This shit is disgusting. A 7 year old child should have no knowledge about his parents' sex lives whatsoever.
The fact that that kid has to grow up at a faster rate to deal with his parents' sex-obsessed bullshit is repugnant.
Even more worrying is how the kid is allegedly doing mentally better than his parents. God help him. He needs to get away from this gaggle of immature freaks and find real adults to parent him.
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Even more worrying is how the kid is allegedly doing mentally better than his parents. God help him. He needs to get away from this gaggle of immature freaks and find real adults to parent him.
I don't get how it's deviant but you do you. I don't see people calling dudes into chicks, or vice versa as deviant so what's the difference? Also I'm not a pussy so why should I be overly concerned about people knowing something so insignificant to my identity anyway.
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This shit is disgusting. A 7 year old child should have no knowledge about his parents' sex lives whatsoever.
The fact that that kid has to grow up at a faster rate to deal with his parents' sex-obsessed bullshit is repugnant. View attachment 1616035
Even more worrying is how the kid is allegedly doing mentally better than his parents. God help him. He needs to get away from this gaggle of immature freaks and find real adults to parent him.
When a 7 year old has their shit together better than grown adults... Yeah. Unfortunately I feel like potential mental child abuse (is that too strong of a word? I feel like it's not) like this is harder to crack down on, or prove. At least, not until the kid inevitably gets touched in a bad way.
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This shit is disgusting. A 7 year old child should have no knowledge about his parents' sex lives whatsoever.
The fact that that kid has to grow up at a faster rate to deal with his parents' sex-obsessed bullshit is repugnant. View attachment 1616035
Even more worrying is how the kid is allegedly doing mentally better than his parents. God help him. He needs to get away from this gaggle of immature freaks and find real adults to parent him.
Like...when two things that are rare in the general population (polyamory and severe mental illness) but occur together with high frequency, would it not be reasonable to assume that perhaps - just perhaps - they're fucking related? Like, AIDS and homosexuality are relatively rare, but originally had a very high correlation, leading us to note that maybe there was something there (ie, blood exposure) that connected them.
I don't get how it's deviant but you do you. I don't see people calling dudes into chicks, or vice versa as deviant so what's the difference? Also I'm not a pussy so why should I be overly concerned about people knowing something so insignificant to my identity anyway.
I used the word deviant because it is somewhat of a mild word (at least to me). If you advertise the ways in which you stray from the norm, it really isn't strange at all that people will think you might have strayed further from the norm than you in actuality have. Like don't be so fucking sensitive. I mean that's kinda what you're saying now, so perhaps I misinterpreted your earlier post.
Because poly people have the emotional maturity of children when it comes to relationships and they notice it so they respond like children: Overcompensation and being proud of things that are basic requirements, like paying taxes or communicating when in a relationship.
Whenever there's an article in a dutch newspaper or magazine about polyamory, it always stresses that these are normal people, that pay their taxes. It's one of those little quirks, like why do they feel the need to stress that? If polyamory was even a little more common that phrase would stick in people's mind like dindu.
All the men are straight and all the women are "bi". If there is a mtf troon they are highly likely to be lesbian. Ftm are probably pansexual.
Personal stories time (read the final spoiler if you want the cow):
I know a couple who became poly about eight years ago and got married three years ago. She also had a live-in boyfriend of 5 years who wasn't interested in dating anyone else while his (diagnosed autistic) girlfriend of 4 years didn't live with them because she lived with her own spouse. It was incredibly stable and my only exposure to polyamory for the longest time.
I'm friends with them 90% because I really like them as people, but also 10% because their lives fascinate me and I keep trying to work out if they have cracks in the marriage and/or cow potential. Aside from the poly thing they really don't seem to be cow-ish.
They work stable high-paying jobs as a statistician and an engineer. They're incredibly nerdy about things that actually require intellectual effort. And when I asked why they opened up their relationship they didn't have an answer, they were both like "idk it just made sense" and shrugged it off. They didn't have a good answer. Like I think they legitimately just think if one person is good, more must be better. Weirdly over-logical.
They seem to have a fairly stable relationship and they told me the secret to making it work is that they're really boring. She also says that polyamory is 15% dating, 15% sex, and 70% indulging her calendar fetish. So if you're wondering how they make the time to see all these different people, that's how. Also no kids.
She also said she tried really hard for a while to be the bisexual girl stereotype but finally gave up and admitted to herself she was "just" a straight cis white woman and that was okay, which is pretty unusual for poly people. She definitely leans left, but is hardly the sjw type.
My other experience with poly is my highschool friend who moved interstate for work, then started off having all kinds of casual sex to blow off some steam, then became the casual sex unicorn for a married couple (the wife was definitely into chicks) then fell in love with them both. Clearly the feeling was mutual because they asked her to move in. Last I heard they had given her an engagement ring and she had the husband's baby. I like her so I really hope it works out for her. She's in a closed triad where they all bang each other, and I would say that that's the most likely type of poly relationship to succeed, anyway.
And then there was this one chick I met who was super angry and judgemental about everything, made a lot of assumptions about quiet people being weak, and had studied like 5 different degrees including sexology but didn't work in any of them, wouldn't shut up about all of it, or the fact that she was poly and into bdsm. None of that shit mattered where we were but all of this was her opening line. She really glommed onto me for some reason, wanted me to be her new best gal pal.
I strongly suspect she had been sexually abused and was projecting that injustice on the world around her. Constantly getting ready to defend against the next threat. Normally I try to be a friend to people in that situation, but i just couldn't stand her. She had no semblance of self-awareness or willingness to find a way to accept what had happened and move on with her life. Both of which are essential to dealing with trauma. She also seemed like the kind of person who would have said men can't get raped, too, and I know two guys who were raped by women, so I didn't want much to do with her.
Also she was pagan and kind of fat. Not landwhale, not skinnyfat, just... kinda chunky. Definitely a m.ilky lolcow if I had cared to look into her more but I just wanted to avoid her as much as possible. She was not a danger hair,
didn't wear problem glasses, just looked like she was still in the awkward teenage phase even though she was in her late 20s.
People don't even have to be really into the poly idea. The 1PP is a pretty common arrangement. There's a reason bi women that are attractive and interested in having sex with a couple are called unicorns. Plenty of demand. Not much supply. Though, typically they get treated as you just said, sex pets or even sex pests, further depleting supply.
It makes more sense to make one gay and one straight profile anyways, if you're really serious about bisexuality (though when okcupid did research on it, bisexual people almost exclusively respond to one sex' messages, lol).
I know a couple who became poly about eight years ago and got married three years ago. She also had a live-in boyfriend of 5 years who wasn't interested in dating anyone else while his (diagnosed autistic) girlfriend of 4 years didn't live with them because she lived with her own spouse. It was incredibly stable and my only exposure to polyamory for the longest time.
I would wager a majority of these instances are happening on dating sites where your sexual preferences are kind of a necessary and relevant topic.
All the men are straight and all the women are "bi". If there is a mtf troon they are highly likely to be lesbian. Ftm are probably pansexual.
Personal stories time (read the final spoiler if you want the cow):
I know a couple who became poly about eight years ago and got married three years ago. She also had a live-in boyfriend of 5 years who wasn't interested in dating anyone else while his (diagnosed autistic) girlfriend of 4 years didn't live with them because she lived with her own spouse. It was incredibly stable and my only exposure to polyamory for the longest time.
I'm friends with them 90% because I really like them as people, but also 10% because their lives fascinate me and I keep trying to work out if they have cracks in the marriage and/or cow potential. Aside from the poly thing they really don't seem to be cow-ish.
They work stable high-paying jobs as a statistician and an engineer. They're incredibly nerdy about things that actually require intellectual effort. And when I asked why they opened up their relationship they didn't have an answer, they were both like "idk it just made sense" and shrugged it off. They didn't have a good answer. Like I think they legitimately just think if one person is good, more must be better. Weirdly over-logical.
They seem to have a fairly stable relationship and they told me the secret to making it work is that they're really boring. She also says that polyamory is 15% dating, 15% sex, and 70% indulging her calendar fetish. So if you're wondering how they make the time to see all these different people, that's how. Also no kids.
She also said she tried really hard for a while to be the bisexual girl stereotype but finally gave up and admitted to herself she was "just" a straight cis white woman and that was okay, which is pretty unusual for poly people. She definitely leans left, but is hardly the sjw type.
My other experience with poly is my highschool friend who moved interstate for work, then started off having all kinds of casual sex to blow off some steam, then became the casual sex unicorn for a married couple (the wife was definitely into chicks) then fell in love with them both. Clearly the feeling was mutual because they asked her to move in. Last I heard they had given her an engagement ring and she had the husband's baby. I like her so I really hope it works out for her. She's in a closed triad where they all bang each other, and I would say that that's the most likely type of poly relationship to succeed, anyway.
And then there was this one chick I met who was super angry and judgemental about everything, made a lot of assumptions about quiet people being weak, and had studied like 5 different degrees including sexology but didn't work in any of them, wouldn't shut up about all of it, or the fact that she was poly and into bdsm. None of that shit mattered where we were but all of this was her opening line. She really glommed onto me for some reason, wanted me to be her new best gal pal.
I strongly suspect she had been sexually abused and was projecting that injustice on the world around her. Constantly getting ready to defend against the next threat. Normally I try to be a friend to people in that situation, but i just couldn't stand her. She had no semblance of self-awareness or willingness to find a way to accept what had happened and move on with her life. Both of which are essential to dealing with trauma. She also seemed like the kind of person who would have said men can't get raped, too, and I know two guys who were raped by women, so I didn't want much to do with her.
Also she was pagan and kind of fat. Not landwhale, not skinnyfat, just... kinda chunky. Definitely a m.ilky lolcow if I had cared to look into her more but I just wanted to avoid her as much as possible. She was not a danger hair,
didn't wear problem glasses, just looked like she was still in the awkward teenage phase even though she was in her late 20s.
I briefly tried a dating site way back because I was bored and since it was one with questionnaires on different topics I could try finding people with similar personalities. I mostly just got messages from dudes. No girls except for a troon or two if that counts. 99% of the "lesbians/bi girls" were trans, natch.
I mentioned it in another post, but I also feel like a closed triad has the highest chance of working. Having a relationship with one person can be mentally and time consuming. The more branches you add, and the more complex relationships there are, the more there can be cracks. It's simple logic. I have no ill-will to the poly relationships that magically work out, but they are few and far between. People with mental health problems or other issues highly up the chance of failure.
Suicidal boyfriend blah blah, girlfriend needs “a break” so sets up “a dick appointment”.
Yeah, the bf might sound like a whiny shit, but goddamn! If you don’t like having an angsty, depressed boyfriend then maybe quit chasing dick for a while?
Polyamorists somehow manage to sound pompously morally superior, while at the same time being enslaved to their sex drive and acting like fucking animals.
Sex a few times a week isn’t enough?! Get a fucking vibrator.
That's just like those blacks who have to make a point to let you know "they take care of they kids." as if it's some amazing accomplishment rather than what you're supposed to do.
