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We already have that tbh. That's why all these people keep making up all these stupid labels and "identities" so they don't have to be normal.
r/polyamory
- Thread starter Crunchy Leaf
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Everyhing monogamous hetero white male and aything tangentially related to that is toxic. I think that is the rule.
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What do you think coercive heteronormality is? Or at least a modern translation of it is easily toxic heterosexuality.
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I've seen some people get mad at the word normal. They say that if you identify something as normal that means that something can be out of the norm, and that's like saying it's not valid. That's why things like cis and other labels have popped up. That's why they say "You're valid" and not "You're normal", normal means there is a standard.
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It serves a similar purpose when lesbiancels whinge about all straight women secretly being gay/ better off gay, or when plain old regular incels whinge about all women being attracted to Chad and Tyrone only- mono people are off limits to them, so they cope with the idea that the mono people are lying so they can pretend more people want to fuck them than there actually is.
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'I'm such a great sexual partner, totally open minded, NOT AT ALL like those cishet white mayuls you love. You should date me'
t. incel
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I have to constantly reassure my partner and myself that we love each other and won't leave for something better. Could something be wrong with this setup? Nah, must be those damn gremlins.
What, are these people trying to emulate the buddha or something? Why are they so determined to pretend they have no particular desires for themselves and aren't in pain and doubt all the time?
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When you put it that way, polyamory could be seen as a type of emotional and mental abuse. People buy into for fear of looking like a closed minded bigot, case in point using words like toxic monogamy. The same cycle of abuse can be seen with spouses of troons. Love me as I am and don't leave me, or I'll call you a closed minded Nazi.
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Wow check that chick's post history. Her life is a mess! For one she was raped the first time she had sex(or so she claims):
And now she has a kid(not by the rapist) and is suicidal:
On top of that her current bf(the boy's father I think) is an asshole too:
I couldn't find anything else about her poly situation but I think I know the reason why she's doing it somewhat. Pretty awful situation to put a kid in the middle of though.
Wallace
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Why do you think it's so popular in SocJus circles? It's the same tactic.
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Both situations are quite literally emotional blackmail. I really don't see how any sane, mentally and emotionally balanced people who become polyamorous or troon out at the expense of their partner can be blind to how blatantly inconsiderate and self-indulgent it all is.
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There's no such thing as a sane, emotionally-balanced troon. Or poly, for that matter. Anyone who troons out or gets into the poly lifestyle has already gone off the deep end.
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She needs therapy, not Reddit.
Hux
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And for the cases that have cases of being both of those, you treat that shit like a bomb ready to go off: Run. Run your ass off.
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Welcome to being the side piece.
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"relationship agreement" 
i wonder if they mean something like an actual (unenforceable) contract? i've met morons who endorse exactly that. it seems like a way for shitty people to get away with shitty behaviour: when you're about to do something shitty, you can usually tell that it'll hurt your partner, but 1) the contract can't possibly cover every situation, 2) as evidenced by this thread, people don't know how they'll feel about something in practice rather than theory. consequently, you can hurt the person you're with, then make them look like the bad guy when they try to enforce a reasonable boundary you didn't """agree""" to
i wonder if they mean something like an actual (unenforceable) contract? i've met morons who endorse exactly that. it seems like a way for shitty people to get away with shitty behaviour: when you're about to do something shitty, you can usually tell that it'll hurt your partner, but 1) the contract can't possibly cover every situation, 2) as evidenced by this thread, people don't know how they'll feel about something in practice rather than theory. consequently, you can hurt the person you're with, then make them look like the bad guy when they try to enforce a reasonable boundary you didn't """agree""" to
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Amber the Hedgehog
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’Couple privilege’ is one of the funniest things to complain. Cheese, your partner puts values higher their long term partner and relationship rather thang a new fling and wants keep their routines, how about that? They want to protect existing relationships and give some control about sleeping around to their partner for their comfort, sanity and safety? They also aren’t that intrest helping you out and listen your problems in a deeper level? It’s almost like they mostly want just some extra sex and fun on the side. It’s honestly not that complicated. There are two main types that seem to want open their relationships, those that have problems with their existing relationship but are too cowardly to leave it without new relationships and those that like their existing relationship but want some extra sexual attention. That’s what you choose to deal with that when you got in to poly.
Also I don’t think it’s sexist that women have more trouble with couple dynamics than men do. Guys are a lot more cool with casual sex only than girls are. Women tend to be needier, wanting long talks and dates, where as guy is good with slam-bam-thank-you-ma’am. Poly just isn’t really easy way to get your emotional needs met. Sexual fantasies maybe as more highly sexually motivated people gravitate towards the live style. Emotional stuff needs time, commitment and other resources that get increasingly thinly spread with more people.
Also I don’t think it’s sexist that women have more trouble with couple dynamics than men do. Guys are a lot more cool with casual sex only than girls are. Women tend to be needier, wanting long talks and dates, where as guy is good with slam-bam-thank-you-ma’am. Poly just isn’t really easy way to get your emotional needs met. Sexual fantasies maybe as more highly sexually motivated people gravitate towards the live style. Emotional stuff needs time, commitment and other resources that get increasingly thinly spread with more people.
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