r/polyamory

[BlaireWhitesBottom]

"I (29f) have been in a relationship with my husband (34m) for 10 years."

She was 19 and he was 24 when they started dating.

man i must be getting old because that doesnt seem like shit to me. like theyre two consenting adults, would u prefer they both be men or women?

 

[AMHOLIO]

man i must be getting old because that doesnt seem like shit to me. like theyre two consenting adults, would u prefer they both be men or women?

Sorry, didn't mean to make you feel old, I was more stressing over the fact that one is old enough to enter college and the other to graduate it. It's the possiblity of one having more financial freedom than the other, as well as being at different points in their lives.

It's a nothingburger tbh. As long as you didn't start having children in your poly relationship straight away (the keyword is poly, have children at 19 if you have the finances and patience).

 

[Dafrunk89]

“Am I asking for trouble by having my wife fuck one of my friends?!”

Imagine hating yourself, your wife and your friends this much. Imagine putting so much on the line for a shitty coom fantasy. Why is porn not enough for these retards, I'll never know.

“My husband has been trying to ruin our marriage for over a year. I finally gave in! What do I do now?!”

I fucking hate this sub, I hate that it exists and I hate that I now know about it. Thanks.

 

[Larry David's Opera Cape]

Sorry, didn't mean to make you feel old, I was more stressing over the fact that one is old enough to enter college and the other to graduate it. It's the possiblity of one having more financial freedom than the other, as well as being at different points in their lives.

It's a nothingburger tbh. As long as you didn't start having children in your poly relationship straight away (the keyword is poly, have children at 19 if you have the finances and patience).

People freaking out over normal young couples (24 and 19 is normal) is part of the problem. How many of these poly losers have basically been memed by their peers into thinking they "missed out" on some crucial part of development by not riding the penis/vagina merry go round in their 20s and just being in a stable relationship the whole time? It's 50/50 that and people who got on the merry go round and can't stay off. There's nothing weird or creepy about 19 and 24 getting together and staying together. That's everyone here's grandparents and possibly parents. Maybe those relationships lasted not just because "muh divorce was taboo" but because growing up together is good for young couples.

 

[Fapcop]

I fucking hate this sub, I hate that it exists and I hate that I now know about it. Thanks.

I think cuck fantasies is the crack cocaine of cooming/coomers.

Jealousy is a really strong fucking emotion, right?

If you manage to sexualize it and associate with sex, it’s gotta be some potent fucking shit.

So they’ll continue fapping along until one day they’re sitting on Reddit going: “I no longer have sex with my wife! Just clean her up after others are done! SO FUUCKING HOTT!”

And then comes the divorce.

 

[UnsufficentBoobage]

Jealousy is a really strong fucking emotion, right?

It is self-hatred. Society has been conditioning men into self-hatred for last few, uh, have you been in a bunker?

 

[BlaireWhitesBottom]

People freaking out over normal young couples (24 and 19 is normal) is part of the problem. How many of these poly losers have basically been memed by their peers into thinking they "missed out" on some crucial part of development by not riding the penis/vagina merry go round in their 20s and just being in a stable relationship the whole time? It's 50/50 that and people who got on the merry go round and can't stay off. There's nothing weird or creepy about 19 and 24 getting together and staying together. That's everyone here's grandparents and possibly parents. Maybe those relationships lasted not just because "muh divorce was taboo" but because growing up together is good for young couples.

fuck it at this point if theyre over 18 its a green light, there are so few women out there worth it that you cant restrict yourself these days

God the four faggots are painful to look at. Fat, dumpy and their hair looks like frozen dogshit. Thank God they're never going to reproduce.

fuckin fat faggots what a horrible combo.. i hate fat fags

 

[Mr. Skeltal]

fuck it at this point if theyre over 18 its a green light, there are so few women out there worth it that you cant restrict yourself these days

Legally you're correct but there can be a world of difference if you're more than 5 years the senior of your date. I dated an 18 year old in my mid 20's and it was a bit hard to relate. Many of my experiences were vague memories, modern history snippets, or pure theoreticals to her. Nice girl, but that cohort gap was challenging to say the least.

The "FOMO" argument often wheeled out regarding age gaps is stupid but there is a kernel of truth to it. You've lived life, they really haven't.

Another analogy I've seen thrown around is to "check out of the party at 8". The idea is that by sticking around the party might get livelier and you're a fool to leave early by settling down young. It works in context of a male virgin settling down with his first lay but not in a broader context. All parties have to stop eventually. Better to check out at 8 than stagger home alone.
Poly types, however, are akin to drunks convincing their date to drive them back to the party at 2AM so they can try a shitty keg-stand and fail miserably.

 

[soulgains]

The fact that this exists just shows us that the enlightenment was a mistake.

 

[AMHOLIO]

Nice girl, but that cohort gap was challenging to say the least.

Like, a 23 and a 28 year old tend to have more in common in spite of the age gap due to the stages of life evening out sort of deal. Even if you don't always have the same generational knowledge, you both likely have experienced being independent from your family longer and have a taste of responsibility under your belt. Getting married young isn't the problem, it's making sure you have enough common ground with your partner at the time, especially if you realize later that one of you has solid life goals and the other doesn't want to commit to them (say one wants a baby while then other wants to get their first job first).

 

[Fapcop]

Like, a 23 and a 28 year old tend to have more in common in spite of the age gap due to the stages of life evening out sort of deal. Even if you don't always have the same generational knowledge, you both likely have experienced being independent from your family longer and have a taste of responsibility under your belt. Getting married young isn't the problem, it's making sure you have enough common ground with your partner at the time, especially if you realize later that one of you has solid life goals and the other doesn't want to commit to them (say one wants a baby while then other wants to get their first job first).

Hard agree.

Had a relationship with a 20 year old when I around 30 and someone a decade older as well.

Yeah, it’s a little annoying that they don’t have the exact same points of reference etc. that you had.

But the important stuff: Your goals, your philosophy, maybe religion, how you see life and what’s important, that’s pretty timeless stuff. As well as the common human experience, interests etc.


It can be a problem though if the younger partner still doesn’t have much in terms of goals or know who they are. And what people they surround themselves with.

 

[Pliskin101]

But the important stuff: Your goals, your philosophy, maybe religion, how you see life and what’s important, that’s pretty timeless stuff. As well as the common human experience, interests etc.

This. People overestimate how much age is a factor in a relationship. Family culture/religion, where they grew up, friends, life choices, are all more important when seeking a partner.
Obviously, a huge age difference is weird but still not very common. People who go around dictating rules like "you need to take their age and add 4" just seem to me like they never had much experience with relationships to begin with.

 

[Cousin It]

This. People overestimate how much age is a factor in a relationship. Family culture/religion, where they grew up, friends, life choices, are all more important when seeking a partner.
Obviously, a huge age difference is weird but still not very common. People who go around dictating rules like "you need to take their age and add 4" just seem to me like they never had much experience with relationships to begin with.

I think the o'l "half your age then add 7'" works well if you understand it to be a guideline and not a hard rule. Sure, you might find someone outside that range who your compatible with, but dating or even searching for a date takes time. If you're looking for someone to settle down with you're probably going to find more likely candidates at the same stage of life within a certain age range relative to your own. You can always widen the net if your not getting many catches.

 

[Dafrunk89]

Some mixed shit for you guys. Featuring r/relationship_advice and r/nonmonogamy.


A self-described feminine man, who calls his girlfriend "they", is getting constantly cucked but not allowed to return the favor. Time to do something cry about it on Reddit.

Here we have a very excitable cuck struggling with the english language and also the idea that his wife might be laughing at him, instead of getting wet from the realization that her husband is a retard. Enjoy trying to figure out this shit. (lol at 'different color')


Imagine having a third wheel live with you, only for her to bring in animals she then neglects. Poor dog, poor cat.


Boy toy cuck husband gets outed by snooping "friends". This being r/relationship_advice, he gets humiliated. I imagine he masturbates to the response.
...and some of the responses:

 

[Larry David's Opera Cape]

Some mixed shit for you guys. Featuring r/relationship_advice and r/nonmonogamy.


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Here we have a very excitable cuck struggling with the english language and also the idea that his wife might be laughing at him, instead of getting wet from the realization that her husband is a retard. Enjoy trying to figure out this shit. (lol at 'different color')
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Imagine having a third wheel live with you, only for her to bring in animals she then neglects. Poor dog, poor cat.
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...and some of the responses:
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wife 36, husband 25

Where do these people find each other?

 

[Mr. Skeltal]

wife 36, husband 25

Where do these people find each other?

God only knows. Young men can learn a lot from older women but don't put a ring on that finger, you don't know where it's been.

Most guys are better suited to marrying their peers or younger. An older wife can work but it's the exception, not the rule. An older woman in a relationship with a younger man looking to open that relationship is not just a red flag, it's a goddamn air raid siren.

 

[Dafrunk89]

wife 36, husband 25

Where do these people find each other?

I bet it's sports & outdoor activities, church, wine tastings and libraries.

 

[Fapcop]

Some mixed shit for you guys. Featuring r/relationship_advice and r/nonmonogamy.


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“In case I want to pursue it!”

It’s always the same with these cucks… Poly sounds sooo appealing, until the shit hits the fan and they find out the hard way that women aren’t going to line up around the block to be one of their FWB.

There’s a reason their “partner” picked them though. Cause he’s a spineless cuck, and her BPD Radar tells her he’ll be a doormat. Hope he grows a pair. As much as I dislike cucks, nobody deserves this shit.

Here we have a very excitable cuck struggling with the english language and also the idea that his wife might be laughing at him, instead of getting wet from the realization that her husband is a retard. Enjoy trying to figure out this shit. (lol at 'different color')
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What could possibly go wrong with trying to make your wife have sex with another man?!

Degenerates like this one likes to paint their fetish with “oh just want my wife to be happy!” But don’t understand how disgusting it is to turn your WIFE into a living fetish/coomer prop.

Nor do they understand the first thing about women. Such as the fact that most women prefer to have an emotional connection of sorts, with whomever they’re having sex with.

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Writes down a list of rules for his wife being a whore so long, that he needs to keep it on the home computer.

Autist confirmed.

God only knows. Young men can learn a lot from older women but don't put a ring on that finger, you don't know where it's been.

Most guys are better suited to marrying their peers or younger. An older wife can work but it's the exception, not the rule. An older woman in a relationship with a younger man looking to open that relationship is not just a red flag, it's a goddamn air raid siren.

Damn right about that last one.

Though I gotta say: I’ve known of a few men in their 20ies with a wife in her 30ies.

If you’re the kind of dude who knows what he wants: Whether family or concentrating on a career, it can make sense to find a slightly older woman who likewise knows what she wants.

(Obligatory: Unless she just got off the cock roulette like last year.)

If your wife is 30 or 32, chances are she knows exactly what she wants and won’t do the “Yeah, uhm… I guess I want kids! Like someday?” Dance many younger women do.

She knows who she is, what she wants and has been around the block. (No, not THAT block!)

To some guys that’s quite appealing.

Not saying that it’s usually not ideal if your wife is the same age or a bit younger, but there are exceptions.

 

[Chromeo]

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What is a "cake eater?"

 

[Mr. Skeltal]

Damn right about that last one.

Though I gotta say: I’ve known of a few men in their 20ies with a wife in her 30ies.

If you’re the kind of dude who knows what he wants: Whether family or concentrating on a career, it can make sense to find a slightly older woman who likewise knows what she wants.

(Obligatory: Unless she just got off the cock roulette like last year.)

If your wife is 30 or 32, chances are she knows exactly what she wants and won’t do the “Yeah, uhm… I guess I want kids! Like someday?” Dance many younger women do.

She knows who she is, what she wants and has been around the block. (No, not THAT block!)

To some guys that’s quite appealing.

Not saying that it’s usually not ideal if your wife is the same age or a bit younger, but there are exceptions.

I've also known a couple of stable marriages where the man is the younger spouse. Hell, I technically fall into that category. Mrs. Skeltal is several months my senior and it will never cease being funny to call her a cradle-robber. Functionally we're peers though and both have similar formative memories and experiences. The trend of men marrying women around a decade their junior is rather old fashioned but the inverse isn't getting any more common to my knowledge. A 25 year old man would be well advised to take extra caution if thinking about marrying a woman in her mid 30's.

Regarding polyamory, the old knowledge gets thrown out the window. Adding to an existing marriage is poison. There's a reason why such lifestyles can get rather volatile. Lots of jealousy to go around.
It's grimly amusing watching the spouse opening the relationship with intent to whore around get utterly ruined when the spouse they badgered into it ends up being more successful and bonding with one of their extramarital lovers. Men who do it are coom-brained pornsick weirdos and the women are manipulative, opportunistic whores.