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[KifflomKween]

These people are so pathetic. How desperate do you have to be to subject yourself to this kind of an arrangement and keep up the good, supporting partner act like this chick?

 

[Brain Problems]

I will never stop reading the phrase "sexy time" without thinking of the 30 something cat lady/soyboy redditor who wrote it thinking they were being cute and chill about using a euphemism for fucking that an actual adult would be too embarrassed to use around kids even.

The autistic responses to this are even better: "Use headphones!" "Go to a hotel!" "Make a schedule!". All I can see is that hair-raising image of the sticker chart.

 

[Dante Alighieri]

I just discovered an old ex of mine is now in an open marriage. She ticks every basic tumblr bitch box. Danger hair, pronouns, every stupid hashtag and buzzword.

Oh, and she has a kid. Poor kid.

 

[Dafuqisdis?]

Apologies if this was posted already but this video https://youtu.be/IAE8uQUU4Pw is pretty interesting, and also infuriating jn a lot of ways. Shout-out to the redhead chick and the Asian girl for standing their ground among the psychosis around them. My favorite part is when the poly woman is talking about how much better it is so be poly because open love is challenging and rewarding and monogamy is easy and simple. To which the redhead replies "monogamy isn't easy" and stands up for herself against the poly woman's retarded argument.

Also, a couple of comments I agree with. Really makes you think about how much this "free love" is really selfishness in disguise.

Psychopathy, it's psychopathy. Psychosis is a delusion, an inability to tell fantasy from reality. Psychopathy is manipulative behavior.

I'm going to keep correcting this until people start getting it right.

 

[AnOminous]

Psychopathy, it's psychopathy. Psychosis is a delusion, an inability to tell fantasy from reality. Psychopathy is manipulative behavior.

I'm going to keep correcting this until people start getting it right.

It can be both you know. Thinking "I can just fuck every single person I meet and there will be no consequences" is pretty delusional.

 

[Rorschach Test]

Nobody (I mean, nobody) likes to acknowledge it, but some of the most extreme second-wave feminists like Andrea Dworkin were calling out the dynamic you see in r/polyamory in its previous iteration. “Free love” was used by older men in the 60s and 70s as a way to pressure women into uncomfortable relationships, lest they seem insufficiently radical. The only thing that was really “free” was the men seeking to be “free” of consequence, disappearing when they knocked someone up or passed on the clap. In my opinion, you still see the worst of this manipulative stuff with the men trying to pressure women into being woke and miserable.

Honestly, the least-suspect version of this poly stuff is when it’s being done by LGBT people among themselves. They’ve usually done some homework.

 

[Viv221]

Psychopathy, it's psychopathy. Psychosis is a delusion, an inability to tell fantasy from reality. Psychopathy is manipulative behavior.

I'm going to keep correcting this until people start getting it right.

I mean I'm pretty sure these people are living in their own world where their way of life is superior, and that reads as extreme delusion to me, but I get what you're saying

 

[Crunchy Leaf]

Nobody (I mean, nobody) likes to acknowledge it, but some of the most extreme second-wave feminists like Andrea Dworkin were calling out the dynamic you see in r/polyamory in its previous iteration. “Free love” was used by older men in the 60s and 70s as a way to pressure women into uncomfortable relationships, lest they seem insufficiently radical. The only thing that was really “free” was the men seeking to be “free” of consequence, disappearing when they knocked someone up or passed on the clap. In my opinion, you still see the worst of this manipulative stuff with the men trying to pressure women into being woke and miserable.

Honestly, the least-suspect version of this poly stuff is when it’s being done by LGBT people among themselves. They’ve usually done some homework.

LGBT poly is
1) gay dudes sleeping around, which they almost all seem to be cool with
2) gay soyboys who probably go to furry cons ‘dating’ other gay soyboys because everyone is too much of a loser for one quality boyfriend
3) lesbians sleeping around, which is an extremely small group because most lesbians don’t like casual sex like that
4) lesbians having SO much drama that a friend group completely implodes and several people leave their women’s college/non profit job

Poly is still bad without heterosexual relationship norms.

Troons of course are a separate matter, because everything they do is disastrous.

 

[fuzzyrodent85]

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[Purin Chan]

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That second screenshot is what happens when you're too obsessed with labels, if anyone asks then just say you're bisexual and move on. You can try explaining to them in what ways you're bisexual if they ask further but other than that a label in this case should just function as generalization of what you're attracted too.
I guarantee you that the term 'bisexual' is a much better descriptor than 'gay solo poly' because the last two words are just straight up an oxymoron.

 

[Amber the Hedgehog]

That second screenshot is what happens when you're too obsessed with labels, if anyone asks then just say you're bisexual and move on. You can try explaining to them in what ways you're bisexual if they ask further but other than that a label in this case should just function as generalization of what you're attracted too.
I guarantee you that the term 'bisexual' is a much better descriptor than 'gay solo poly' because the last two words are just straight up an oxymoron.

I'm fairly certain that she isn't bi, just boring old straight. Only thing unusual about her is that she is so scared of men that a romantic relationships are off the table but sex is still a ok. Most women that are terrified of men tend to be also turned off by their fear because sex is so emotionally intimate and potentially dangerous situation. She only wants women when she doesn't want sex and when she wants sex only guys will do points towards her seeing women as safe alternative to the thing she really wants. Her logic most likely being that great relationships are built on friendship and I make friends with women way more easily so... Yeah my bet is on a straight woman with issues around men that can be cured by finding a good man.

 

[AnOminous]

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What a bunch of lies. I've never seen a gathering of these freaks, or any webcomics or other media from them, that wasn't pure kink and degeneracy.

 

[scathefire]

"This is why I look at you like you're crazy when you talk at me like polyamory is a sexual orientation."
Uh, excuse me? Doesn't the polyamory community essentially treat it like one? What with "coming out" as poly and such?

 

[kalt]

Man, so much of those r/poly post could be answered like that old joke about a guy going to his doctor and saying it hurts when he moves his arm.

"Well, stop doing it if it hurts!"

 

[Geese Howard]

This is an old one from r/relationships that I didn't see posted yet. The OP says "open relationship" instead of "polyamory," but the results are essentially the same.

A lot of the thread has been wiped out, but it was archived numerous times and most of the comments are still viewable on Removeddit. Since this isn't r/polyamory, the comments are overwhelmingly against her.

Removeddit

www.removeddit.com

https://archive.is/6IQ9N

All of the OP's replies also remain. They provide a pretty good idea of how the thread went for her.

Spoiler: A full page of regret

 

[KingofNothing]

This is an old one from r/relationships that I didn't see posted yet. The OP says "open relationship" instead of "polyamory," but the results are essentially the same.

Telling your straight-laced monogamous boyfriend who looks down on women that sleep around, that you want to sleep around was a good plan tbh.

 

[Dafuqisdis?]

This is an old one from r/relationships that I didn't see posted yet. The OP says "open relationship" instead of "polyamory," but the results are essentially the same.

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A lot of the thread has been wiped out, but it was archived numerous times and most of the comments are still viewable on Removeddit. Since this isn't r/polyamory, the comments are overwhelmingly against her.

Removeddit

www.removeddit.com

https://archive.md/6IQ9N

All of the OP's replies also remain. They provide a pretty good idea of how the thread went for her.

Spoiler: A full page of regret

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HOES BEWILDERED

 

[LargeChoonger]

Being up front about troon genitals used to be considered reasonable, and now it's fascist. Do you think we'll reach a point where you're a fucking polyphobic shitlord for expecting your partner not to cheat?

Message from the future: we're getting there and the train is only accelerating

 

[Viv221]

One of the saddest and most pathetic articles I've ever read. Bisexual chick coaxes her uncomfortable boyfriend into polyamory, and he leaves original gf for the new one during pandemic, and the original bi poly chick loses all of her other partners.

But tell me again how monogamy is unnatural. This really is just cucking with extra steps.

I Lost Both My Polyamorous Relationships To Other People During The Pandemic

"Despite the jealousy, difficulties and triggers, I whole-heartedly welcomed my primary’s new girlfriend into my life."

www.huffpost.com

 

[kalt]

LOL at that girl who got dumped for suggesting that, finaly someone who won't mope around the web over how much their SO banging other people hurts and are begging for a hit of copium.

Hope her ex was singing this on his way out.