Just catching up with the thread.
On the surrogacy question, I remember having a discussion with my wife many years ago, before we were married, on what the course of action would be if we were to find that we were incapable of having children. We were both in full agreement that, 1.) if we marry then we are making a lifelong commitment to reproductive exclusivity, and 2.) that if one of us were infertile then it was the will of Allah that neither of us produce a child. We would adopt.
Thankfully that wasn’t the case, but something about reproductive tech didn’t set well with either of us. Surrogacy, IVF, sperm/egg donation…it all just feels anti-human. It commodifies human life, encourages human experimentation (selling sperm and eggs to places like China to do God knows what with), destroys viable embryos (religion aside, there is a debate regarding the ethics of purposely creating unique DNA only to destroy it), and leaves children with deep existential problems when they discover their origins (look at Nick Fuentes, who’s very existence goes against his espoused views, something he undoubtedly ponders over whilst sitting in his mother’s basement).
I get how hard it is to not be able to have your own biological kids, I really do, but at some point human selfishness shouldn’t override human dignity.