r/polyamory

[The Demon Pimp of Razgriz]

if this thread teaches us anything, it's that lukes new relationship with sarah will be short lived at best, and afterwards all that remains will be three broken lonely people

He's handsome enough, he'll probably bounce back and find someone else after awhile, especially if he just goes on ahead and divorces his wife. Sarah's young. She's got time to figure it out. Its May who's probably screwed.

 

[The Judean People's Front]

He's handsome enough, he'll probably bounce back and find someone else after awhile, especially if he just goes on ahead and divorces his wife. Sarah's young. She's got time to figure it out. Its May who's probably screwed.

Yeah May is screwed. I try to be encouraging of her, but she has a lot of work to do on herself I think if she's going to get a new partner who isn't just using her as a pump and dump. Luke may be moderately attractive, but he's the most boring human on Earth, and it sounds like he's bad at sex, so who knows for him.

I forgot to mention in the first post but Sarah is also from a (different) repressed religious background, so they're all swimming in a sea of bizarre gender expectations and ingrained self-loathing.

The only upside is that May has definitely seen the light regarding polyamory. She agrees now that polyamory is a meme at best and isn't going to do that shit anymore.

It's crazy to me how many people have such awful experiences with polyamory but the amplified voices are all about it being so enlightened and preferable for the selfless humanitarian. It clearly sucks. Clearly. Why are people still trying this?

Spoiler: Edited to add my speculation

The authors of all these pieces about how wonderful polyamory is are just trying to convince themselves by way of crowd approval.

 

[Brain Problems]

Why are people still trying this?

ADD generation that needs stimulation/dopamine hits NOW and FOREVER, spending too much time in the internet and useless post-secondary institutions, years of subversion of the nuclear family results in demoralised couples that rather than put in the effort to make it work are instead cheating with extra steps while trying to gaslight society that it's A-OK. The correlation between troonery and poly is basically a single line.

I've said it before but at least swingers and oldschool open relationship types didn't try to cloak their degeneracy in any lofty political-sexual shit, that's the big difference.

 

[AMHOLIO]

Why are people still trying this?

Probably the same reason they still try things like communism: it sounds good on paper to those less familiar with history, maybe the guys before us didn't try hard enough?

 

[TiggerNits]

 

[kittyfucker]

[ AI IMAGE ]

i wanted to try it myself

 

[Stasi]

After years of lurking the thread someone I know IRL told me about their poly relationship so thought I'd post here, going to be a little vague so as not to PL too much.

I don't know either person that well, casual acquaintances rather than friends, we just happen to be in the same social circle. A little while ago the girls asked me for a coffee to talk about something, I thought she wanted something from me but apparently it was just to tell me about her love life (I don't fucking know why, I don't know these people!).

Started off telling me she has been dating this guy we know for a few months and that they just broke up. Nothing out of the ordinary so far. Without further prompting she goes on with "we were in a polyamorous relationship" oh boy here we go! As it turns out, when they started seeing each other the guy told her he was poly and there were other women in his life which she was apparently OK with. She then spent about 30 minutes telling me about how uncomfortable she felt with the stuff he was doing - openly flirting with other women in clubs and bars, going to events like concerts with her but telling her she wasn't allowed to approach him during the evening or talk to him because he was bringing his other poly girl along and would be spending the night with girl number 2. She kept breaking off her narrative to say shit like "there is nothing wrong with polyamory, I think alternative lifestyles are valid and have a lot of value". That is some Olympic level mental gymnastics after you just told me how uncomfortable you were with the relationship.

Didn't outright say who broke up with who but connecting the dots it sounds like she probably told him she didn't like what he was doing and he said GTFO. Nothing super crazy compared to some of the other posts here but a couple of things I did find interesting:

1. Its the man and not the woman that has a poly hareem, seems like most of the posts here tend to be a fat woman with a bunch of soy cucks orbiting her.
2. Neither person is a disgusting ham planet like most of the redditors posted here. The girls is a very attractive petite brunette in her mid 20s. I'm not a woman or a homo so can't judge but I'd say the guy was pretty good looking, athletic build, tall and in his late 30s/early 40s.

 

[AMHOLIO]

A little while ago the girls asked me for a coffee to talk about something, I thought she wanted something from me but apparently it was just to tell me about her love life (I don't fucking know why, I don't know these people!).

This sounds exactly like someone who went into poly would do: take someone out for coffee and drama dump all their pain onto someone they share a tangential connection with, much like their love life. She needs a therapist but she's a tard and chose you. Sorry that you sat through that but you got a funny story to share now, and hopefully a decent coffee too.

 

[DumbDude43]

2. She kept breaking off her narrative to say shit like "there is nothing wrong with polyamory, I think alternative lifestyles are valid and have a lot of value". That is some Olympic level mental gymnastics after you just told me how uncomfortable you were with the relationship.

signs of indoctrination.
when reality conflicts with the dogma that has been drilled into their heads, it causes cognitive dissonance. loudly repeating and reaffirming the dogma is a way to cope with that.
you see similar behavior in other contexts, like when talking about trannies doing some disgusting shit they will constantly say "i have nothing against trans people, trans women are women, i love the LGBTQ+ community" or when confronted with shitskin criminality they go "i am not racist, diversity is our strength, i love our multicultural society" etc

 

[Vampirella]

This sounds exactly like someone who went into poly would do: take someone out for coffee and drama dump all their pain onto someone they share a tangential connection with, much like their love life. She needs a therapist but she's a tard and chose you. Sorry that you sat through that but you got a funny story to share now, and hopefully a decent coffee too.

Knew someone that worked with a person that was poly. He said this happened a lot. His coworker would call him up or stop him at lunch to dump on him about how awful her relationships were (she said she was bi or pan or whatever it's called now so she dated whatever). Every time he tried to talk to her about work she'd just start talking about how she was having problems with this relationship or that one or how she got turned down by someone for being poly. My friend was so happy when she was fired and he didn't have to hear about her drama any more.

 

[AMHOLIO]

Every time he tried to talk to her about work she'd just start talking about how she was having problems with this relationship or that one or how she got turned down by someone for being poly. My friend was so happy when she was fired and he didn't have to hear about her drama any more.

Thank god. You'd think she'd be nice enough to let him talk if she did that multiple times. I'm surprised and glad she didn't ask for him to join the polycule.

 

[postfeetpls]

She kept breaking off her narrative to say shit like "there is nothing wrong with polyamory, I think alternative lifestyles are valid and have a lot of value".

Lol at these delusional people.
>This whole thing feels wrong on so many levels, I feel terrible, he makes me feel terrible. I can barely stand the humiliation he puts me through every time we're together. BUT, I can't judge the alternative lifestyle it's heckin valid and has lots of heckin value tee hee see how progressive I am

she wasn't allowed to approach him during the evening or talk to him because he was bringing his other poly girl along and would be spending the night with girl number 2

LMAO "you stay here dog, make no sounds and don't ruin my evening while I do Stacy"
No matter the gender, I feel bad when people treat other people like this. But then again
>I think alternative lifestyles are valid and have a lot of value".
sounds like that's exactly how she wants to be treated.

 

[Lady Bizness]

Lol at these delusional people.
>This whole thing feels wrong on so many levels, I feel terrible, he makes me feel terrible. I can barely stand the humiliation he puts me through every time we're together. BUT, I can't judge the alternative lifestyle it's heckin valid and has lots of heckin value tee hee see how progressive I am


LMAO "you stay here dog, make no sounds and don't ruin my evening while I do Stacy"
No matter the gender, I feel bad when people treat other people like this. But then again
>I think alternative lifestyles are valid and have a lot of value".
sounds like that's exactly how she wants to be treated.

I'm glad I got through my dating phase of life before the same ol' shit got recognized as an oppressed lifestyle.

 

[JoseRaulChupacabra]

This shit is all so weird. There are promiscuous people out there who are just promiscuous then go about resuming their lives like every other person.

Then, there's this crowd... who make free and open sex the absolute center of their lifestyle and outward image. All the ones I know that do this IRL have confessed to having been abused in some form (mostly sexual, go figure) as children/teenagers.

Neither person is a disgusting ham planet like most of the redditors posted here. The girls is a very attractive petite brunette in her mid 20s. I'm not a woman or a homo so can't judge but I'd say the guy was pretty good looking, athletic build, tall and in his late 30s/early 40s.

>late 30s/early 40s
>still polyam
Yeah, that relationship is going nowhere.

 

[postfeetpls]

who make free and open sex the absolute center of their lifestyle and outward image

Exactly. These people are just as annoying as faggots and trannies whose whole persona revolves around being queer or whatever. And when somebody doesn't give a shit about their "alternative lifestyle" or doesn't wanna be a part of someone's harem, they're "full of prejudice" and "bigoted" and whatnot. Sucks that there's a word for it now and it's heckin valid and deserves respect.

I still remember, many harvests ago, my first encounter with such an "alternative lifestyle". I was 19-20 and was into this girl from uni, we slept together a few times, went out together, she would call me all the time, the whole relationship package. And there I am, young naive me, just out of my long highschool relationship thinking we're together. At least it seems like it? Yeah, nah. Turns out she's in this sort of relationship with a few other guys, when I asked her wtf she simply explained that she just "likes sleeping around and probably has feelings for all of us, idk..but we're having good time right".

Back then I had no idea this was called an alternative lifestyle and was valid with a lot of value, she didn't either. She called it "good times" or "finding herself" and I called it quits when presented with the details of the situation. And nowadays it's the center of some people's lives. Mindblowing.

 

[Pink Gooze]

Hope this isn’t powerleveling, since it isn’t about me directly, but just in case…

Spoiler: Powerleveling

I found out one of my cousins is in a poly relationship. He’s with some wiccan chick and her husband is in the military. They post about it all over Facebook, which the husband is also on, so I’m sure he‘s aware of it while he’s off at basic. She isn’t hideous looking or anything, but she’s not exactly pretty either. The face piercings really dont do her any favors.

Funny thing is both my cousin and the husband are clearly the cucks. Only a matter of time before she gets a bull and dumps them both. Also it seems like she got with my cousin right when her husband went to basic.

I‘m not terribly surprised though. This shit happens when you’ve been psychologically neutered by your mother already. They‘re also bums who keep trying to go to his dad and get free meals out of him and his wife. I’m quite sure what money they do have comes from the husband.

I feel bad for him because, frankly, he’s just not okay mentally and never has been. For reasons that are too specific to go into.

 

[Niggs Monaghan]

Hope this isn’t powerleveling, since it isn’t about me directly, but just in case…

Spoiler: Powerleveling

I found out one of my cousins is in a poly relationship. He’s with some wiccan chick and her husband is in the military. They post about it all over Facebook, which the husband is also on, so I’m sure he‘s aware of it while he’s off at basic. She isn’t hideous looking or anything, but she’s not exactly pretty either. The face piercings really dont do her any favors.

Funny thing is both my cousin and the husband are clearly the cucks. Only a matter of time before she gets a bull and dumps them both. Also it seems like she got with my cousin right when her husband went to basic.

I‘m not terribly surprised though. This shit happens when you’ve been psychologically neutered by your mother already. They‘re also bums who keep trying to go to his dad and get free meals out of him and his wife. I’m quite sure what money they do have comes from the husband.

I feel bad for him because, frankly, he’s just not okay mentally and never has been. For reasons that are too specific to go into.

Being an army wife is the hardest job in the world, I hear. Heh.

 

[Unnecessary Surgery Land]

Did anyone ever read this pile of bullshit? I read it aloud to my husband a while ago and I was laughing my anus off as I did.

Reddit - Dive into anything

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Spoiler: long

Child of poly parents, grieving my four beautiful parents today​

I want to start by saying I'm not poly, but my parents are (were). I was raised by a closed quad, in an unassuming
I had an idyllic childhood with four amazing parents - who all loved each other so deeply, I use to think to myself the sheer amount of luck it is to find one person you want to spend a lifetime with, let alone three.
My parents met in the 80's. One of my dad's was a busboy, the other were was a firefighter. They were drinking buddies. They met my mothers - an aviation mechanic and a airline gate agent at a bar owned by my uncle and one of my dads worked at. Their relationship started organically, and the four of them fell in love during the summer of 1991.
They would marry in August 1, 1992 - first in a joint wedding as two seperate straight couples for the show of larger society - and again on 9/2/92 in a small ceremony in the backyard of the duplex they purchased - the four of them participating in a handfasting with four hands only four a few close family members, coworkers and friends. My
I have seven brothers, my mothers gave birth to four kids each. A varying 'combination' of biological parents (genetic testing when we were all adults would determine all four possible 'combinations' existed).
To the outside world, we were two seperate families. Eventually we left NYC for a southern state. My mom and dad who were legally my parents would change their last name - and the last name of myself and four of my brothers to that of my other father to try to unify out family.
My fathers would go on to lie and say they were half-brothers to explain the close relationship and the names (which was actually pretty traumatic for them because they very deeply in love, and always 'hubby' to one another inside our house).
Everyday I had to say four of my brothers were my cousins. In public I had to call my own mother "aunt" and my own father "uncle." Maintaining the lie was hard - but it was necessary to protect the jobs of my parents - who worked at the same airline for 35 years each (the airline I work for now). One of my dads (the bus boy turned stay at home dad) went on to be a stay at home parent, and my other dad went on to be a battalion chief at a fire station in our city.
I am the second oldest of eight - I'm 28. My youngest brother is 19. We buried both our mothers in July 2020, They were both 61, healthy, we lost them both to covid. We lost our dad (the firefighter) in January of this year from complications of a stroke he had in December. He'd just retired. He was 55.
We buried our youngest parent today. We lost him last week to an overdose. He was 49. It was the first funeral we were able to have for any of our parents due to covid. My brothers and I just were honest in our eulogies. All eight of us spoke. No context for those who thought our fathers were brothers, and I don't really feel bad. I think he'd still be here if the world was a little kinder to poly families. He didn't leave a note, but he left behind some journals and doodles. I haven't read them, but my older brother painted a vague picture of our father who was grieving all three of his spouses, and not being able to share his grief with his friends because of fear of judgement.
I don't get this world. My parents died without ever just being able to be four people in love, in public. I'm grieving them, but I'm also grieving this beautiful, deep, special love they shared that the world couldn't accept. I loved them, and I am so lucky to have had four parents who were so in love. my parents gave me an idyllic life, and I had a wonderful family and it kills me that they had to lie just to keep my brothers and I safe. My heart breaks for them, but also for me.
What could my life have been if the world could have accepted queer and poly relationships thirty years ago? (not to say they do today)
We wouldn't have had to lied to teachers and to friends. Having poly parents never fucked up my brothers and I - we're all very normal, well adjusted adults with lives of our own. It was the world that made my childhood hard. I had four people to teach me about the world from four very different perspectives.

 

[ToroidalBoat]

some wiccan chick

Seems there sure are a number of rather interesting followers of Wicca...

 

[Alcoholism]

Did anyone ever read this pile of bullshit? I read it aloud to my husband a while ago and I was laughing my anus off as I did.

In Rural China, where the male/female population is way out of wonk because of Communist social experiments, multiple brothers will all marry the same woman. They go to bed with her one by one, tossing a load off in her. However, only the oldest brother is ever "the father" to any kid, regardless of who actually sired the little nong because it makes family politics easier.

Now, imagine this: some illiterate soybean dirt farmers from the fourth world are gang banging a woman and have managed to figure out the politics behind this whole familia structure when these high falooting NY honkies can't even decide on what to call themselves.