r/polyamory

[haterosexual]

Hard to say because... well gays. There is more than enough evidence that gays didn't stop fucking despite far reaching condemnation and potentially deadly consequences, but they sertainly kept it more secret. I'm sure some more risk averse men didn't have any relations but many didn't care beyond not getting caught.

HIV incidence is a good proxy for gay male fucking rates, and the evidence shows a steady decline since the epidemic began in the early 80s, albeit more dramatically among some gay subpopulations (whites) and in some regions (California) than others (blacks, the South). This suggests that gay male fucking rates have declined, or that gay men are fucking more responsibly. (Both explanations qualify as a positive response to “societal pressure.”) So, no, there is not “more than enough evidence” to show that gay men “didn’t stop fucking” despite “potentially deadly consequences.” (Obviously, I’m talking about the U.S. Trends likely differ between developed countries, illustrating why it’s scientifically inaccurate and also retarded to generalize about a transnational population with one trait in common.)

 

[Amber the Hedgehog]

HIV incidence is a good proxy for gay male fucking rates, and the evidence shows a steady decline since the epidemic began in the early 80s, albeit more dramatically among some gay subpopulations (whites) and in some regions (California) than others (blacks, the South). This suggests that gay male fucking rates have declined, or that gay men are fucking more responsibly. (Both explanations qualify as a positive response to “societal pressure.”) So, no, there is not “more than enough evidence” to show that gay men “didn’t stop fucking” despite “potentially deadly consequences.” (Obviously, I’m talking about the U.S. Trends likely differ between developed countries, illustrating why it’s scientifically inaccurate and also retarded to generalize about a transnational population with one trait in common.)

I wasn't talking about HIV but lynching and other violence that people did and in some parts of the world still do to gays. My point wasn't that gays are horrible people who shouldn't be sticking their dick in guy butts but that negative social presure isn't that reliable to stop sex. I was simply comparing two different sexual behaviors and how social acceptability affected to one of them becouse the previous poster wondered if hearing about poly and it's social acceptability affected sexual behavior in significant manner.

 

[Fapcop]

I wasn't talking about HIV but lynching and other violence that people did and in some parts of the world still do to gays.

That’s frankly just homo propaganda. (“We MUST be out and proud! The alternative to gay pride parades isn’t gay people quietly and discretely being gay but LYNCHINGS!”)

Sure, gay people can get killed, primarily in the Caribbean and places in Africa today.

But as for the Western world, it has been pretty safe for homos for well... Centuries.

Even in the late 19th century, nobody risked their life being gay. (At most just an asskicking, if you were too eager to proselytize faggoty with the neighborhoods kids.)

As long as you kept it discrete and on the down-low, few people were even prosecuted under the buggery laws that were in effect then.

 

[DumbDude42]

If she needs to get off sexually, that's not necessarily something to be ashamed of. It's just being human. But you know, maybe get some counseling with your husband to get professional help and/or learn how to "take care" of yourself solo. If you know what I mean.

if she needs to get off sexually she's supposed to do it with her fucking husband lol
if vanilla doesn't do it for her anymore, talk him into doing whatever kink she's into. if he can't keep it up make him take viagra or send him to a doctor to put him on TRT, whatever. make him lose weight and start strength training, that helps too.

but in my opinion the step from "my sexual needs aren't being met..." to "...so i'm gonna fuck random strangers" simply isn't acceptable

 

[unclogged]

I once knew a person that was poly and they had an honest to god flowchart showing how their relationship with all of their partners were and I can't help but think that all of these people into it have one sitting somewhere

 

[Fapcop]

Poly guy meets non-poly woman. They get monogamously married. 20 years later the wife wants to try polyamory, they find a third wheel-sorry-woman, and all is well for six months.

Then the wife changes her mind and wants to go back to a monogamous marriage.

Husband consults r/polyamory... Who mainly seem to want to bitch about how it’s always the third woman who gets dumped instead of the wife.

One polyamorists even suggests that he dumps his wife of 20 years, and continues with the poly chick.

Christ, these people!

 

[Bad Take Crucifier]

So their propaganda is "poly isn't a threat to marriage" but as soon as someone wants to stop being poly, they suggest ruining a marriage. Wife was there first, but how unfair it is to the girlfriend! "Just leave your wife bro"! Because clearly someone loving you is a good reason for divorce.

Can't believe the naivety of that "don't make the mistake of dating monogamous people in the future" as well. I'm assuming they must be at least in their forties, so good luck with not just dying alone.

He also fully admits his wife felt guilted into poly, and that he feels like he's hurting her by doing something he only wants to do. r/poly bitches about the wife, you'd think they would at least offer advice to make it more fun for her. You'd think the logically consistent thing would be "the wife just needs to get a boyfriend" or something.

 

[PrincessHomura]

Honestly, the most chilling part to me was how he just dropped the fact that their kids are dead like a brief footnote... I mean, at that point, why even mention it at all?

 

[Enoby Way]

I just find it so odd that he is asking for advice on whether or not to continue polyamory in this subreddit. The answer will always be in favour of polyamory.

Also, an update on my friend in the stable poly relationship. She told me the entire polyamory sub absolutely horrifies her and she worries that polyamory has become a trend, especially among, and I quote her here, "the kind of people who shouldn't be trying polyamory".

I wonder if she is a kiwi...

 

[BubbleButt]

Polyamory has absolutely become a trend.

 

[Vampirella]

Polyamory has absolutely become a trend.

It's just the Free Love movement with a new coat of paint and a lot more rules.

 

[Fapcop]

So their propaganda is "poly isn't a threat to marriage" but as soon as someone wants to stop being poly, they suggest ruining a marriage. Wife was there first, but how unfair it is to the girlfriend! "Just leave your wife bro"! Because clearly someone loving you is a good reason for divorce.

Can't believe the naivety of that "don't make the mistake of dating monogamous people in the future" as well. I'm assuming they must be at least in their forties, so good luck with not just dying alone.

He also fully admits his wife felt guilted into poly, and that he feels like he's hurting her by doing something he only wants to do. r/poly bitches about the wife, you'd think they would at least offer advice to make it more fun for her. You'd think the logically consistent thing would be "the wife just needs to get a boyfriend" or something.

I loved the hostility that some of them showed towards the fact that he was “thinking mono” or whatever. Like: “How dare you prioritize your partner of 20 years over some floozy you met a few months ago?! WTF?!”

I just find it so odd that he is asking for advice on whether or not to continue polyamory in this subreddit. The answer will always be in favour of polyamory.

Also, an update on my friend in the stable poly relationship. She told me the entire polyamory sub absolutely horrifies her and she worries that polyamory has become a trend, especially among, and I quote her here, "the kind of people who shouldn't be trying polyamory".

I wonder if she is a kiwi...

Good for her/him.

There are probably a few people for whom polyamory can work. (And Ill bet you that in most cases they sorta stumbled into it.)

But for the most part (and especially when it comes to the r/polyamory folks!) it’s just cake-eaters, emotionally immature/damaged people and people with various personality disorders.

The last couple of days over there, I keep seeing posts about “the poly flag”. Because OF FUCKING COURSE poly
isn’t as much fun if it’s just another way to organize your sexual relationships.

Oh no... Gotta have to go all in on the attention-whoring, become part of the LGTBQ and have their own little flag they can wave at Pride parade.

(Then again, Pride is basically just a parade of obnoxious attention whores these days, ever since “asexuals”, troons and polys have joined.)


Aaaanyways. Saw a funny post there that isn’t strictly Poly related. File this one under: “Stuff you can make your girlfriend believe, if she’s naive enough.”




“Sorry babe, we gotta do it raw! I wish I could wear a condom but I’m totally allergic to them! I instantly lose my erection when wearing one, you see!”

 

[Fliddaroonie]

>"Computer guy"
>Romance "not a priority"
>"Being romantic? In order to make my wife actually horny? Seems weird, why can't I just HAVE SEX."
> I should not have to be a sexy man.
>"oh shit why is my wife putting in romance effort for other men? She never wore lingerie for me after my 8 years of not taking her to dinner?!"
>"please, help"

lol this guy is a fucking autistic nerd, learn to just go down on your wife or some shit, you fucking nerd. Other women will not want you, fix your marriage before it's too late neeeeerrrrrrd

Shoulder and foot rubs. Seriously. That's the goddamn ticket. She'll be begging to suck his cock after a good session with some baby oil and her tense shoulders.

 

[Enoby Way]

I loved the hostility that some of them showed towards the fact that he was “thinking mono” or whatever. Like: “How dare you prioritize your partner of 20 years over some floozy you met a few months ago?! WTF?!”



Good for her/him.

There are probably a few people for whom polyamory can work. (And Ill bet you that in most cases they sorta stumbled into it.)

But for the most part (and especially when it comes to the r/polyamory folks!) it’s just cake-eaters, emotionally immature/damaged people and people with various personality disorders.

The last couple of days over there, I keep seeing posts about “the poly flag”. Because OF FUCKING COURSE poly
isn’t as much fun if it’s just another way to organize your sexual relationships.

Oh no... Gotta have to go all in on the attention-whoring, become part of the LGTBQ and have their own little flag they can wave at Pride parade.

(Then again, Pride is basically just a parade of obnoxious attention whores these days, ever since “asexuals”, troons and polys have joined.)


Aaaanyways. Saw a funny post there that isn’t strictly Poly related. File this one under: “Stuff you can make your girlfriend believe, if she’s naive enough.”


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“Sorry babe, we gotta do it raw! I wish I could wear a condom but I’m totally allergic to them! I instantly lose my erection when wearing one, you see!”

Spoiler: relevant Islamic content but also tmi

i actually dated a guy who could get it up just fine but once the condom went on 9/10 times he lost his erection within minutes. He just didn't have enough nerve sensitivity when the condom went on (and no he wasn't circumcised). Super genuine guy, too, and I've never met any other guy with his attitude towards sex: he enjoyed sex if it was happening, was definitely able to get it up-- but he didn't really seem to care if he wasn't having sex very often, or if he didn't finish. His dick just was not a motivating factor in his life. Very weird for me because it was just the opposite of everything you are conditioned to believe about men. He told me once if I *had* to put a label on it he would be asexual.

So I do believe that there are genuinely people out there for whom condoms can cause ED. However this guy was incredibly communicative about it and treated it with distance like a medical issue he had that was disclosure beforehand, and he was still willing to try and wear condoms to make me comfortable, he just warned me it was probably not gonna work. He did not approach this with the desperation of someone who just wants to rawdog it, nor by trying to use it as an excuse.

 

[Blarmed&Dangerous]

Spoiler: relevant Islamic content but also tmi

i actually dated a guy who could get it up just fine but once the condom went on 9/10 times he lost his erection within minutes. He just didn't have enough nerve sensitivity when the condom went on (and no he wasn't circumcised). Super genuine guy, too, and I've never met any other guy with his attitude towards sex: he enjoyed sex if it was happening, was definitely able to get it up-- but he didn't really seem to care if he wasn't having sex very often, or if he didn't finish. His dick just was not a motivating factor in his life. Very weird for me because it was just the opposite of everything you are conditioned to believe about men. He told me once if I *had* to put a label on it he would be asexual.

So I do believe that there are genuinely people out there for whom condoms can cause ED. However this guy was incredibly communicative about it and treated it with distance like a medical issue he had that was disclosure beforehand, and he was still willing to try and wear condoms to make me comfortable, he just warned me it was probably not gonna work. He did not approach this with the desperation of someone who just wants to rawdog it, nor by trying to use it as an excuse.

oh hey it's me

 

[Bad Take Crucifier]

Spoiler: relevant Islamic content but also tmi

i actually dated a guy who could get it up just fine but once the condom went on 9/10 times he lost his erection within minutes. He just didn't have enough nerve sensitivity when the condom went on (and no he wasn't circumcised). Super genuine guy, too, and I've never met any other guy with his attitude towards sex: he enjoyed sex if it was happening, was definitely able to get it up-- but he didn't really seem to care if he wasn't having sex very often, or if he didn't finish. His dick just was not a motivating factor in his life. Very weird for me because it was just the opposite of everything you are conditioned to believe about men. He told me once if I *had* to put a label on it he would be asexual.

So I do believe that there are genuinely people out there for whom condoms can cause ED. However this guy was incredibly communicative about it and treated it with distance like a medical issue he had that was disclosure beforehand, and he was still willing to try and wear condoms to make me comfortable, he just warned me it was probably not gonna work. He did not approach this with the desperation of someone who just wants to rawdog it, nor by trying to use it as an excuse.

You wrote that with one hand, didn't you?

 

[Enoby Way]

You wrote that with one hand, didn't you?

I'll never tell.

 

[Lemmingwise]

i actually dated a guy who could get it up just fine but once the condom went on 9/10 times he lost his erection within minutes. He just didn't have enough nerve sensitivity when the condom went on

His body was intelligent enough to know it was being fooled.

Same with women that manage to get pregnant despite IUD.

Nature finds a way.

 

[Big Nasty]

This comment was originally about a specific BDSM subset but I think it applies to the poly community as well:

"Most of the women look like wrecked shithouses, yet they're worshipped as goddesses by the most miserable and pathetic submissives you could imagine. "

 

[Bad Take Crucifier]

"Most of the women look like wrecked shithouses, yet they're worshipped as goddesses by the most miserable and pathetic submissives you could imagine. "

Sounds like Tory and the 4 Cucks