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[Alcoholism]

How come you never see this kind of autism with threesomes and swingers?

Physically or socially attractive people who are successful in life and just want to fuck around just "fuck around". They don't have to ascribe any higher meaning to their fucking around.

Only ugly losers need to politicize their fucking so they can fill the empty hole that mountains of dick can't.

 

[Schatzi Katze]

whats more frustating is that often those men (and women) realize they are getting played, they still stay for way longer than logic can explain because they are insecure and don't think they'd manage to start from scratch again and ever find somebody better. People will low self esteem are easy targets to become the doormat of manipulators and chronic abusers, there's always glaring power imbalances and gaslighting in these arrangements.

Preaching to the choir, my friend. Been through that shit myself and was lucky to come out the other side without significant lasting trauma.

It was surreal to see with those folks because they are both incredibly bright people with graduate degrees, but then again its important to remember that emotional and academic intelligence are different skillsets. Perhaps thats the core issue a lot of your self identified poly people fall into, that they think they can just read a few books on the subject and "learn" how to do it when emotions just dont work like that.

 

[LinkinParkxNaruto[AMV]]

Preaching to the choir, my friend. Been through that shit myself and was lucky to come out the other side without significant lasting trauma.

It was surreal to see with those folks because they are both incredibly bright people with graduate degrees, but then again its important to remember that emotional and academic intelligence are different skillsets. Perhaps thats the core issue a lot of your self identified poly people fall into, that they think they can just read a few books on the subject and "learn" how to do it when emotions just dont work like that.

true, smart people can be very good at rationalizing very idiotic choices and have a habit of failing when it comes to situations that require common sense. There's actually studies and books written about it.

Not only stupid people act foolishly: Smart people can act foolishly by virtue of their thinking they are too smart to do so. Such people tend to act foolishly through the commission of one or more of five cognitive fallacies: (1) unrealistic optimism, whereby they believe that they are so smart that they can do whatever they want and not worry about it; (2) egocentrism, whereby they focus on themselves and what benefits them while discounting or even totally ignoring their responsibilities to others; (3) omniscience, whereby they believe they know everything, instead of knowing what they do not know; (4) omnipotence, whereby they believe they can do whatever they want because they are all-powerful; and (5) invulnerability, whereby they believe that they will get away with whatever they do, no matter how inappropriate or irresponsible it may be. The antidote to foolishness is wisdom. The balance theory of wisdom proposes that people are wise to the extent they apply their intelligence, creativity, and wisdom toward a common good by balancing their own interests, the interests of others, and the interests of organizations or other supra-individual entities; over the long and short terms; through the infusion of values; to adapt to, shape, and select environments. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2017 APA, all rights reserved)

APA PsycNet

psycnet.apa.org

https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/295732

 

[blablabla]

in my mind there is not a single scenario where this would be ok. i mean just what the fuck

 

[572.4]

whats more frustating is that often those men (and women) realize they are getting played, they still stay for way longer than logic can explain because they are insecure and don't think they'd manage to start from scratch again and ever find somebody better. People will low self esteem are easy targets to become the doormat of manipulators and chronic abusers, there's always glaring power imbalances and gaslighting in these arrangements.

I stayed for longer than I should have/wanted to because I moved halfway across the world for that person and was on a temporary resident permit at that time. That resident permit was based on my relationship with that person, so if I left him before I got permanent residency without any other compelling reason to stay, I had to go back.

He brought up poly relationship after I moved and was already living with him. You know, gave up my job, being far away from my family and friends in a country that I didn't know anyone and (at that time) couldn't speak the language and all...I felt stuck.

But I got a job, found someone much better, got out and have been out for a while. My life is much better now but that shit leaves deep trauma.

I was resentful of the girl that he met on OkCupid who introduced him to poly, but I realized that by the fact that he never deactivated his OkC account in the first place, he already wanted to fuck around and that girl just provided him with a convenient "solution" .

I'm glad that the country that I moved to didn't require me to marry that person in order to be able to stay, because otherwise it would have been much more of a nightmare than it already was.

 

[Coccxys]

My mate married the first girl he got with (we all knew she had fucked about half the town at some point or another including 2 of his cousins) at like 19 (was a dumb idea and everyone told hom so but dude had just dipped his wick and thought that tingling feeling was true love).

After a couple of years she did the "let's open up so you can get more experiences". He (trying to save it) said he'd think about it and got me to meet him down the pub for a chat about it all.

Well suprise suprise when he got home she had a guy on the house with "well you didn't say no", almost as if she'd chosen the guy before "asking".

They decided to close the relationship and try to make it work after that about a month later she paid some high end "sex worker" to try and seduce him down the pub to try and get him to cheat/open it up. When he turned the prossy down she must have let the wife know because she was right down the pub pitching a fit about how he must be gay and he was controlling her.

They got a divorce pretty quickly after. So standard "promiscuous" woman trying to manipulate their guy into letting them fuck around like most of this poly shit is.

 

[BubbleButt]

almost as if she'd chosen the guy before "asking".

They always have.

 

[Raisin Boy]

My mate married the first girl he got with (we all knew she had fucked about half the town at some point or another including 2 of his cousins) at like 19 (was a dumb idea and everyone told hom so but dude had just dipped his wick and thought that tingling feeling was true love).

After a couple of years she did the "let's open up so you can get more experiences". He (trying to save it) said he'd think about it and got me to meet him down the pub for a chat about it all.

Well suprise suprise when he got home she had a guy on the house with "well you didn't say no", almost as if she'd chosen the guy before "asking".

They decided to close the relationship and try to make it work after that about a month later she paid some high end "sex worker" to try and seduce him down the pub to try and get him to cheat/open it up. When he turned the prossy down she must have let the wife know because she was right down the pub pitching a fit about how he must be gay and he was controlling her.

They got a divorce pretty quickly after. So standard "promiscuous" woman trying to manipulate their guy into letting them fuck around like most of this poly shit is.

They always have.

I mean, do we need to say it again? If your partner asks to open the relationship or they come out as polyamorous, dollars to donuts they're already cheating or in the process of cheating. The first time they so much as ask, break it off.

 

[break these cuffs]

I mean, do we need to say it again? If your partner asks to open the relationship or they come out as polyamorous, dollars to donuts they're already cheating or in the process of cheating. The first time they so much as ask, break it off.

Same thing if they ask for a break where you're allowed to see other people. They're bored with you and want to fuck someone else, but too chickenshit to end it.

 

[Pastor Martin Ssempa]

"Bourgeois marriage is in reality a system of wives in common and thus, at the most, what the Communists might possibly be reproached with, is that they desire to introduce, in substitution for a hypocritically concealed, an openly legalised community of women. For the rest, it is self-evident that the abolition of the present system of production must bring with it the abolition of the community of women springing from that system, i.e., of prostitution both public and private.” - Karl Marx

 

[Marshal Mannerheim]

"Bourgeois marriage is in reality a system of wives in common and thus, at the most, what the Communists might possibly be reproached with, is that they desire to introduce, in substitution for a hypocritically concealed, an openly legalised community of women. For the rest, it is self-evident that the abolition of the present system of production must bring with it the abolition of the community of women springing from that system, i.e., of prostitution both public and private.” - Karl Marx

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I see the DSA are continuing with their quest to show us all that they would have a hard time running a pissup in a brewery.

 

[Coccxys]

I see the DSA are continuing with their quest to show us all that they would have a hard time running a pissup in a brewery.

Can't organise a piss up while you're spending all your time on reddit telling everyone how great poly is and reading all the books required to convince yourself you're happy with your relationship.

 

[robobobo]

Bitch wants what she can't have. You nagged him into letting you screw other guys then when he found someone better in every way you're regretting it.

This seems entirely too fake. "I henpecked my awesome man into an open marriage and now supermodels ten years younger than him are fucking him within minutes of being around his manly cock oh woe is me!" sounds more like a revenge fantasy than something that would happen in real life.

 

[Coccxys]

This seems entirely too fake. "I henpecked my awesome man into an open marriage and now supermodels ten years younger than him are fucking him within minutes of being around his manly cock oh woe is me!" sounds more like a revenge fantasy than something that would happen in real life.

Depends how much she fucked up her calculations of the risk. The one wanting the open relationship is usually the one who's dating up and is deluded about it. Especially if it's the woman who actually believes she's gods gift because she had guys queuing up in high school but is now older. The guy on the other hand is older and more responsible, exactly the right type for the daddy issues college girls.

I'm not ruling out it being a creative writing piece (like half of reddit in general), but there are many of these that seem to come up and many are far less believable.

 

[AprilRains]

This seems entirely too fake. "I henpecked my awesome man into an open marriage and now supermodels ten years younger than him are fucking him within minutes of being around his manly cock oh woe is me!" sounds more like a revenge fantasy than something that would happen in real life.

He found one girlfriend, not hordes of supermodels. That's a good deal more plausible than your bullshit summary above.

 

[Dave Foliage]

They want oppression points so bad

Spoiler: first world problems

The original poster deactivated, so here is an archive of one of the reblogs

 

[Marshal Mannerheim]

They want oppression points so bad

Spoiler: first world problems

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The original poster deactivated, so here is an archive of one of the reblogs

Being a slag is not a sexuality.

 

[sper]

This seems entirely too fake. "I henpecked my awesome man into an open marriage and now supermodels ten years younger than him are fucking him within minutes of being around his manly cock oh woe is me!" sounds more like a revenge fantasy than something that would happen in real life.

I agree, and if it’s true I really wonder what would make a mother of a one year old want to fuck other men and have her husband fuck other women. It seems deranged, like as a mother of a small child you’re dependent on a good father

 

[Brain Problems]

I agree, and if it’s true I really wonder what would make a mother of a one year old want to fuck other men and have her husband fuck other women. It seems deranged, like as a mother of a small child you’re dependent on a good father

Arrested development (not the show) and other mental health issues. But mostly people not realising that you can't act like you're in your teens and twenties for your entire life, especially if you've got what most people would consider a family. That ship has sailed.

You'd think both people would be fighting as hard as possible for the sake of their kid but lol no, cooming stops for noone and how dare you say otherwise. I'm pleased that none of the people I know that are into this have any kids in the mix but am quietly horrified that some desperately want to change that ASAP.

 

[NoReturn]

Bumping the thread so other people can suffer with me:

Spoiler: Spoilered for length