have time for each other as it is, much less time to fuck around courting new partners.

Anyone with kids who thinks they can dip their toes into the poly cesspit without their existing relationships suffering is deluding themselves. You can fool yourself into thinking you have infinite love to give, but you sure as shit don’t have infinite time. It’s no wonder that a lot of these types are shocked to finally learn that even amongst degenerates, love is measured and grown with time.

And that’s before you take into account fucked up shit like this.

Even if love is not limited, time and energy are. Notice how few of these people ar gainfully employed or in the pursuit of something oherwise worthwhile.

 

[behavioral swamp thang]

I know the guy deserves blame for pressuring her into a poly arrangement in the first place, but...

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She killed his baby without warning him. Because she didn't want to hear his opinion. He got to find out about it out of the blue. Surprise! Your son is dead!

The kid is better off. Growing up in a poly household you're lucky if you come out alive, and you're guaranteed to be fucked in the head. Just look at the poly quintuple where one dude beat up his nonbio son. It was hot in the news a couple months back.

 

[Maggots on a Train v2]

Even if love is not limited, time and energy are. Notice how few of these people ar gainfully employed or in the pursuit of something oherwise worthwhile.

I wouldn't be surprised if the "polyamory" started because the husband couldn't afford to run off with his new girlfriend and still have free time to fuck her. Or that he's probably shitting his pants harder at the loss of one whole income and a live-in servant more than a second baby.

 

[Nectarine]

those poor, poor children.

 

[Brain Problems]

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those poor, poor children.

"Mommy likes getting nailed by other men so much that her and Daddy moved in with them! It's perfectly normal! What's that? Kids at school make fun of you? Here, lend them my copy of The Ethical Slut: Kid's Edition, they'll understand. No run along now, Mommy and Daddy need to coom and you're way lower in that hierarchy."

Fucking nightmarish. Emotional vampires, people addicted to other people and bringing kids into the fucked up little Tasmanian Devil shitstorm.

 

[behavioral swamp thang]

"Mommy likes getting nailed by other men so much that her and Daddy moved in with them! It's perfectly normal! What's that? Kids at school make fun of you? Here, lend them my copy of The Ethical Slut: Kid's Edition, they'll understand. No run along now, Mommy and Daddy need to coom and you're way lower in that hierarchy."

Fucking nightmarish. Emotional vampires, people addicted to other people and bringing kids into the fucked up little Tasmanian Devil shitstorm.

I would never tell my friends about my dad's "metamor." Shit is so mortifying I can't even fathom it. It's bad enough having your parent cheat the normal way!

A lot of parents seem to think their life doesn't go by the wayside when they have a kid. Guess what?? It does. Save the side pieces and swinging for when the kid has graduated and is out of the house. If you can't go 18 years without multiple partners, don't have a kid, or prepare to get yeeted by the level headed partner.

 

[TaimuRadiu]

I would never tell my friends about my dad's "metamor." Shit is so mortifying I can't even fathom it. It's bad enough having your parent cheat the normal way!

A lot of parents seem to think their life doesn't go by the wayside when they have a kid. Guess what?? It does. Save the side pieces and swinging for when the kid has graduated and is out of the house. If you can't go 18 years without multiple partners, don't have a kid, or prepare to get yeeted by the level headed partner.

"hi my dad moved his side piece into our house and now he bangs her everywhere and shames me for being creeped out by it"

 

[AprilRains]

"hi my dad moved his side piece into our house and now he bangs her everywhere and shames me for being creeped out by it"

should be a valid defense to the charge of patricide

 

[MistressCaridad]

Immature cunt gets involved with a guy who has a long term girlfriend, befriends the girlfriend, starts throwing fits when she isn’t allowed to dictate the terms of the guy’s relationship with the other woman. Lastly comes whining to the dangerhairs that the long term girlfriend is clearly a controlling narcissist and SHE is most definitely not, despite her trying to put boundaries and restrictions on the other woman’s relationship with the boyfriend.

https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/...ing_most_of_the_tea_am_i_wrong_for_asking_my/

Archived https://archive.md/TOItQ

The post is long as fuck and is basically one long whine about how the girlfriend is the fucking worst. The autism continues in the comments as the OP makes catty remarks about how she just wants to “help” the boyfriend.

Spoiler: Highlighted autism

This bitch is married. Husband barely gets a mention and she’s acting like a jealous teenage girl over the boyfriend, making all sorts of thinly veiled “if you really love me” demands. What business is it of hers? She isn’t dating the girlfriend. She isn’t the guy’s wife.

Maybe the other girlfriend is a raging bitch (sometimes I wonder because all we have to go by is an unreliable source in the form of this OP) but still, the boyfriend is a grown man and his relationship with the girlfriend is none of this bitch’s damn business.

This seems like a pattern on the polyamory sub, there’s always at least one thread where the OP is whining that she got into a relationship with a guy (it’s usually always a woman and a man with a longterm female partner) and the long term partner is “controlling, a bitch, jealous, inferior”, whatever. Then when the bitch OP gets BTFOed that “you cant control or blame your metas, you’re not dating them, you need to deal with this with your partner” she either 1) never comes back to at least acknowledge that she’s at the very least being just as selfish and controlling a cunt as she believes the other woman to be or 2) chimps out in the comments.

 

[AprilRains]

I observed this all the time when I knew people who were part of the polyamory scene. A woman would find a high-status man in a primary relationship with another woman, become his side piece, and then decide his primary was evil and bitchy and had to go. It's a sneaky form of hypergamy. In theory the sexes of the participants could differ from this model, but I never saw it happen.

I knew of one woman in particular who repeated that pattern for multiple years. Her one asset was an outsized pair of breasts. Everything else, from her pea brain to her squeaky voice to her petty vindictiveness, was the opposite of sexy to just about everyone. But she made herself very available, and I'm sure at first they thought she was a low commitment fling. Then she'd make her move and get kicked to the curb. She's probably still doing it.

 

[NoReturn]

But she made herself very available, and I'm sure at first they thought she was a low commitment fling. Then she'd make her move and get kicked to the curb. She's probably still doing it.

"It's a sign of insanity to keep doing the same thing over and over and expect different results."

 

[DumbDude42]

I observed this all the time when I knew people who were part of the polyamory scene. A woman would find a high-status man in a primary relationship with another woman, become his side piece, and then decide his primary was evil and bitchy and had to go. It's a sneaky form of hypergamy. In theory the sexes of the participants could differ from this model, but I never saw it happen.

I knew of one woman in particular who repeated that pattern for multiple years. Her one asset was an outsized pair of breasts. Everything else, from her pea brain to her squeaky voice to her petty vindictiveness, was the opposite of sexy to just about everyone. But she made herself very available, and I'm sure at first they thought she was a low commitment fling. Then she'd make her move and get kicked to the curb. She's probably still doing it.

women like this are what other women used to call "homewrecker", this archetype of person used to be one of the most hated and reviled among married women.
what it boils down to is just the classic old story of a woman trying to steal a man away from another woman. a tale as old as time, really, the only thing that's new about this current iteration is that they're using this autistically crafted ideology of "polyamory" to redefine their actions as enlightened and progressive, and to put a mask of benevolence and openness over behavior that is actually just nasty deception and vile manipulation attempts.

"It's a sign of insanity to keep doing the same thing over and over and expect different results."

to be fair, if she's as pea-brained as @AprilRains says, then she probably doesn't even recognize that the outcome she gets is the result of the thing she did earlier.
so she's not really insane, just dumb.