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My roommate is trans (ftm) and its giving us some problems
yeah the title looks bad, but hear me out
I'm a sophomore right now and due to a variety of unfortunate reasons, I (M) was placed with two other strangers in a one room triple. Things did not start off so well when we got our roommate assignments over the summer and I tried to contact them both over email trying to get to know the but they never responded. Anyways last week school starts again, we meet and devin (fake name) informs us that he's trans and that he had some rules that we had to follow. Which is totally fine! Being trans is really hard and it seems like residential services were unwilling to provide a single, its an unfortunate situation. (it should be known that i am a straight cis man, but I said i was comfortable with roommates of different gender identities because my 2 moms wanted me to). Devin's main rule was no changing in the room. Like not even a little bit. He also "would prefer" that we exit the room when he's changing because the private gender neutral bathroom is on another floor and he doesnt want to use the men's bathroom (why tho???). My other roommate has been 100% cool with this and has been totally fine with the rules, but he's told me he doesnt love the rules either.
We had an issue yesterday where I came back from a run visibly drenched and exhausted and changed my shirt while facing the wall. Devin gets really upset, which suprised me as i was only half-aware he was even there. I apologize and say it wont happen again but now I'm worried that I can't handle a full year of this. its just generally a hassle to go to the shower (and potentially wait in line for a shower) every single time i need to change, esp for a guy like me who does not care about who sees his balls any day of the week. Im not trying to be a roommate nudist, I just feel like its not an insane ask to have someone just turn around if they care that much when youre changing in a room with them. Oh yeah did I mention that he tattled to the RA about some beverages I had in the closet, and also goes to bed before 1030? (why he was placed with me is beyond my comprehension)
I feel kinda stuck. I feel bad asking to move just because my roommate is trans, and I also dont really want to deal with the optics of that (especially with my parents), but I also feel like I would have a better time somewhere else. I feel extra shitty because my other roommate is totally fine with it. I like devin, and he has had roommates who were much less supportive of him than I have been. Should I just deal? Is there another solution I'm not thinking of? would really appreciate some help here.