r/polyamory

[Bad Take Crucifier]

I question the ethics of any married couple who’d restructure the family unit in order to accommodate their sexual appetite for extramarital sexual partners; the thought of inviting mommy’s boyfriend(s) and/or daddy’s girlfriend(s) to live with them is morally repugnant to me. Even introducing them as “family friends” seems wrong. Children are a lot more perceptive than we give them credit for.

This is the main reason why so many people find it repugnant: To do it, you must value sex more than parenting your child.


Can't remember the last time I heard "yeah my parents cheated and fucked around but I turned out fine because they always focused on me" from those people whose parents divorced.

 

[Crunchy Leaf]

What's a nesting partner

it means ‘this is the person I live with and dump the kids on while I go have fun’.

A child is most at risk of sexual abuse from their mother’s male partners who are not their biological father.

 

[TitanWest]

"Poly relationships are normal and can be just as functional as monogamous relationships!"
*includes a whole list of relationship rules that monogamous partners don't have to worry about*

 

[Bad Take Crucifier]

it means ‘this is the person I live with and dump the kids on while I go have fun’.

A child is most at risk of sexual abuse from their mother’s male partners who are not their biological father.

Over the years I've heard stories from multiple girls raised by single moms about being molested/raped by mom's boyfriend, so I completely believe this.

 

[DumbDude42]

it means ‘this is the person I live with and dump the kids on while I go have fun’.

A child is most at risk of sexual abuse from their mother’s male partners who are not their biological father.

Over the years I've heard stories from multiple girls raised by single moms about being molested/raped by mom's boyfriend, so I completely believe this.

yep this is true

it comes down to primal instinct. you raising another man's kids means your own genes are getting cucked out of existence, so the immediate response is to kill those other kids and replace them with your own. this happens in other mammals too, male lions for example do this: when they take a female from another male (by killing or driving off the other male) they first kill any existing cubs the female has.

 

[Bunny Tracks]

yep this is true

it comes down to primal instinct. you raising another man's kids means your own genes are getting cucked out of existence, so the immediate response is to kill those other kids and replace them with your own. this happens in other mammals too, male lions for example do this: when they take a female from another male (by killing or driving off the other male) they first kill any existing cubs the female has.

Yeah, I'm pretty sure humans have evolved passed their primal instincts, and anyone who tries to use them as an excuse is just a shitty person.

 

[DumbDude42]

Yeah, I'm pretty sure humans have evolved passed their primal instincts, and anyone who tries to use them as an excuse is just a shitty person.

a spiecies can't ever "evolve past primal instincts" my dude
this shit applies on such a fundamental level, it'd take millions of years of selection pressure to eliminate from the gene pool

 

[Bunny Tracks]

a spiecies can't ever "evolve past primal instincts" my dude
this shit applies on such a fundamental level, it'd take millions of years of selection pressure to eliminate from the gene pool

I mean, it's not like humans also have complex thoughts and emotions that explain their behavior, but okay.

 

[BubbleButt]

The people who convinced my best friend and his wife to consider polyamory are apparently getting a divorce over an argument over their own polyamorous relationshit. Found that hilarious.

 

[DumbDude42]

I mean, it's not like humans also have complex thoughts and emotions that explain their behavior, but okay.

no amount of complex thought can negate a basic instinct like jealousy that is hard-wired into peoples brains
im not trying to justify or excuse abuse here, but provide an explanation why step-fathers are so much more likely to become abusive towards their step-kids than other men in their lives are

 

[NoReturn]

I mean, it's not like humans also have complex thoughts and emotions that explain their behavior, but okay.

There is a tendency is separate mind and body, human and animal, but that's just not consistent with reality. You can't out-think hunger any more than you can make yourself consciously aware of things that are happening on a subconscious level. Things like scent a huge (thus the danger of marrying a man you met while on birth control) in how we feel about other humans, but it's not like we're walking around sniffing the armpits of everyone we meet, nor are we even aware half the time that we're even smelling anything at all.

 

[Bunny Tracks]

no amount of complex thought can negate a basic instinct like jealousy that is hard-wired into peoples brains
im not trying to justify or excuse abuse here, but provide an explanation why step-fathers are so much more likely to become abusive towards their step-kids than other men in their lives are

I get what you mean, but I still think humans should be held to a higher standard. It's natural to be jealous, but it shouldn't lead you to abusing your spouse's children just because they're not yours. Anyone who does that shouldn't be breeding in the first place.

 

[Bad Take Crucifier]

While I do think a lot of crime is assholes and sociopaths, some humans are as dumb as animals. I have complex thoughts and emotions which I guess some people are incapable of and this horrifies me.

 

[ComedyEnjoyer]

I mean, it's not like humans also have complex thoughts and emotions that explain their behavior, but okay.

Literally 100 percent of your thoughts and emotions are emergent results of your instincts processing your surroundings.

 

[Bad Take Crucifier]

Literally 100 percent of your thoughts and emotions are emergent results of your instincts processing your surroundings.

No, most of our thoughts and how we handle our emotions are the result of having huge brains that contain sectors for strong, long term memory. Humans perform mostly learned actions. Other animals either don't have these parts developed in their brains, or they're much smaller (like the frontal lobe).

"Instinctual" means the action doesn't require previous experiences or learning for the animal to start doing it. You don't know what "instinct" means.

 

[Nuns with guns]

The people who convinced my best friend and his wife to consider polyamory are apparently getting a divorce over an argument over their own polyamorous relationshit. Found that hilarious.

Wow, it lasted a year exactly.

This always happens. I don't understand how they don't see it coming. As somebody said a few pages ago, your partner saying they want to open the relationship means everything's over. The only way I can see poly couples work is if there's no love involved or if they're autistic enough to don't react when they're getting cucked.

 

[Crunchy Leaf]

It’s also that someone who wants to abuse children is more likely to go out with someone who has them, just as they are also more likely to become a teacher or counselor or priest so they can have access.

I feel like gay men are marginally more likely to have successful throuples, but I also think that while gay men are way more likely to have an open relationship they’re overwhelmingly not poly.

 

[hot hot leg]

It's natural to be jealous, but it shouldn't lead you to abusing your spouse's children just because they're not yours. Anyone who does that shouldn't be breeding in the first place.

Uh... You don't have to breed to abuse kids that aren't yours. A lot of these guys are, in fact, not breeding.

 

[Bad Take Crucifier]

Uh... You don't have to breed to abuse kids that aren't yours. A lot of these guys are, in fact, not breeding.

mfw there's still the small portion of these men who are in fact molesting their own children

y'all mind if I just on this page in advance?

 

[Crunchy Leaf]

Also even if there is no abuse, it’s not good for adults to be in and out of children’s lives. It creates insecure attachment. This is why divorced people are recommended to not introduce new partners to the kids for at least a year.