You are not a homosexual man, you're a heterosexual woman without tits.
Its funny honestly, a lot of straight guys are genuinely soft and very sweet to their girlfriends even if you wouldn't immediately expect it, meanwhile a lot of gaydens get a major culture shock when the gay men dont act like the ones in books/comics/shows written by women.
Ofc some straight men suck but theres so many of them that its not impossible for a straight girl to find her perfect boyfriend. Imagine voluntarily sizing down your dating pool to people who almost exclusively don't want you.
In fact, when someone does want a mentally ill pooner, its a major red flag. Ive only seen other pooners, absolute creeps, straight guys desperate for pussy etc be interested. And women.
They couldve gotten their sweet book, plant & coffee loving or whatever doormat boyfriend by just being a decently attractive alt woman in the university library, and instead theyre a mutilated weirdo trying to find tru love in a very small scene mostly populated by guys who are frat bros in spirit.
Cannot forget my favourite classic where a pooner cries on the toilet at a gay sex party:
Found another one, too
I feel like the lesbian pooners are slightly less miserable in this area, because their dating pool would be tiny regardless, they just changed their specific flavour of kweer.
Instead of uglified straight girls trying to fit in with gay men who would be swimming in options otherwise.
'Some gay men like transmen' yeah but the gaydens massively ratio them so you better be passing and attractive or willing to make do with the bottom of the barrel, lmao.
And a lot of the bi men will still (subconsciously) see you and treat you like a woman rather than a fellow dude, they just wont state it.