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True, I just don't like this all or nothing stance when it comes to stuff like that. To me there's two extremes.They exist, but if a redditor claims to have an abusive family, there is a 99% chance that the "abuse" is Mom refusing to cook tendies.
The abusive family that pushes their kid out while also trying to sabotage any chance of them properly doing so, making sure they have no financial backup/help finding a place or transportation, which will result in their kid staying in usually a lot of unsafe places and with suspicious people. At worst there's an uncle bad-touch who literally makes the idea of sleeping under a bridge sound appealing. This will usually result in a child that might mature faster and have a better understanding of how to deal with the world, and maybe have a good work ethic. Or at worst they will end up killed by someone else or themselves.
Or you have the indulgent family who doesn't care if their kids stay with them at 30 and will never ask or bat an eye to why their child is spending more money on anime figurines and Funko than investing in stock or learning a skill. This will result in an adult who's mentally 12, has no social skills (even if they have a friend group) and no drive or ambition to do anything nor empathy for their fellow man. They will continue to have the ability to pursue any avenue they want in life but won't take it because their life is too comfortable.
Neither are decent parenting and should be shunned. Unfortunately those seem to be the most popular ways of doing it in the West.
I think the best thing a family can do is make sure their kid at least has a part time job that requires physical labor and occassionally hound them on saving/investing in a future, meanwhile encouraging them to actively pursue their main goals in life everyday, then letting them out but being prepared to let them back when the world occasionally kicks their ass. I understand why most kids don't want to move out though. The actual housing opportunities and stabile financial future for most people now are very much dwindling away. I just think they should spend that valuable time to become really great at whatever they want to do or at least gain an education/trade. But that's not really something most kids who have the luxury to live at home really want to do.