Second baby

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DumbDude43 said:
no they arent you dumb retard
they do increase with age, but that increase is from extremely super tiny to just regular super tiny. like, 1% at 20 to 2% at 40 or something like that, that's the order of magnitude of this stuff. completely irrelevant for personal decisions like this.
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Yeah there really is not quality control when it comes to kids coming out a little “different”. I’ve met parents who should of had kids that came out normal because they did all the right things and the baby needs a machine to breath all of its life or will forever me mentally slow in some way.
 
Magical Negro said:
It's just baby rabies because her biological alarm clock is about to go off and her eggs will terminally dry up. Honestly, speaking from a strictly biological perspective, you're both too old. You odds of having a kid that is retarded or an autist are sky high. You don't want to end up in that situation.

Get a puppy instead.
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Thank you magical negro. Funnily enough the NHS gave us 1/26 odds that our first baby would have Downs (yes, they actually do that). We paid to have an extra test (NIPT) done before going ahead with the pregnancy, but that was a harrowing few weeks I can tell you.

I guess it would be even worse odds now.

And to you sick fucks who keep asking. Yes, I am White.

I love this forum.
 
Clem Fandango said:
Thank you magical negro. Funnily enough the NHS gave us 1/26 odds that our first baby would have Downs (yes, they actually do that). We paid to have an extra test (NIPT) done before going ahead with the pregnancy, but that was a harrowing few weeks I can tell you.

I guess it would be even worse odds now.

And to you sick fucks who keep asking. Yes, I am White.

I love this forum.
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As an only child, I urge you and your wife to give your son a brother/sister.
I still remember those high school summer days, when all my friends were vacationing with their families or going to concerts or whatnot while I just sat around the house alone.
I filled the loneliness with fishing from dawn to dusk (and then some more), but in this day and age, evil creatures may seek to feed on a lonely child's insecurities.
Give your son a brother/sister. Trust me; you, your wife, your son will not regret it.
 
Dude, just have the kid. What the hell else are you doing with your time? Kids are cool, even when they drive you insane. I am a big moron who wasted his 20s (don't do this, kids) and only started having kids when my wife was 36. We had 3, they're all awesome. World needs more Elite Human Capital.
 
You had a child, that already gives you more experience than 99.99% of the farms.
As far as Kiwis is concerned you're on uncharted territory buddy, good luck
 
Clem Fandango said:
My initial reaction is that I don't want to. The last couple of years have been tiring, and it seems like our son is just now starting to sleep through the night. I don't really want to go through all the hassle all over again.
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Hey, at the end of the day it's your choice. Whatever makes you a good father to your son and a good husband to your wife should be the right decision. And being a good husband doesn't mean always agreeing with what she wants. You're a man, and she married you for a reason.

We'd live a lot longer knowing we made the right decisions in life, but that rests with the gods unfortunately. Good luck.
 
You should have that second baby, man. You get to share the experience of a second child the rest of your lives and connects your hearts in a way that makes your love new again. Say yes to more things that make it about just what the two of you are building together.

I have said so many yeses to my girl. Some of it has been lustful to the point of being perverse. Much of it has been out of a love I have felt for her since the first time I really talked to her. We have been through fights and dry spells and some really hard things, but that's okay, because she is the only person I want to do it with, even if I foolishly trick myself that anyone could ever take her place in any capacity. I believe in taking the chances of a lifetime with the one you love. Have the second kid.
 
IMO if it's not two yeses, it's a no. And as an aside, I wouldn't worry about the "give your child a sibling" aspect, my sister and I can barely be in the same room without wanting to kill each other and have never been close, so being an only child would probably have suited both of us better.
 
Only children tend to be much more socially stunted. If you have the means then go for it. Ask some of your friends with kids if they even remember what it was like having an infant. Once you get past it you will forget about it. What is another few years of sleepless nights at this point? You already figured out how to do it the first time that will make this time that much easier. Better to have your own kid now then avoid it and have to adopt later.
 
SpergioLeonne said:
I have two down and my wife stabbed me in the back by getting pregnant a third time. Im ok with it though because I’m a very thin branch of a fairly old family tree.

I’m going to have to take Saturday shifts for the foreseeable future, but hey. The whole having purpose thing is nice, and my kids miss me when I’m gone.
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I have to stay away from home overnight one night a week for my work, and let me tell you when I get back and open the front door and I can smell that food is cooking in the kitchen and my little lad shouts "daddy!" and comes skittering round the corner, I feel like the richest damn man in the universe.

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Kids are awesome. I just feel like I left it a bit late. I also feel kind of frustrated that it was never emphasised to me by any of the various institutions that I passed through growing up that having kids really is the whole point of living, know what I mean? Instead the message was just get a job and live in this atomised society. I hope my son has a bunch of kids, and a lot younger than me.
 
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