"First off, let me commend you for giving it a shot, as it was not fair to ask your husband to live a celibate life, because of your unfortunate and difficult health problems."
All of these people are going to die alone in government subsidized warehouses, having abandoned, or been abandoned by, all the other humans in their lives.
Oh NRE stands for new relationship energy. Someone asked a while back. Could add it to the OP since its a frequent term (Kimchi Cuddles used it a lot). It's supposed to mean how you get euphoria from having a new partner.
It's really funny how half these stories end up with the partners going back to monogamy (or at least, one serious relationship with fuck buddies instead of multiple romantic ones), but just with someone else. It really does seem like a terrible, drawn-out process of breaking up. I'm sure in the back of his mind, that cuck Jake used it as a way to detangle himself from Ali, because he doesn't have the spine to end a bad relationship and be single for a while.
You can't have two people you see and distribute love, time, and energy equally between the two, and if you are able to feel "in love" with more than one that's probably the result of brain damage and/or serious emotional issues.
Why don't these fuckers just go full Mormon and start a weird sex religion? At least then they can use the money from tax breaks to pay for their STI treatments.
Love is a pretty shitty word considering the importance we place on it. I shouldn't be able to use the same word to describe my feelings for my wife of 60 years and the Double Baconator.
It's not that shitty when it's usually obvious from context what kind of love you mean. When I say "god I love fried chicken" you obviously know I wouldn't fuck or marry it.
I truly get where people are coming with this, and why it's abhorred by a lot of people: I don't think it's a problem to love multiple people romantically, but the fact is that none of these people whom I have read on this subreddit really knows what the fuck that even means. It's just some little game of cuckolding to them, and that disgusts me.
I mean, it could work. It's a big world, I'm sure somewhere out there there's trios who are so compatible and emotionally mature that they can have a healthy relationship. But I think they would be very, very few and far between, and I still doubt their relationship would last for any long period of time.
"First off, let me commend you for giving it a shot, as it was not fair to ask your husband to live a celibate life, because of your unfortunate and difficult health problems.".
this sounds so.... sociopathic? for a lack of a better word. if your partner can't keep it in their pants or just jack off for a few months because you have a terrible illness then your partner is an egoistic asshole and you should be glad to get rid of them.
I feel so sorry for the people who get bullied into this shit by their cheating ass partners, especially when they blame themselves for it even though they're absolutely not at fault like that sick woman .
It sounds pleasant in theory, but it would take a lot of maturity to work. Imagine having three or four grandparents to spoil you on Christmas instead of just two! Shame that in practice, poly relationships almost always end in chaos.
It sounds pleasant in theory, but it would take a lot of maturity to work. Imagine having three or four grandparents to spoil you on Christmas instead of just two! Shame that in practice, poly relationships almost always end in chaos.
I think the maturity comes into play when one can rationalize the fact that being poly is Peter Pan nonsense. If this were a righteous world, we would have had a large war by now to cream off these deviants.
I'm open to the idea of poly relationships working out in the very rare case that every person involved is able to handle it. As the foundation for a community, though, it's an absolute disaster. Successful poly relationships are and should be outliers.
if you want to fuck multiple people, cool, not my style, but whatever
but y'know why most people stick with only one person when going into a relationship? because it's simpler and ultimately more...fulfilling i suppose is the word i'm looking for. you're devoting your energy and time and care to one person, and vice versa. instead of juggling 5 people's emotional baggage, you're only worried about two; you and your partners. it's funny they talk about monogamy and the false storybook romance, but then are blindsided when the emotional spiderweb they've weaved starts falling apart cause, y'know, humans are very rational creatures, and someone saying they won't get jealous or hurt or regretful is a 100% guarantee against those emotions, so let's bring as many people as possible into this.
I'm viewing this topic through a biologist lens and not a psychologist lens. Love is a complicated, chemical process and I do think there are people where this process does not work correctly at all. In animals the closest thing to "love" would be the bonding that monogamous species take part in, I suppose.
"Although we are just beginning to answer basic questions about the canine brain, we cannot ignore the striking similarity between dogs and humans in both the structure and function of a key brain region: the caudate nucleus.
Rich in dopamine receptors, the caudate sits between the brainstem and the cortex. In humans, the caudate plays a key role in the anticipation of things we enjoy, like food, love and money. But can we flip this association around and infer what a person is thinking just by measuring caudate activity? Because of the overwhelming complexity of how different parts of the brain are connected to one another, it is not usually possible to pin a single cognitive function or emotion to a single brain region.
But the caudate may be an exception. Specific parts of the caudate stand out for their consistent activation to many things that humans enjoy. Caudate activation is so consistent that under the right circumstances, it can predict our preferences for food, music and even beauty.
In dogs, we found that activity in the caudate increased in response to hand signals indicating food. The caudate also activated to the smells of familiar humans. And in preliminary tests, it activated to the return of an owner who had momentarily stepped out of view. Do these findings prove that dogs love us? Not quite. But many of the same things that activate the human caudate, which are associated with positive emotions, also activate the dog caudate. Neuroscientists call this a functional homology, and it may be an indication of canine emotions.
The ability to experience positive emotions, like love and attachment, would mean that dogs have a level of sentience comparable to that of a human child. And this ability suggests a rethinking of how we treat dogs."
quoting fucked it up for some reason
it also wouldn't surprise me if dolphins or some primates can feel a form of love
if you want to fuck multiple people, cool, not my style, but whatever
but y'know why most people stick with only one person when going into a relationship? because it's simpler and ultimately more...fulfilling i suppose is the word i'm looking for. you're devoting your energy and time and care to one person, and vice versa. instead of juggling 5 people's emotional baggage, you're only worried about two; you and your partners. it's funny they talk about monogamy and the false storybook romance, but then are blindsided when the emotional spiderweb they've weaved starts falling apart cause, y'know, humans are very rational creatures, and someone saying they won't get jealous or hurt or regretful is a 100% guarantee against those emotions, so let's bring as many people as possible into this.
"Although we are just beginning to answer basic questions about the canine brain, we cannot ignore the striking similarity between dogs and humans in both the structure and function of a key brain region: the caudate nucleus.
Rich in dopamine receptors, the caudate sits between the brainstem and the cortex. In humans, the caudate plays a key role in the anticipation of things we enjoy, like food, love and money. But can we flip this association around and infer what a person is thinking just by measuring caudate activity? Because of the overwhelming complexity of how different parts of the brain are connected to one another, it is not usually possible to pin a single cognitive function or emotion to a single brain region.
But the caudate may be an exception. Specific parts of the caudate stand out for their consistent activation to many things that humans enjoy. Caudate activation is so consistent that under the right circumstances, it can predict our preferences for food, music and even beauty.
In dogs, we found that activity in the caudate increased in response to hand signals indicating food. The caudate also activated to the smells of familiar humans. And in preliminary tests, it activated to the return of an owner who had momentarily stepped out of view. Do these findings prove that dogs love us? Not quite. But many of the same things that activate the human caudate, which are associated with positive emotions, also activate the dog caudate. Neuroscientists call this a functional homology, and it may be an indication of canine emotions.
The ability to experience positive emotions, like love and attachment, would mean that dogs have a level of sentience comparable to that of a human child. And this ability suggests a rethinking of how we treat dogs."
quoting fucked it up for some reason
it also wouldn't surprise me if dolphins or some primates can feel a form of love
Thanks for the info. I would say dogs are a special case when it comes to studying their abilities to have emotions--of course this is always a topic in biology that you have to be careful with due to human bias and tendency to anthropomorphize. But with dogs (and many other domesticated animals, cats being the exception here), we've bred them over thousands of years to specifically be more juvenile in appearance and behavior. It would make sense that they'd be selectively bred to exhibit more kindness and "love" towards their owners. I would be interested in knowing how different the emotional center of wild canines such as wolves are in comparison to domesticated dogs.
And yes, cetaceans like dolphins have pretty advanced emotional centers of their brain and many intelligent animals (primates, parrots, corvids, etc) seem to have evolved emotional centers as well. So yes, they experience emotions but we can't equate them to being the same as human emotions (with the exception of closer relatives like primates, perhaps). I would love for there to be more studies on this topic though, I find it very interesting but it's not usually the kind of thing that gets funding.
My experiences with a polyamorous woman (no, not that kind of experiences):
Back when I was in high school, there was this girl who went to a different high school but sometimes showed up at mine to... yeah... play board games.
She was called "Fish" because she smelled bad. She was tall, lanky and had greasy hair and bad acne. From what I heard, she came from a somewhat strange family, where the dad and her brother were apparently OK guys but she, her sister and their mom were wackos who really disliked washing themselves.
Fast forward to some 8 years after I've graduated high school. Fish shows up in my new home town and starts working at this bar that I'm a regular at. She has turned into one hefty mama and grown a gigantic horse ass. She has lost the bad smell and most of the acne though.
Fish kinda keeps her distance from me, even though I know here from "before". After a while, I hear from these guys I know that she's hitting pretty heavily on them, despite being married to a bald beardo of guy. The I start hearing all sorts of weird things: Apparently Fish and Bald Beardo are involved in the polyamory/swingers scene in another town.
After about 6 months, shit hits the fan and Fish is fired from the bar because it is discovered that she's stolen about $5000 worth of money from the safe. She appears in court and tries to plead temporary insanity by claiming that she had a miscarriage at the time. Eventually, she pleads guilty to theft, but a lesser amount than what had actually been stolen. The bar decides not to take it to a higher court and she is formally banned for life.
After this she has a kid with Baldo Beardo, then divorces him. She starts trolling dating sites, playing up the "single mom in need of a man" angle. She also has a "dating blog" where she reviews dates and speaks ill of those who don't measure up to her standards.
I haven't checked in a while, but she used to have a fairly active social media presence. You see, she's has been into LARPing for a long time and if you search for (Fish's actual first name) + LARP, one of the top results is a pic of Fish dressed up as a classy half-orc prostitute or whatever. She's tried her hand at modelling, so there is quite an assortment of pics available on the net where she looks like absolute trash.
To sum it all up: She's bangable, if you are into chunky asses, greasy hair and broads who will shit talk you after you've boned them.
I haven't checked in a while, but she used to have a fairly active social media presence. You see, she's has been into LARPing for a long time and if you search for (Fish's actual first name) + LARP, one of the top results is a pic of Fish dressed up as a classy half-orc prostitute or whatever. She's tried her hand at modelling, so there is quite an assortment of pics available on the net where she looks like absolute trash.
There is a large crossover of poly people in one of my hobbies. The only functional poly people I know are just fucking other people and not actually having relationships beyond their marriage.
Relationships are effort. I'm too damn lazy for more than one.
It sounds pleasant in theory, but it would take a lot of maturity to work. Imagine having three or four grandparents to spoil you on Christmas instead of just two! Shame that in practice, poly relationships almost always end in chaos.
Polyamory is like getting a big cup at a frozen yogurt bar and getting a dozen flavors to pick from. No matter how many flavors you pick and how well you divide them up, even with the cardboard/cookie divider, you're just going to get fat.
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