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Geese Howard said:
This is an old one from r/relationships that I didn't see posted yet. The OP says "open relationship" instead of "polyamory," but the results are essentially the same.

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A lot of the thread has been wiped out, but it was archived numerous times and most of the comments are still viewable on Removeddit. Since this isn't r/polyamory, the comments are overwhelmingly against her.

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All of the OP's replies also remain. They provide a pretty good idea of how the thread went for her.

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Well play stupid game, win stupid prize
Good for the boyfriend to stand up for himself
 
mario if smoke weed said:
I admit that statement was pretty dumb and I apologize for that. I never really stopped to think about how harmful polygamy can be; I used to hang out with some far-lefters online (biggest mistake of my life) who had more PC concepts of shit like relationships and still need to unlearn some of those ideas. You made some really good points, especially with how you explained the self-loathing and fake sense of enlightenment that comes with polyamory. Thanks for knocking some sense into me.
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Get into the community, play some sexy shoots and ladders, get the 3-way off your bucket list, and then get out.
 
Andy Bandy Man said:
Get into the community, play some sexy shoots and ladders, get the 3-way off your bucket list, and then get out.
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What are the odds that poly folks go on about it to inflate their sex lives? The people I know that have fucked half the town rarely ever talk about all the sex they're having unless it comes up as a topic. Their facebook walls look normal while poly folks is pretty much all links to sex articles about the benefits of having a dozen boyfriends.

Geese Howard said:
This is an old one from r/relationships that I didn't see posted yet. The OP says "open relationship" instead of "polyamory," but the results are essentially the same.

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A lot of the thread has been wiped out, but it was archived numerous times and most of the comments are still viewable on Removeddit. Since this isn't r/polyamory, the comments are overwhelmingly against her.

Removeddit

www.removeddit.com www.removeddit.com

All of the OP's replies also remain. They provide a pretty good idea of how the thread went for her.

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Viv221 said:
One of the saddest and most pathetic articles I've ever read. Bisexual chick coaxes her uncomfortable boyfriend into polyamory, and he leaves original gf for the new one during pandemic, and the original bi poly chick loses all of her other partners.

But tell me again how monogamy is unnatural. This really is just cucking with extra steps.

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I Lost Both My Polyamorous Relationships To Other People During The Pandemic

"Despite the jealousy, difficulties and triggers, I whole-heartedly welcomed my primary’s new girlfriend into my life."
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:story:These two are basically the woman in this video:
 
mario if smoke weed said:
Polyamory is definitely not for the faint of mind. You've got to do a lot of balancing acts to make sure the relationship is healthy and mutually beneficial or the whole thing goes sour, people get hurt, and it devolves into a circus. Needless to say, at least 90% of the people on Reddit aren't emotionally or mentally prepared for such a commitment and should stick to monogamy, or friends with benefits or anything else.
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I'd say polyamory is for people who don't regard sex as special. Clearly this guy did and she demonstrated to him without question that she did not. I can find it in my heart to feel sorry for her. But I'd have done the same as him. I can't pretend I haven't had casual sex (including three way) but I can say that honestly nothing has compared to making love to someone you truly care about and know cares about you. Soppy but true.

Someone in the reddit thread observed that every single post by her was along the lines of her feelings and how unfair it was on her and not one post was about how absolutely crap he must feel.

AnOminous said:
Serves her right for trying to cuck her boyfriend. Nobody worth keeping would agree to that.
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+1

But what I'd really like to know is what she told her family. "Me and X broke up." "Oh no! Why?" "Um..."

Or would she actually tell her family why he left her? I'd love to have been there for that!
 
JoseRaulChupacabra said:
What are the odds that poly folks go on about it to inflate their sex lives? The people I know that have fucked half the town rarely ever talk about all the sex they're having unless it comes up as a topic. Their facebook walls look normal while poly folks is pretty much all links to sex articles about the benefits of having a dozen boyfriends.



:story:These two are basically the woman in this video:
https://youtube.com/watch?v=LV-Ri2cI1-s
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Why are all these people white? In all the polycule photos I find they're all caucasian, is there a reason for this? Imagine going on 3 dates with someone and then finding out it they weren't really interested in you, they were just doing it for a buzzfeed video. Also, that woman should try a diet, not polyamory.
 
latter day taint said:
I think "closed system" polyamory has worked in some cultures, and by this I mean polygamy and polyandry. The difference being commitment.
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Interesting take. These systems provided the same benefit monogamy did—social stability—as necessary at a time when lineage was socially significant and birth control wasn’t an option. Feudal, etc., societies that has these practices also had some heavy-handed enforcement methods for people were caught screwing around outside of those boundaries. Plus, you were probably being pretty blatant if you were getting caught in flagrante delicto before advanced surveillance.

The solution is simple: modern poly people need to agree that some behaviors warrant throwing people in the stocks in the public square. I humbly suggest it for 50-year-old dudes who are trying to acquire a bunch of live-in teen girlfriends.
 
fuzzyrodent85 said:
Why are all these people white? In all the polycule photos I find they're all caucasian, is there a reason for this? Imagine going on 3 dates with someone and then finding out it they weren't really interested in you, they were just doing it for a buzzfeed video. Also, that woman should try a diet, not polyamory.
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Polyamory is part of the greater sphere of ‘things only autistic, overeducated white people like’. It goes hand in hand with renaissance faires, science fiction conventions, and being obsessed with board games.

Black people are known for having lots of baby mamas/daddies, but black women usually don’t want to be the side piece. Maybe they have more self respect than fat white chicks.
 
Crunchy Leaf said:
Polyamory is part of the greater sphere of ‘things only autistic, overeducated white people like’. It goes hand in hand with renaissance faires, science fiction conventions, and being obsessed with board games.

Black people are known for having lots of baby mamas/daddies, but black women usually don’t want to be the side piece. Maybe they have more self respect than fat white chicks.
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It does depend on if you mean people who self-identify as it or not. Having countless mistresses to the point where you lose track of who your children are is a practice as old as mankind, but they didn't use weird terms to describe it that most people wouldn't understand.

The board games thing is something I never got, aside from chess. Why have a load of pieces which can be easily knocked over by accident when you can play something simulated on a computer instead?
 
Andy Bandy Man said:
I don't know, I've seen it with my own eyes. Maybe their mating ritual is a complicated dance of semaphores or something.
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It definitely seems to be the case but I don't think I've ever personally known adult board game fans. Card games, yes, but that's it. I must just have talent at avoiding lolcows.
 
Pointless Pedant said:
Having countless mistresses to the point where you lose track of who your children are is a practice as old as mankind, but they didn't use weird terms to describe it that most people wouldn't understand.
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And AGAIN I have to point out that even in those cases people still pair-bonded. The emperor's favorite consort, for example.
 
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